This might have been asked a hundred times already but how do you reduce or if possible completely get rid of insecurity in relationships? I mean we can't really control anyone other than ourselves...but how do you cope when your affection are not reciprocated? or how do you cope when you are no longer cared for? What do you think a healthy relationship is like? Thanks yogi! :)
"Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other." ~ The Dalai Lama
Insecurity is not in the relationship. It is in your mind and thoughts. It is in your approach.
Love because you are loving. Love is not a business of reciprocation. It is not an exchange. You never feel someone else’s love, you only feel your own. But when you are insecure, then someone else’s love can change that. It can make you feel secure. However, then your sense of peace and wholeness, which is your sanity, is built upon a security that is given to you by changeful circumstances. Anything that threatens to change those circumstances will also effect your sanity.
Security is not the antidote for insecurity any more than happiness is the antidote for depression. Someone else’s love is not the answer to your problems. This doesn’t mean someone else’s love isn’t helpful and transformative, but to wait for that to happen or to have a lack of reciprocation become a burden suggests that it’s time to shift your focus.
The sun doesn’t give its light. It simply radiates.
We think of love in terms of its demonstrations. Doing things for each other, saying things to each other, giving things to each other. Yet we get so caught up in the expressions and desiring to be on the receiving end of those gifts that we forget the whole foundation upon which it is all built: love!
Being in touch with and radiating love will inspire you to be affectionate, caring, and giving. But it is in the way a flower is giving of its fragrance. Reciprocation simply isn’t even a factor.
A poverty mentality is trying to get love and happiness from others.
An abundant mentality is recognizing the love and happiness that overflows within, and allowing that to spill into the lives of those around you.
The question is: do you want to enjoy love as your very nature or would you rather try to satisfy your ego by seeking love’s expressions from others?
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