I am Tim, I operate BDSM101.ICU. I am a Dom, and have been so for over a decade and a half. I won't even try to pretend that I know everything, but I know enough that educating people newly on their BDSM journey is well within my capabilities. Educating would make me an educator, and as such, I have adapted and adopted a Kink educator code of conduct listed below.
INTRODUCTION
The Kink Education Code of Conduct (KECC) establishes a code of conduct for kink educators and producers. It provides practical guidance for navigating many of the ethical dilemmas we face and creates a framework for clear communication between educators and producers.
The KECC is a roadmap for reasonable human beings, not a precise legal code. You should interpret it using good judgment and good faith, seeking always to adhere to the spirit of the code.
This is the educator version of the KECC. This code has been altered to reflect my personal work, such as removing student portions as I do not currently work with classes and students.
MODELING CONSENT
I consistently practice excellent consent in private and in public. Excellent consent is:
Verbal or written when I am teaching or playing in public. Verbal, written, or covered by a pre-existing relationship or negotiation when in private.
Fully informed, where all parties understand what is agreed to.
Expressed with explicit or enthusiastic agreement.
Consistent and continuous.
Not coerced, not forced, and free of manipulation.
PROFESSIONAL COMPETENCE
I teach within my area of expertise:
I only teach material I thoroughly understand and am capable of teaching correctly.
If I teach techniques that are contrary to commonly accepted best practices, I clearly communicate that and explain my reasons for doing so.
When teaching any topic in the domain of a particular profession—for example physical fitness, stretching and warmup, anatomy, nerves, blood play, breath play, hypnosis, trauma response, mental health, legal issues, or any kind of medical play—I explicitly explain whether:
I have relevant professional qualifications, or
I have reviewed the material I am teaching with a qualified professional, or
I am teaching my own opinion.
I respect each person’s right to choose their own risk profile:
I do not pressure anyone to perform techniques outside their risk profile.
I make it clear that students are welcome to audit any techniques they are not comfortable performing.
If I teach high-risk techniques or activities, I clearly communicate the risks involved and I encourage my students to negotiate in class before engaging in any hands-on practice.
I respect each venue’s policies about high-risk activities.
INCLUSION
I treat everyone in a respectful manner and make them feel welcome:
In both my personal and professional lives, I do not discriminate against someone because of that person's race, color, religion, sex (including gender identity, sexual orientation, sexuality, and pregnancy status), national origin, age, disability, or genetic information. I also do not retaliate against anyone because they have submitted a complaint about discrimination.
I do not intentionally do anything that creates a hostile environment for any group of people.
I apologize when something I do creates a hostile environment for any group of people.
I use correct pronouns for each person. I ask people what pronouns they use when I am not sure.
Except when teaching gender-specific topics, I present material in a gender-neutral fashion rather than assuming specific gender roles.
Whenever possible, I teach techniques that are applicable to all genders, body types, and physical abilities.
ACCOUNTABILITY
I hold myself accountable for my actions and enable the community to help hold me accountable:
I acknowledge that I am flawed and will not always succeed at applying this code of conduct to my behaviors and actions.
I respectfully and proactively seek feedback from the people I play with, the people I teach, my peers, community leaders, and others.
I acknowledge my inevitable mistakes and am receptive to others telling me when I have fallen short.
When I make a mistake I do my best to apologize, make things right, learn from the experience, and make changes to ensure the same mistakes don’t happen again.
I engage openly and honestly when addressing any reported consent issues, including participating in an accountability process with anyone who reports that I violated their consent or injured them.
I follow this code of conduct and the accountability processes of producers and organizations I work with.
I post this Code of Conduct wherever I have an online presence and explicitly state that I have voluntarily committed to following it.
I have at least one accountability contact and make their contact information available wherever I have an online presence, as well as in my class handouts. *
I do not use any kind of non-disclosure agreement or threat of legal action to prevent my partners from discussing their experiences with me.
PROFESSIONAL CONDUCT
I am a professional:
I represent myself honestly, giving complete answers to all questions during the booking process.
I provide complete and accurate information about my experience and qualifications.
I am clear and up-front about my expectations regarding logistics and compensation.
I show up on time and prepared.
I understand my conduct reflects on the venues that hire me and behave in a professional and responsible fashion while working.
DISCLOSURE AND PRIVACY
I proactively provide producers with complete and accurate information about:
Any consent incidents I have caused or been accused of
Any injuries I have caused or been accused of
Any accountability processes I have been the focus of When disclosing information to producers or in public, I am careful to protect the privacy of anyone I may have harmed.
I respect other people’s right to freely discuss their experiences with me:
I never pressure anyone to keep quiet about their experience with me, nor do I ask my partners to refrain from discussing their experiences with me or others.
I do not retaliate against anyone for sharing their concerns about me with others, either directly or via third parties.
I respect everyone’s right to hold private discussions about educators and venues:
I do not ask anyone to share private information with me, nor will I look at information that should not have been shared with me.
I do not harass, challenge, or question anyone who shares information about me in a private forum.
* I am working on fulfilling this one, and will be actively shared once I do have someone I feel is capable of fulfilling the accountability point of contact for me.














