So, this will probably be my least popular post ever, but here we go.
One thing I’ve noticed since coming here is that a lot of littles—most commonly with diaper boys, but certainly not exclusively—can really struggle to find relationships. This kink seems to be lonely in general, but especially for some more intense of you.
And as much as I thought it was probably because it can be a fairly unusual kink to integrate with vanilla partners, I don’t think that’s the biggest issue.
This may sound mean and unfair, but to be honest, it feels like a lot of you are your own worst enemy. At least on tumblr, so many of you cannot seem to respect the few mommies on here, sending aggressive DMs about your diapers and treating them like they exist to make you squirmy. And don’t get me started on the wannabe Daddy’s, you’re just as bad.
And even those who understand that women, Mommies especially, don’t exist to be their kink dispenser, often struggle with expecting Mommy to be the primary mover of the relationship.
This will sound especially bad, though I know there is far more variance than what I’m about to say. So do not take this in the most negative light.
But littles are inherently the most selfish subs that exist. They want to have their caregiver check and change their diapers, handle their emotions, control their bedtimes, food, and often sex lives.
Caregivers are expected to handle the emotional labor, most of the physical labor, and create a world where the little gets to enjoy pure bliss.
And that is not inherently bad. It’s not that Caregivers don’t want to give all that for the ones they care about!
The problem is when littles come to expect and demand that—and don’t believe they need to bring anything else to the relationship.
Certainly there are some caregivers that prefer to handle all that, but most people want to be in a relationship first with kink play second.
Based on what I’ve seen, I think too many diaper boys think primarily of what a Mommy/Daddy can do for them. They want a Mommy/Daddy first and relationship second. It doesn’t seem to me many think of what thy are bringing to the caregiver except a soggy diaper and demands.
Ask most women in this kink and they will tell you horror stories of diaper boys sending gross and demanding messages. I know that is not all of you—it’s not even most of you—but it still happens too often.
And even those who wouldn’t ever do that, just wait so their Mommy/Daddy in Shining Armor to find them and make all their diaper dreams come true.
I don’t know, I want everyone to be happy. But the longer I’m here the more I think so much of the loneliness isn’t necessary.
I know that I’m going to get a ton of “well, that’s not me!” and “Well, actually!” Most will not engage in what I’m saying or understand that I don’t think this applies to a ton of you.
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