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Do you have any advice about websites to get dildos and buttplugs? I live in Bible Town and sex shops are outlawed. ;(

The web tends to be the best place. I find the item I want, then I check around to see who has the cheapest price AND from reputable online stores. Sometimes I order direct from the manufacturer if I can’t find the right size for an item. For baby bear’s buttplug, I couldn’t find anyone that had a small Pure Plug in stock, so I called up njoy and they had me the correct size in two days.

My best advice is to buy quality products. There are a lot of shitty products out there and in the early days (before the web), I spent a lot of money on really crappy items. Back then it was damn near impossible to get quality stuff. I was kinda stuck with whatever the local porn shop sold, all of it was high priced junk.

Here is a list of websites I think are good sources for sex toys…

Eden Fantasys

Extreme Restraints

JT’s Stockroom

Liberator

Corset Deal

As for manufacturers, here are the ones I like

Glass Dildos - Don Wands

Glass Dildos - Asstroknots

Vibrators - Evolved

Steel Buttplugs - njoy

Floggers - Jacks Floggers

Floggers/Restraints - Strict Leather

If you are in a pinch, you can always make a cheap cane/riding crop by using a cheap graphite golf club shaft (try to get one for irons instead of a driver) and a golf club grip. Any golf store will have those in stock.

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Condoms are only 98% effective when used correctly.

Sugar can cause infections in the vagina. This means things like chocolate sauce, honey, and lubricants with glycerin can be harmful.

Having sex with an intoxicated person is legally rape in most US states, even if the person verbally consents. In the eyes of the law, drugs and alcohol impair your ability to consent to sex.

Unprotected anal sex is the most dangerous sex act when it comes to spreading STIs.

Not everyone can climax from oral sex or even likes oral sex. Don’t assume—ask your partner what they want!

Condoms expire! Check the date on the wrapper. Also, storing them in wallets is not a good idea (see #8)

If someone with a vagina has unprotected anal sex, semen can drip down into the vagina and pose a (slight, but still real) risk for pregnancy.

Do not keep condoms in your wallet. The friction and heat exposure of keeping them there can make them ineffective. Keep them somewhere cool, dry, and out of sunlight.

You should be tested for STIs with each new partner you have. Annual appointments are not enough protection if you have multiple partners in that time.

Having anal sex does not lead to a gaping asshole unless your partner is literally an elephant.

Sex with elephants is illegal. Don’t do that.

Masturbating while wearing a condom can help people with penises get used to wearing them before sex.

Penis size does not define your worth. It is not the be-all, end-all factor for most people.

In fact, lots of people with large penises have trouble having sex without hurting their partner since the average vagina size is 6”-8” when aroused (it’s only 3”-4” when not aroused!).

Your first time will almost definitely not be your best time. That’s okay, I promise.

Herpes and pubic lice can still infect you if a condom is used if testicles come in contact with a vuvla.

Only one out of three people can orgasm from receiving vaginal penetration alone. You’re not broken.

People with penises can orgasm without ejaculating.

The muscles in a vagina can be abnormally tense and cause intense pain when penetrated with a toy, penis, or tampon. This is called vaginismus and treatment for this includes relaxation therapy and using medical rods to help the muscles relax.

The number of sexual partners you have does not define you. This rule applies to all genders.

A diet of lots of dairy and meat can cause ejaculate to taste bad. Fruits that are very sweet (like pineapple) help combat this for some people. However, due to body chemistry, medications, and other factors, it might not always do the trick.

Dental dams make oral sex with someone with a vulva safer. They are thin sheets of latex and can be home-made by cutting the ends off a condom and slitting it lengthwise to make a alternative option if you don’t have access to dental dams.

The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings in it. That’s twice that of a penis! So, go gently until encouraged to do otherwise.

Sex does not have to stop when someone ejaculates. Remove any condoms or clean up any mess, and keep going until everyone is satisfied!

Communication is the number one factor to a better, healthier sex life.

The hymen is not a bone, and does not break. It is a membrane layer that stretches. It can tear, which can lead to pain and bleeding. However, sex for the first time (or ever!) should never hurt. Go slower and focus on foreplay to increase natural lubrication.

Sexuality is fluid for a lot of people. Don’t worry about labels until you’re sure in your sexual and romantic interests. Explore freely and worry about terms later.

Orgasms release hormones that are natural pain-killers. This is why some menstruating people masturbate when they have cramps, because the body naturally reduces pain after an orgasm.

The hormones released also account for why some people cry or get very emotional after an intense orgasm. It’s totally normal.

There are limitless kinks in the world and so long as they are safe and consensual, there is nothing wrong with them.

Medications and mental health disorders can mess with your sex drive. Talk to your doctor if your sex drive has suddenly increased or decreased after starting a medication—there may be alternatives.

There is nothing “un-manly” or “gay” about enjoying anal play. Most men who try anal enjoy a little sensation in that area. People with penises also have a p-spot (prostate) and can have intense orgasms through anal penetration.

Always use lubrication generously to avoid vaginal or anal tearing.

Urinating after sex can reduce the risk of a UTI in people with vaginas.

Enjoying casual sex does not make you a bad person if you are up-front with your intentions and don’t maliciously seek to hurt others.

Condoms come in multiple sizes! It should never be loose or painfully tight.

Being sex-positive does not mean that everyone needs to enjoy sex. It simply promotes the happiness and sexual exploration (or non-exploration) of others.

Porn is not an educational guide to sex.

Certain positions feel better than others. Switch it up and find out what works for you and your partner(s).

Condoms are more likely to break if you don’t leave a reservoir tip for ejaculate.

Labia are often asymmetrical. Your long/uneven/poofy/dark labia are beautiful and there is nothing wrong with your body.

Up to 80% of people with a vagina can squirt with either g-spot or clitoral stimulation.

Drug store pregnancy tests are just as effective as brand name ones. In some cases, they’re even MORE effective.

Elevating your butt with pillows can make missionary sex easier for those of us with a big tummy or thick thighs.

Plan B does not work on people over a certain weight (160-175lbs).

There are safe alternatives to condoms or oral contraceptives. Talk to your doctor about your options.

Sex toys can open up a whole new world to folks willing to explore.

Orgasms can be highly psychological. Most people can’t climax when they’re upset or distracted.

Birth control can cause people to miss periods or spot in between periods.

Sex doesn’t have to be gentle if you don’t want it to be. There are healthy ways to explore rough sex or BDSM.

xx SF

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BDSM can turn out to be one expensive hobby/lifestyle. With the cost of toys, lingerie, gear, and furniture, the cost really adds up and can take a toll on the budget of college students and those who aren’t as well off as we’d like to be. However, there are some very cheap alternatives to expensive play and some free forms of kink you can take part in, as well as some DIY projects.

Impact

Paddles, whips, floggers, canes, and crops all fall under this category of kink, which can all be pricey depending on the material you’re interested in. Leather is common, but can be on the more expensive end when you get a well-made toy. Cheap alternative work well for beginners, though.

Paddles

Wooden spoons.

Hairbrushes.

Leather belts.

Bath brushes.

Ping pong paddles.

Rulers/yard sticks.

Canes

Decorative bamboo (real bamboo, though, not the fake kind).

Dowels from arts and craft stores or home improvement stores.

Very thin copper piping.

Whips/Floggers

Homemade Gimp (plastic strings) whips.

Homemade leather floggers with scrap leather from clothing or leather strings from a leather supply store.

For a more extreme and slightly nerdy flogger, you can fold a bunch of Ethernet cables over and tape around the folds to make a handle. This type of flogger has a bite to it!

Duct tape flogger.

Temperature Play

Temperature play is basically free if you have ice trays and/or a freezer. It’s something not a lot of people get into when they’re starting out with kink, but it can be really exciting to the right person.

Ice, Ice, Baby: Take a bowl or ice cubes to bed and tease your partner by rubbing them over the neck, chest, stomach, and genitals. There is bound to be lots of squirming and moaning if they enjoy the cool sensations. Blindfold them for an added element of surprise.

Ice Branding: I posted a full guide on this here. Check it out if you’re into semi-permanent marks and like numbingly cold sensations with little to moderate amounts of pain.

Ice Dildos: This little project is fun for those hot summer days! Take a condom and fill it to size with water, tying off the end. Around the condom, wrap an old paper towel roll to keep the shape of the condom while it freezes and tape it shut. Freeze overnight and then remove the condom and run it under warm water. You’re set to play!

If you’re into more advanced ice dildo-making, use rubber bands or tape to create different shapes and textures on the dildo.

Wax Play: Candles are super cheap at discount stores like the Christmas Tree Shop or dollar stores. Aim for white, unscented candles. You also want to get sticks—not tea lights. The tea light wax burns at a low temperature but also heats up the metal base and can burn the Dominant in the process! Full guide here.

Roleplay

Roleplay is generally a free kink, but for those who like to dress the part or use props, it can get expensive.

Check out stores like Goodwill, Savers, and local thrift shops for clothing. You can usually snag barely used to new clothes for a fraction of the price at these places. While I don’t suggest lingerie at these locations, things like business-wear for secretary/boss play or school uniforms for student/teacher play should be easy to find.

For other types of roleplay, check these locations just before or after Halloween, as they usually carry lots of costumes and accessories for cheap prices.

Bondage

Rope is pretty cheap, and an awesome way to start some bondage play. There are endless possibilities with rope, especially in large quantities. Save money by purchasing it at a home improvement store instead of sex shops or you can be paracord rope and safety scissors at very low prices in some military thrift shops.

Don’t waste money on books for references. If money is tight, head to YouTube and look up free videos on how to do specific ties. Search for the “The Knotty Boys” if you want some good starter material.

Internal Sex Toys

Money may be tight, but my advice here is never to settle for unsafe internal toys. Never buy jelly, rubber, or TPR toys. Spare yourself the infection and save up for a glass or silicone toy. If you really need a cheaper option, opt for hard, no-porous plastic. However, I assure you the difference in glass or silicone is worth the extra saving.

If you already own toys of an unsafe material, you need to use a condom with them or throw them out. Materials like TPR and rubber hold in bacteria and grow it, no matter how much you clean them. Materials like jelly do the same thing, but also break down and release toxins that are unsafe for your body.

Keep in mind that if you’re toy shopping at Edenfantasys, the code V2V entered at checkout where it says “partner codes” will get you 15% off everything in your cart and has no expiration date so keep the code and share all you’d like for savings.

xx SF

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Managing decreasing libido in D/S

Since I started my bipolar medication about 11 days ago, after an initial spike in my libido, I’ve been experiencing a decrease in my libido. I haven’t been able to become fully erect and have little to no interest in sex at all. There’s probably two reasons for it: stress combined with medication. Stress at work is always a factor for a man in his functionality, and it always effects my performance.

We had some amazing sessions one after the other for almost a week before we just kinda stopped cold turkey and reverted to conversations and talking. We’ve touched on subjects ranging from psychology, to mental states, to discussing our roles. We’ve talked about the future, the past, the present and have spent the same amount of time with each other minus the sex and that in itself seems to be great therapy for my current condition.

One of the most under-valued and least discussed aspects of D/S is conversations and dialogue. Sharing of ideas, interests, experiences, hobbies. Sharing things like music, and art. Learning new facts about each other’s lives. I used this opportunity to get even closer to bound and get deeper into her mind and feeling state. It’s an emotional time for both of us due to things going on in our lives.

No way in hell is it ok to ever over-look the impact of external circumstances on a man or woman’s sexual libido. They do play a factor. Loss of interest in one aspect of the relationship is not to be equated with a loss of interest in the relationship itself. As I’ve asserted many times before, D/S is not just about sex. Sex is about everything else - in the sense that everything about the relationship climaxes to a wonderful sexual experience. If all, some, or even few of the factors that contribute to healthy sex are off (and they may be so because of external factors) then it is ok to put sex on the back-burner till those circumstances are taken care of.

Life does get in the way of sex, but lack of sex should not get in the way of a relationship. It’s the downtime that can be used to plan for the next time when the libido is up. Because based on experience, decreased libido is typically temporary not permanent. I don’t know the medical science behind it, but if a loss of libido seems longer than what is typical (for me, it’s usually a week), then by all means seek help / counselling.

Some of the things I’ve been doing that have helped are:

1. Stick to my interests and hobbies

2. Start eating even healthier (veggies and salads for the most part)

3. Fix my sleep timings

4. Not forced myself to have sex, or think about it to avoid potential performance failure and therefore performance anxiety which would make things worse.

5. Kept the communication lines open and constantly telling bound about my decreased libido

Overall, communication with your partner is key in restoring balance. There may be some unresolved issues within the relationship that could be a contributing factor, but those issues cannot be resolved without adequate communication.

My conversations with bound have been about everything except sex recently, and having put it out of mind for some time has made it easier for me to start getting back into the mode. She’s been extremely patient and understanding. I’ve been sharing bits and pieces of information about the potential impacts of my condition, and she’s been keeping notes so that I can show my doctor in my next therapy session.

I will get through this. And bound has been so helpful that I have grown even closer to her in love, respect and admiration.

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30 Days of Kink - Day 25

Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?

Only within the community. The only people that know of my kinks are those that are in the lifestyle. Society is no where mature enough to behave responsibly with reality. Hell, we can’t even convince the U.S. Congress that science is real.

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Anal Sex - An Owner's Manual

This post grows out of a conversation I had about introducing anal sex successfully into a relationship. It’s written from the perspective of a heterosexual man who has never had a cock in his ass so I stand willing to be corrected or elaborated upon. If anyone has any tips/suggestions of their own, please add them to the bottom of the post.

Thank you, H.g.

1. There has never been a realistic portrayal of anal sex in porn ever.

This is rule number one for a reason. Most men I know grew up with, and take far too many of their cues about sex from, porn. For more on this subject see my early post, Porn is not Sex. Essentially, when it comes to anal sex take everything you’ve ever seen in a porn and throw it out the window.

There are multiple reasons why, but the most important of them is this: women in porn who are going to do an anal scene prep extensively beforehand so that they’re ready when the camera starts rolling. If you take a porn scene approach with someone who hasn’t prepped beforehand, you are going to wind up with a very, very angry woman on your hands.

I can’t count the number of women that I’ve met who have written anal sex off because of a horrible first experience. Don’t be her horrible first experience. Don’t be a porn star about it.

2. Lube, Lube, Lube

I hope that’s self-explanatory, but in case it is not may I also say, lube.

3. Go at Her Pace

There will be a lot of stopping and starting. If she says “stop” or “can we hold still for a minute” then stop and hold still for two minutes. Kiss her, caress her, touch her.

4. The Space Program

Treat anal sex like you’re John Glenn. First time, you may be going into space but you’re probably not staying up there very long. Think of it as a test run just to see if it is feasible. It took the US a decade to get to the moon - it will most likely take you several attempts before she is comfortable being “fucked.”

First couple times - be prepared to call it a night prematurely. Just accept it ahead of time and be pleasantly surprised if things move ahead of schedule.

5. Tension

She’s most likely going to be tense the first few times she does it. Tension is a killer in sex. It takes a person out of it physically and mentally, and more to the point causes her to tense up an already tight area of her body. Her mind may want to do it, but her body may have other ideas.

The tension may come from a couple of sources:

It Hurts. How much will vary person to person, but it will hurt and pain causes tension.

Fear. You’ve seen porn. She’s seen porn. She knows you want to go at it hard. She is placing all her trust in you that you won’t until she’s ready. Every time you get impatient, or push in when she’s asked you to hold still makes her tense. Can you blame her?

It is awkward. A cock moving around in your ass can make you feel like you need to, or worse are going number two. Going number two on your partner is a mortifying concept for most of us. It takes some getting used to, and early on it is going to make her tense until she is confident that it isn’t going to happen.

6. Breathe

Staying relaxed while something painful/pleasurable is happening to your body is hard, but open mouthed breathing helps. Keep an eye on her, and remind her gently - it will be painful at first and often times we inhale sharply and hold our breaths when something is painful (think about getting a shot at the doctor for example). She may forget to start again, or breathe shallowly. Deep breaths help.

7. The Sphincter is a muscle

Important idea here. I often hear talk of women worried about getting “stretched out.” As in she will be loose “back there” afterwards. That’s not really how the body works. The sphincter is a muscle, and like all muscles if you exercise it will become more limber and flexible. You wouldn’t go to yoga and worry that your arms/legs were going to become all “stretched out.” Think of anal sex as yoga for your ass.

8. Prep

If you find you like anal sex and want to enjoy anal sex then prep for it. Buy a butt plug or three. If you think you’ll be having anal sex that night then insert one for a spell. Work up to one that is analogous to the size of your partner’s cock.

If you’re worried about the mess then douche ahead of time. There are several easy to use kits available on Amazon.

9.The Mess (see also: Santorum)

There will be some mess, and it’s never “her mess” - it is always “our mess.” Critical semantic difference. It may have come out of her body, but the only reason it did is because you put your cock in there. To repeat: there will be some mess. Get over it or don’t stick your cock in someone’s ass.

10. Sex then Dinner

A gay friend of mine pointed this out to me. Anal Sex is like swimming - probably best not to do it right after a big meal. Think about it.

11. Clitoral Stimulation

I’ve known women for whom clitoral stimulation can help relax/distract them as they are easing into anal sex. I’ve know women who find it distracting in a bad way. This is a conversation to have with your partner.

12. Her Ass and Her Pussy

Nothing that has been inside her ass should make contact with her pussy. Nothing. This is another place where porn is bad information. In porn, actors go back and forth between rectum and pussy like they’re interchangeable. Bad idea.

Naturally, the rectum is full of bacteria that has the potential to cause an infection. Vaginal sex after anal sex is a terrible idea - it transfers those bacteria to her pussy, which will cause all kinds of painful vaginal and urinary tract infections.

13. Not for Everyone

Even after all that, anal sex isn’t for everyone. Be aware that she may never be comfortable with it, or only on special occasions when she’s in that mood.

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How to make a girl squirt

There are many steps which describe the process about how to make a girl squirt, but all is needed are fingers and oral job. The best advice is to try with exploration in different things, different numbers of fingers, different parts of her pussy and ass. Most important is to be innovative and inventive.

Surely, some of the best fingering comes in conjunction with oral, but there is a little secret that gives to any women best orgasm of her life.

Here are step by step instructions how to make a girl squirt:

You can start by performing oral on her inner thighs, clitoris and labia especially, to start getting her relaxed and wet. You must continually suck and lick the clitoris throughout the duration of the whole oral act, because oral increases power, pleasure and increases chances of female ejaculating orgasm.

With the hand you write with, take two fingers closest to your thumb (pointer and middle finger) and make them wet with her pussy juice or with your mouth. The most important thing is to make sure your nails are trimmed and not sharp, because you could hurt her.

Slide those two fingers in, with the fingerprint part of the fingers facing up (nails down), slide them in firmly but slowly, as far as they will go without using too much pressure. If she is really tight you may need to start with one, and if there is a lot of wetness but resistance, you may need to tease and taste her pussy some more. Once you get those fingers in, tease her inner walls slowly with the pads of your fingers, and get her even more juicy. When you think that she is ready to have the orgasm of her life, you may begin:

Now you will maneuver your fingers to find her g-spot. Yes, it exists, and yes, every woman has one. Slide your fingers in about 2 inches, UP, and then BACK towards the front of the pussy (like you’re going up behind her clitty). Her g-spot is actually a patch of her inner walls which is on the FRONT INNER WALL of her pussy, above the hole itself. So, in, up, and back towards the entrance. You should feel, on that wall, a very rough patch of skin rougher than the rest of her smooth inner pussy. You’ve found it. Congratulations.

By making a beckoning motion with your two fingers (a come hither, bending fingers motion), you should be able to pull the fingerprint/pad part of the tips of your two fingers against that spot. Try it. Pull back against it with your two fingers and press a little. Tease it, stimulate it with your fingers. Make her feel good. She should be squirming and breathing very heavily by now.

As you start to rhythmically tap/press/pull your fingertips against the g-spot, she should start getting wetter. If you’re doing it right, and she’s comfortable with it, you’ll start to hear squelching, sponge-like sounds. The g-spot is like a sponge, it contains a lot of liquid, and feels rough. Keep pressing your fingers against it, over and over, rhythmically, with the same kind of rhythm as if you were sliding your cock in and out of her pussy.

As she starts to get wetter, and enjoy it more, start doing it harder. The more she thrashes from side to side, the harder you do it. Eventually, you can replace the tapping/poking of the g-spot with an outright speed-sliding of those two fingers in and out of her hole. Do it faster and faster, maintain the rhythm, but increase the force. Even when you’re slamming them straight in and out of her hole, try and maintain an upward, outward force with the fingertips, so you’re still pressing up against that g-spot even as you’re slamming her with your fingers with reckless abandon.

Through all of this, she should be squelching, squirming and OBVIOUSLY loving it. If she’s not, you should stop. If she says it hurts (especially if she says it more than once, you might want to stop or at LEAST slow down or not do it so hard. Make sure she’s always wet, not dry for any period of time.

Now here’s the crucial part. When she gets close to ejaculation, she will say that she needs to pee. SHE DOES NOT NEED TO PEE. It’s just a temporary sensation that will pass, but you have to make sure she knows about it beforehand, and you have to make sure she does not stop you, and you do not desist in your slamming. Hold her legs apart with the other hand, if you have to. You can even use your head or knees or whatever to hold her legs open, but make sure she stays relatively still (or she might get hurt on your fingers) and that you KEEP GOING. In fact, when she needs to pee, that’s when you should start doing it harder, cause orgasm is around the corner.

10-50 seconds after the pee sensation begins, she will start to cum. When she does, DON’T STOP. Just do it harder and harder and harder, pressuring the g-spot upwards all the while. Now she should start to ejaculate. She’ll scream, and her pussy will start shooting clear (transparent), odorless liquid all over the place. There could be a lot of it, it might soak you completely and soak the sheets and everything around her, so make sure you’re prepared.

I guarantee you, if she’s never had one before, the squirting orgasm will be the best orgasm of her life. In my experience, 97% of women are capable of having them, and in certain circumstances, I think it’s more like 99.9%. If you want her to ejaculate in great volumes, have her drink lots of water before you do it, and stay well hydrated. Once she’s finished squirting, SHE CAN SQUIRT AGAIN. Especially if you didn’t do it too hard, and still got her to cum, you can usually start all over, and between one and ten minutes later, she’ll be squirting again. Usually, you have to do it harder each time. My record is seven. The girl that squirted seven times in 45 minutes passed out for 6 hours afterward (it’s physically exhausting and dehydrating) so be careful if you try more than 2 at once.

Most girls pass out after a couple of them. This can make a girl fall in love and at the very least want to fuck your brains out, so use it wisely rather than to your advantage. Don’t take advantage of people using this. If you do it wrong, or if she’s on her period, she might bleed. That’s usually okay, but just make sure you don’t hurt her, and you stop if she’s screaming with pain, rather than pleasure.

You should always have a safe word with your partner, and you should always make sure she knows what you intend to do and that she’s fine with it. Enjoy this, and I hope it works out for you; I hope it works out for HER, even more so. If it does well, just wait and see. I’m jealous of women because of g-spot orgasms! There’s NO male equivalent it’s just absolute ecstasy, nothing less. Remember there are at least fifty ways to make a woman cum (actually lots more) and at least five different types of orgasms so don’t limit yourselves to this whether it works or not.

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Hey so I'm not quite sure how to word this stuff so I apologize if I'm unknowingly rude or stupid. But I've never been in a bdsm relationship. I've always been attracted to portions of the culture but never had a really D/s relationship. But i I recently found a lady that I am so freaking in to its ridiculous. She told me today that she's kindve into the dd/lg environment. Do you have any tips on how to gauge how into it she is? Or what I should do? Anything helps! Also first tumblr post >.>

First thing you need to do is STUDY up on BDSM. I have a great resource with hundreds of articles. Read them all.

Once you do that, you will be able to judge that for yourself how deep she is into the lifestyle.

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Why are littles better to you? Why don't you just want a vanilla gf?

Reasons Why Littles Are Better:

This List is Incomplete. You can Help Wikipedia by Expanding it.

Sweeter

Cuddlier

100% more likely to watch Disney movies with you

Boopable noses

Strokable/Tuggable hair

They don’t judge you for sleeping with a teddy

They are forever finding new ways to make you proud

They need you

You need them

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How do you dominate your sub discreetly in public?

Good question, Shades.

So here’s an important thing to understand: We talk a lot about consent in this lifestyle (and I devoted 12,000+ words to it in on a piece I wrote for this blog) but one thing that’s important for anyone who’s new to this to understand is that vanilla people haven’t consented to anything we do.

And that means that when we’re out in public, we can’t be doing things that we would do in private. So, as Shades here alludes to, it’s important to find ways to be discreet.

She still calls me Sir, and when no one is within earshot, I still call her cunt/slut.

She allows me to lead, always. That might mean simple things like opening doors, pulling out chairs, doing the driving, or telling her where we’re going. It might mean ordering her meal for her. But within our dynamic, she’s given me the authority to make those decisions, and I do.

Sometimes we’ll do sexy things. Whether that’s having her wear her ben wa balls, or a plug, or a load of my cum in her panties - or not wear panties at all. Sometimes we’ll find a deserted corner of a parking garage, or an empty stairwell late at night for a quick face-fucking. Sometimes I’ll rub her cunt under the tablecloth. Whatever it is, it’s always out of sight from anyone who would object.

There are also times when I’ll give her “the look,” and she knows that when she gets that, it’s time to stop being sassy/bratty/whiny/whatever. She’s a very well behaved cunt, and never makes me get beyond that, which I absolutely love about her.

Sometimes if I’m confident no one is looking I’ll gently, but firmly, grab her by the nape of the neck, turn her head towards me, and give her a kiss. Anytime I grab her that way she gets a little damp.

I used to have relationships with more defined protocol for how submissives were expected to behave both in public and private or at events, but honestly, the older I’ve gotten and the more comfortable I’ve become in my dominance, the less need for these things I have in my life. Some dominants may want a greater degree of control - and this is where personal preference comes into play - but I’ve grown to prefer fluidity over rigidity.

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