Jasleen Kaur

[thedilliwalakid]

To all the people in India who were applying for college in Delhi University this year, I'm so sorry.

I'm sorry our education system is so pathetically structured.

For people that don't know, Delhi University is considered one of the best universities in the entire country and everyone applies here. But this year, the cut off went upto 100 FUCKING PERCENTAGE which is basically saying that people who scored an astonishing score of a 96-97 won't even be considered.

So according to our esteemed educational government, if you're not scoring a perfect score of a 100, you're not worthy of a good college and it's literally just saying a big FUCK YOU to the students.

It's so stupid and pointless because high school marks don't even matter once you graduate. And to judge an entire career of a student on the basis of academic excellence has always been disheartening for me. Because if you're not good in science and the conventional subjects, you're not good enough to have a good future for yourself.

And it's so so fucked up.

[profoundthoughts1801]

As someone living in Delhi 100% cut off Is not new thing and also not only this year thing...it happens every year..and is happening from a long time.. and As someone who is in third year of college I can say yes it creates lots of pressure on students to get good grades in order to get admission in good college that too in your preferred subjects. And also if you are in general category then again you have to grind harder then SC, ST, OBC people. And I have taken admission in IPU that Indraprastha University which is private university but it carries similar value as of DU (Delhi University). But people's first preference is always DU. And if they are unable to get admission then they come to IPU. And 2 years ago, while I was standing in the que of getting admission this girl came to me and said she wanted to take admission in English honers and she has got 93% and she has participated in extra curricular activities too but she is unable to get admission in DU without any qota.. and I have faced that situation myself as well. Indian education system does need to be restructured and also apart from our education system Indian parents too need to change thier mindset of pressuring thier children's to score good grades. And always giving preference to fields like science and commerce streams because only this field can give thier children a nice job and a sane life... and considering arts as a field of taboo. Considering that a child only takes arts because he/she has got less grades, oo please I have seen 98% scoring children in arts field because they have passion for arts and some of those students parents have respected thier choice and some students have been in this stream irrespective of their parents will. I have seen a lot of young children having mental pressure from their families to score well and not only well, but also choose the field that their families want and sideline thier passion because according to them passion can't give you good amount of money and it's not something suitable you should opt for..like seriously!!

[profoundthoughts1801]

Be unapologetically yourself

Written by : Jasleen kaur

Whenever, someone says “Be yourself” what is the first thing that approaches your mind? According to me, be yourself is a sentence in itself with or without full stop. For me, the first word that I think about this sentence is “acceptance”. Accepting yourself for the way you are, with all of your flaws. It doesn’t matter whether you are fat or skinny; black or white; if you can accept yourself then you are being you. According to a recent study, over 90% of girls are dissatisfied with their bodies and for the boys the data is 18%. I want to say that, while growing up we have always looked upon our elders or fashion icons or our role models for measuring ideal beauty standards because they were “perfect” for us. For girls they have always seen their icons wearing tons of make-up and being skinny. That’s why this mentality got embedded in their minds that if they have to make an impression in front of others they have to wear make-up and be as slim as possible. Because skinny is considered glamorous in the fashion world and that’s why most girls get harsh on themselves. They starve themselves up so that they can be like them. I just want to say that you need to know that even our icons are not flawless. Recently, Bollywood diva named Sonam Kapoor shared a powerful message via Instagram post. She said that no celebrity wakes up with flawless skin not even Beyonce. She also mentioned in her post that before every public appearance she has to spend 90-minutes on makeup chair where three or six people work on her hair and makeup and professional touches up her nails. She also said that, she wakes up at 6 am every day and spends 90- minutes in the gym and it’s someone’s full-time job to decide what she can or cannot eat. After all of that, if she still doesn’t look “flawless” enough, there are generous servings of Photoshop. She also mentioned that it takes an army of people, a lot of money, and an incredible amount of time to make a female celebrity look the way she does when people see her. It isn’t realistic, and it isn’t anything to aspire to. Aspire to confidence. Aspire to feel pretty and carefree and happy, without needing to look any specific way.

So, I think that it is very much important for the parents nowadays, to fill their child with positivism regarding their self- image. Make your child feel confident in their skin. Make your child believe that he/she is enough the way that they are and that they don’t need any outer material to cover themselves up with. Make them believe beauty always lies inside our hearts and outer appearance is secondary. And same is for boys; they see that their favorite icon in good shape and want to be like them and when they find any flaw in them they get disheartened. This is for every parent out there, please make sure that your child doesn’t feel insecure about themselves. Next time if you see anyone gazing with yearning eyes at a freckle-free, shiny-haired, or well-shaped actor on a magazine cover, tell them that they are beautiful. Praise them. Don’t let them grow up believing that they are flawed. Thank you:)

[profoundthoughts1801]

FEMINISM AND PATRIARCHY

Written by: Jasleen Kaur 

According to me feminism, in itself is quite sensitive subjective. Feminism is a word that represents equality, freedom, and right of choice. We have come so far now, but still, there are so many small-minded people out there, who make our society a living- hell. There are lots of stereotypes that survive in the air that we breathe. Still, somehow, Gender roles are categorized. Like men’s are always considered as Bread-earners and women are considered as home-makers. There are lots of women out there who have braked this stereotype. Let's take a recent example, prime minister of Finland is a woman named Sanna Marin, who is the mother of one daughter and is handling an entire country. Whenever we are talking about women's rights, we should never forget that patriarchy has affected men and women equally. Men are always told from their childhood that they have to act strong as they are considered as the head of the family. They can’t be emotionally vulnerable as it is somehow, considered as their weakness. But I want to ask why? Why they have to always suppress their emotions, after all, they are also humans born with a heart that has feelings. I want to ask why is that so, that boys can’t like the pink color? They say its too feminine. I want to ask this question that, who are we to categorize something as feminine or manly. From early childhood, society embeds this mentality in girl's minds that she has to be a home-maker that’s why a girl is always given kitchen set to play with. Girls are given dolls to play, because of its feminine. And boys are always given bat- ball to play. I want to ask, what if a boy wants to play with a doll and vice-versa? The same is with carrier options. If a girl wants to be an engineer, then she is stopped from that because it is considered a field job by our so-called society and that’s why she has to choose another profession. I want to say to all women’s out there be who you want to be. Don’t listen to anyone. Do what your heart says is right, and follow that path. And as for boys, you can be emotionally vulnerable, as I think crying is very manly. It shows that you are courageous enough to admit that you were hurt. Manhood is not defined by isolating yourself from all types of emotions and showing off in the society whenever you are with a girl. It is when you treat people with kindness and respect and let yourself feel whatever you want to feel. As I think, if we can't cry openly then we can't smile openly. So, don't be afraid and stand up for yourself as well as your fellow mates who are suffering from any type of social Injustice. 

Thank you:)