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ok, this is in bad taste, but nothing worth getting the whole fandom up in arms about.
Please don’t excuse rape jokes. For the love of everything, please, do not excuse rape jokes.
Don’t put “rape joke” in quotations as if it’s hypothetical, imaginary, and in people’s heads. It’s real, and its consequences are also painfully real. Joking about rape plays a huge part in oppressing women, acquitting rapists, re-victimizing victims and leaving them to deal with what happened to them ALONE in a society that would rather trivialize their pain than acknowledge it. The same society that would rather laugh at them than believe them. The same society that would rather blame them than tell men not to rape.
I know it’s a hard pill to swallow that we’re all knees-deep in a society that fosters rapists, but the faster you realize it, the faster you can fight against it. And trust me, you want to fight against it, because whoever you are, wherever you are — this effects you. Stop spreading this bullshit about it being “not a big deal”, stand next to your sisters and speak up.
TRIGGER WARNING FOR RAPE CULTURE
Finally, someone with common sense. I lost so much respect for Brendon when I heard this, you guys don’t even know.
This isnt even necessarily a rape joke. He is just saying that he is going to have sex with everyone whether they like it or not (why wouldnt they?). You guys are getting offended over nothing.
Well, if someone in that audience doesn’t like sex and Brendon’s going to have sex with them anyway, that’s rape. LOGIC.
And NO, we’re not ‘getting offended over nothing’. We’re getting offended because it’s people like you, and people all around this fandom, saying that Brendon’s RAPE JOKE is ‘NOTHING’ that legitimate rape and allow it to happen. It’s for people like you that 3 year olds and 70 year olds alike get raped. Kids at school, at their owm homes and on the streets get raped. It’s a sad reality some of us are trying to change by speaking up, not only against rapists but against people that, like you, and, I hate to say it, like Brendon, allow this to happen. Just because I like a certain band doesn’t mean I’m going to agree with everything they say, and this is something I don’t agree with. I am not getting offended ‘over nothing’. I am getting offended because he used something people struggle against to get fans to scream. That’s never, EVER right.
I’m reblogging again just to say ^this oh my god, it’s not okay to brush it off because Brendon is hot and you would fuck him, that doesn’t go for everyone.
oh my goodness. this is what i think: i’m not saying rape jokes are funny or excusable. BUT THIS IS BRENDON URIE. do you actually think he thinks before he speaks? he crosses boundaries ALL THE TIME. he says lots of stuff HE DOES NOT MEAN. i’m not saying what he did was right, but i do think that you need to take into account who said the comment in question when you pass your judgment.
This is the ONLY time I will address this on this blog. It is NEVER okay to let something like this go by. It doesn’t matter if he meant it or not. He said it. It is what it is. He needs to realize that he is responsible for everything he says. It doesn’t matter that he’s “Brendon Urie, lead singer of Panic! at the Disco”. He shouldn’t have said it. He shouldn’t say things that he “doesn’t mean”. That doesn’t excuse this or make it less than it is.
Sexual assault/rape is serious and I’m sure that there are plenty of Panic! fans who struggle with what’s left after they are assaulted (including myself) and work hard at coming to terms with/overcoming nightmares and memories from their experiences.
Please just take a moment and try to put yourself in the shoes of someone who has been a victim/survivor of sexual assault. Imagine you go to a show to have fun/relax/enjoy yourself and you’re triggered because the lead singer of the band you love said something he “ didn’t mean”. It is NOT okay. It doesn’t matter who said it. It will still NEVER be okay to say something like this. It shows a lack of thought and respect for fans.
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