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grantaere

I’d suffer Hell if you’d tell me What you’d to me tonight

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“…and I told him, is you crazy?!”

toroynah-deactivated20170609

“n den what happened” im in love

blackboyjoy

“They got water” 😂😂

thelovelybones124-deactivated20

Lmfaoo she said “no”

godessoflovee

Her little shocked expression for sea world 😍😍😍

filmnoirsbian

Here’s a fun idea: just stop comparing every piece of lgbt media. Love, Simon was never going to live up to Moonlight. Carol isn’t supposed to be as thrilling as The Handmaiden. Gay people deserve a variety of content lmao this whole “lets compare every gay movie to Brokeback Mountain” is boring as hell. Straight people dont compare She’s All That to Shawshank Redemption. Not every gay movie has to be worth a fucking oscar

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The nuclear family is probably the greatest enabler of child abuse, ever.

Putting two people in complete control of another person (who is particularly vulnerable and has few legal rights) and then having no oversight for the whole arrangement is the absolute worst idea.

Families are garbage.

libertarirynn-deactivated202006

Hahaha wtf

yourownpetard

I wouldn’t even know where to start with this. omg.

amal-wa-ahlam

OP, what would you propose as an alternative to families?

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communal child raising

less isolated familial structures in general

children being made aware of how they should and shouldn’t be treated

Some form of child protection services that don’t just believe the parents and assume a child is lying when they report abuse

more legal and counselling services made available to children

tracyalexander-deactivated20201

I don’t get people that are like “lol, what? that’s so weird, lets laugh at the very notion that traditional families are abusive”.

itsfridaybutimstillaro-deactiva

communal child raising is the traditional family. 70-100 years ago 4 generations lived together in the same house, having 4 grandparents, 6 aunts and 15 cousins around every day was normal.

queeranarchism

Things that should be mentioned:

- These communities are not necessarily connected by an biological ties. In a lot of these multigenerational ‘families’, including people in the family who are not relatives or married into the family is totally normal. This has always created a lot more space to support people without families, support people who do now want to partner up and to create communities in which couples who can not have children (like some queer couples but not all & other couples too) can be a part of child raising.

- Having a lot more young people around often means young people learn from each other. In many cultures young people form a non-hierarchial group that learns together and can do a great deal without adult supervision.

The nuclear family doesn’t just facilitate abuse, it facilitates hierarchy. It’s a training school for obedience to authority.

Now, which system would push such a training school strongly so it could get docile obedient citizens? Which system whould push the nuclear family.

I’m not saying it’s capitalism but it’s capitalism.

And then there’s the fact that the 2 parent, nuclear family can be most easily pushed into the pattern where one adult works an extremely exhausting job many hours a day that leaves that adult hardly capable of doing anything else, while the other adult takes on all the other things that adult would otherwise have done: care for children, clean the living space, prepare food, prepare clean clothing, etc. for free. What we know as traditional gender roles.

This way capitalism gets one intensely loyal worker who feels ‘responsible’ for ‘supporting a family’ while all the work to keep that worker going is done for free by an unpaid worker in the home.

And, you know, communities need a lot less stuff. A community of 50 can do just fine with one or two hammers. 25 nuclear families need 25 hammers. The nuclear family demands a huge amount of commodity purchasing.

dollsahoy

(hooboy that last point)

heartmindalignedspirit

Damn. What a breakdown…

ladyshinga

Communal living is fantastic for the disabled and elderly folks, as well.

pizzaback-deactivated20201011

its really funny that there’s a trend of conservatives who seem to think that “liberal arts” involves literally teaching college kids to be liberals. like wut

pizzaback-deactivated20201011

recipe: use a liberal amount of salt

conservatives: liberals want our salt now?? fucking spicecucks

siobhanblank-deactivated2019011

“estrogen makes you more likely to adopt left wing politics”

…there are…centrist and right wing cis women, you can’t…hormones don’t… I…

the-descolada

ideology replacement therapy

kirbyhatespedos

Whether gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, etc. if you’re any kind of pedophile, which does in fact include all flavors of “MAP,” you’re not part of the LGBT+ community.

The LGBT+ community is already collectively stigmatized as child molesters and child rapists. The stigma is not justified and never should be. The LGBT+ community is full of children, and it always will be. Pedophiles put the lives, well-being, and safety of children at risk every moment of every day they continue to exist, and they don’t belong here. They do not belong in a community that is meant to protect and embrace the parts of us that really are harmless, unchangeable, and beautiful. Wanting to abuse, molest, and rape minors is not harmless, it is not unchangeable, and it is most certainly not beautiful. To be proud of a part of yourself that puts the most innocent of human lives in active danger is disgusting, vile, and dangerous. Pedophiles have never belonged in the LGBT+ community, do not currently belong in the LGBT+ community, and never will belong in the LGBT+ community.

questioning.

I don’t post much here anymore but when I have lately it seems like its just ranty long posts but here it goes.

I saw love, Simon when it was released in the theaters and it was and will always be a great movie. at the time of its release, I was (what I thought) pretty confident with how I felt about my sexuality.

the last two or so months, I can lay in bed for hours on end with my mind constantly running about what my feelings are regarding my sexuality. rewatching love Simon today made me even more aware of how hard its been struggling with this recently.

i don’t have a good relationship with my mom and I'm not good talking my feelings out verbally so I tend to keep them bottled up inside. so instead, I had a journal that I would write in and leave on her bed whenever I had written in it and then she would write back and leave it on my bed.

I wrote her one day, telling her what I first realized about my sexuality and it was her response back that really made me completely shut down and not want to tell her anything anymore. she told me that it was a just a phase and that I was confused, I’d come to realize that later.

no one tells straight people this. no one tells them they’re confused or that they’ll change their mind later. I guess maybe she was right about the confused part but not in the way she meant.

my best friend knows. at work, there are a few people who know. but no one in my family knows.

I think my final point in this is just, how is this fair? that we have to sit back and hide how we feel because some people just don't get it or think its a sin? that its fair for us to have to come out but our heterosexual peers just get to ride through life no questions asked.

#questioning #struggling #lgbt

Long time, no see.

***TW: Abuse***

The first thing I’ve posted on here in who knows how long.

I need to vent.

My brother graduated high school tonight as the valedictorian of his class.

I should be happy for him, right?

I am, I guess, but my feelings of happiness for him are being completely overshadowed.

Why?

Because he asked our sperm donor (dad, I guess?) to come to his graduation.

And even more of a shocker, he actually showed up.

I suppose I could give the few (or none) of you who are reading this some backstory.

Growing up, he was an awful person. He drank a lot. Sat in the living room night after night drinking can after can of beer. To this day, I still can’t stand to look at Busch beer. He sat and got drunk while leaving it up to my mom to do everything.

We used to have an air hockey table in our basement. We also had a couple of fish tanks and frogs that we kept in the basement. (This sucks that this is one of the standout moments in my childhood.) One day, I was maybe nine or ten years old, my brother and I were playing air hockey while *he* was feeding the fish and the frogs. We were hitting the plastic puck back and forth and all of a sudden the plastic paddle that you hit it with slipped from my grip and went across the table, hitting my brother on the knuckles.

Naturally, him being a child of 6 or 7 years old, he started to cry. What happened next? My head ended up slammed against the concrete block that makes up the walls of the basement, followed by “I know you did that on purpose, don’t act like you’re so innocent!!!” I’m sure there were a few other choice words thrown in there that I can’t remember entirely.

After that, I ran up to my bedroom and sat on my bed crying, scared. Then he came up again and slammed my head against my bedroom wall. Repeated the same words again.

Flash forward a few years later. My mom divorced *him* when I was in sixth grade. I remember it clear as day, my brother and I got picked up by my aunt who lives just down the street. After a while, we walked back up the road, and I heard yelling, screaming and glass breaking. They were fighting. Lightswitch covers were broken by fists being thrown, glasses were breaking from being hurled at each other, and a lot of other damage.

The divorce was final in 2009.

And then in 2011, I spent five days in the children’s hospital psychiatric unit after trying to kill myself.

There were more reasons behind my suicide attempt than just what happened with *him* that aren’t relevant to this post. But damn, if it wasn’t a big contributing factor, I don’t know what was.

*He* came to visit while I was in the hospital. I felt numb. I didn’t want to be there, and when someone tried to talk to me, I completely shut down.

Flash forward again to March 2014. It was my 17th birthday, and at this point, I hadn’t heard from *him* for nearly a year. I had come to terms that I had a useless sperm donor who would rather spend his time doing drugs, getting drunk and living with his loser girlfriend that he cheated on my mom with, (another factor in the divorce.) I got an email. An EMAIL. From *him*

“Hey, just wanted to say happy birthday, call me sometime please Love you Your dad”

Almost a whole year went by, and he had the nerve to send me an email. On my birthday.

I wasn’t going to reply. But I decided that I at least wanted to give him a piece of what I was feeling.

I told him that I expected that he would end down the same path his brother went. Overdosed on drugs and ended up six feet under. If he wasn’t willing to give up the garbage he was putting into himself or get help, then I wasn’t willing to have a relationship with him.

I never got a response and it has been years since he has said more than Hi to me. I checked out emotionally or so I thought. He didn’t come to see me graduate.

As of today, he is no longer with the girlfriend he cheated on my mom with. He lives with my aunt. Has a great paying job making more than $60K a year, but pays her no rent. Squanders his money away on gambling and whatever he is putting into his body.

So to say that I’m upset is an understatement. It’s not fair that you check out of someone’s life for so long and jump in when it’s convenient for you.

The part about all of this that has me so frustrated is that he sat there saying “how fast it went by” I suppose it would for you since you sat back and literally did nothing to help.

Vent over now, I just needed to let that all go.

To those of you who are in the same situations, I feel for you and am with you in solidarity. And I’m here to talk if you ever need to.

#deadbeat dad #tw abuse #vent #advice please #sorry for being so ranty #it has just been an absolutely shitty evening

princessyndrome

wow i legit never thought i would have to do this but i live with my mom and we were recently threatened with potential eviction. we literally have nowhere else to go and no one to turn to after we just moved this past month and a half. she also has heart failure and im worried abt the stress this is putting on her. we’re accepting donations at https://youcaring.com/204102 so if yall could reblog this, even if you arent able to help, it is grately appreciated 😩💖

princessyndrome

and my paypal is [email protected] if thats easier…anything y’all can do, im so thankful for. i wouldnt do this if it wasnt necessary.

ptx-avriel

Hey hi hello followers, I haven’t been on here or reblogged anything in a long long time but if any of you have anything you can spare, this is my best friend and her mom and their landlord is being completely and totally unreasonable with them so anything you can donate will help them out greatly.

thelastmemeera

What does it mean to be a billionaire?

So there’s been a lot of discussion floating around regarding billionaires and society, and I’ve noticed that most people have no idea what a billion dollars is for practical purposes - people tend to think of it as a vague, nebulous concept of “a lot of money” rather than something concrete you can wrap your head around. This is understandable, considering 1) a billion of anything is really hard to visualize and 2) the average person has no real reference point for an amount of money that large. So I’m going to try to break it down for everyone:

Okay, so imagine you have a billion dollars. What can you actually buy with that?

This is a mega mansion that will have an Imax cinema, a bowling alley, and a spa when it’s fully complete. It costs around 4.6 million dollars.

Now let’s buy one of these in every country in Europe - that’s 50 mansions you now own. So how are you going to travel between all your many homes?

This is a Bugatti Veyron Super Sport, the fastest street-legal car in the world. It has a maximum speed of a face-melting 254 mph and can go from 0 to 60 mph in 2.5 seconds. It costs around 2.5 million dollars.

Let’s buy a dozen of them - you know, in case you total a few of them racing around the highway. But maybe a sports car is still to slow for you:

This is an Embraer Lineage 1000. It’s private jet that can seat up to 19 passengers, and we’re going to buy it for 53 million dollars.

How about a boat? The Tatoosh is a 303 ft private yacht, meaning it’s longer than a football field. We’ll take it for 369 million dollars.

Do you like art? Just for fun let’s buy Monet’s most expensive painting ($90 million) Van Gogh’s most expensive painting ($151 million), and this monstrosity, which is made with 8,601 diamonds and costs 65 million dollars.

Now that we’ve gone on our ludicrous and absurdly wasteful shopping spree, how much money do we have leftover? About 12 million dollars, which is almost an order of magnitude more than the average American with a bachelors degree or higher earns in a lifetime ($1.8 million). So if you for whatever reason decided to buy the 50 houses, 12 sports cars, plane, yacht, art pieces etc. and immediately set them all on fire, you would still have enough cash leftover so you never would have to work again if you so chose. This is what it means to be a billionaire.

But we’re not done yet.

The richest person in the world is Bill Gates, with a net worth of 86 billion dollars. If he liquidated his assets, what could he buy?

Well, for starters, the Burj Khalifa - the tallest man-made structure in the world at 2,722 feet tall, costing around 1.5 billion dollars.

The Large Hadron Collider, the world’s biggest and most advanced particle accelerator for 9 billion dollars.

The Hubble Space Telescope for 10 billion dollars (including 20 years of operating costs).

The Three Gorges Dam, the largest power station in the world, more than a mile wide.

And to top it all off, a fleet of five Nimitz-class aircraft carriers, the largest military vessels ever built for around 8.9 billion dollars each. If you look at the picture very closely you can see the people standing on it for reference.

If Bill Gates bought all of this, he would still have around 2.3 billion dollars leftover. That’s enough to go on the billionaire shopping spree I described above twice over (so 100 mansions, 24 sports cars etc.) and still have hundreds of millions of dollars in the bank when it’s all said and done.

But we’re not done yet.

Currently, it’s estimated that there are 2,043 billionaires alive today, with a combined net worth of around 7.67 trillion dollars.

This is Russia, the largest country in the world, extending more than six and a half million square miles, with a population of more than 144 million people. The United Kingdom could fit inside Russia 70 times.

In 2016 Russia’s gross domestic product was about 1.28 trillion dollars. This means that if the two thousand and some odd richest people in the world - less than half of 0.1% of 0.1% of the Earth’s population - liquidated and pooled their assets together, they could buy every single product and service made in Russia for almost 6 years.

So yeah, make of that what you will.

left-reminders

Let this sink in next time someone tells you capitalism allocates wealth according to contribution. It’s empty ideology meant to shield billionaires from a revolutionary redistribution of wealth and power.

Down with capitalism