Tim Daly talked to Elisa Hallerman about his sobriety on her podcast GROWING DOWN THROUGH SOULBRIETY
He talks about Téa again (without mentionning her - at 12’16). 😍 - Video below 👇🏻
Tim : It’s interesting because one of the realizations I had, maybe 10 years ago, was that my vulnerability was really accessible to me and I was really able to share with other people to about 85%. I had to call bullshit on myself. ‘Okay, you’re being very vulnerable and open and revealing of your inner self… up to a point but are you really digging down to, you know, the growing down work as you say, of being utterly honest with yourself and with other people?’ Looking just really carefully and coming through all this stuff that needs to be teased apart in order to feel like you have real intimacy with other people and with yourself.
Elisa : Can you talk about the instance that that happened for you […] or is it too private?
Tim: I think I can talk about it. I was living in LA and I was working and I was relatively recently divorced and I thought everything was fine. I had a girlfriend and everything was okay. I had sort of resigned myself to a certain kind of life and I don’t think I was being totally honest with myself about where I was emotionally. Anyway, and then I met a woman [laugh], who you know quite well. She saw me. She saw me. And it was scary and wonderful and she said ‘I want it all, I want you to be really honest. Give it all. I might not like all of it, if I don’t, I’ll tell you.’ To be honest I had tried that before in other relationships and when I started getting really honest the person in the relationship was like ‘How f****** dare you?’ So I felt as if I was being set up, like a trap. Be totally honest and once you’re honest I will kill you.
With this woman, she was cleared-eyed and looked at me and said ‘I don’t like that. That’s really too bad and I love you. And I want to be with you.’ So she- I think that something that we all, whether it’s conscious or subconscious, want is to be seen, really seen, for who we are. And be able to be honest about the shitty part of me made it so much easier for me to give all the good part of me to this woman. And as I said that was 30 years into sobriety.
Where I give myself credit is that I didn’t close myself off to it. I didn’t get to the place where I was like ‘I’m done’.