Queer Crip Intersex

she/her - multiply-disabled, bi, gnc intersex woman - trans rights

[covid-safer-hotties]

[queercripintersex]

It's 2026 and you should still be wearing a mask! We've already lost SO MANY queer and disabled elders to AIDS and covid. Stop the spread. Wear masks to pride!

[userfish]

this pride month we’re all going to be radically pro transgender. or else.

[userfish]

hey so this means radically pro ALL transgender. don’t put limitations on this. all trans people are radically accepted here.

[queercripintersex]

Little pride PSA

Thanks to pride month, general purpose rainbow content has overwhelmed the #intersex feed.

I do genuinely love to see intersex included in pride!!! It's appreciated that we're being included!!! Perisex allies: keep including us!!!

I just wish I could see the intersex specific content more easily.

So reminder to intersex folks we also have the #actually intersex tag for finding each other a bit easier. I recommend using both it and the intersex tag for taking about intersex specific content! Questioners are welcome on the tag!

[kristina100000]

incredible picture found on the interwebs i had to share with everypony

[this-is-varsexism-transphobia]

is there an intersex inclusive term or phrase that describes people who spent their childhood being treaated/perceived as girls?

Socially imposed gender - socially imposed as female and socially imposed as male - are the main terms I see used. They don't rely on AGAB (ie; an intersex person AMAB can be socially imposed as female), and they can be used in both intersex and perisex contexts (ie; instead of saying "trans men AFAB" [which is incorrect usage of AGAB language], you'd say "trans men socially imposed as female" because that includes trans men of any AGAB that were treated as girls by society.)

Some people criticize them for sounding close to "socialized as male/female" which has problematic TERF connections, but I think the important part of the term socially imposed gender is the *imposed* part. As in, the person isn't being "socialized" as a gender, but rather, society is *imposing* a gender upon them against their consent.

And someone's socially imposed gender can change. A person once socially imposed as female can later be socially imposed as male, or both simultaneously, or neither. That's known as inconsistent socially imposed gender (ISIG). People who have only one socially imposed gender in their life are known as CSIG (consistent socially imposed gender.)

In the case of ISIG, the inconsistency can be due to being reassigned a gender due to intersexuality, being reassigned a gender due to a cultural gender, transitioning, detransitioning, etc.

[oxfrnk]

don’t!!! fake!!!! your!!!! interests!!!! to!!!! make!!!! someone!!!! like!!!!! you!!!!

[the-last-d-boy]

don’t!!! bury!!!! your!!!! interests!!! to!!!!! make!!!! someone!!!! like!!!!! you!!!!

[wind-at-your-back]

don’t!!! go!!! wasting!!! your!!! emotion!!! lay!!! all!!! your!!! love!!! on!!! me!!!

[yandere-angela]

i think it's important to acknowledge that the reason why mastercard/visa has such a stranglehold on american society is because cash is not the main form of payment in the usa. the predominance of card has effectively privatized currency

in japan, one of the reasons why dlsite and other similar websites are able to just remove visa as a payment option instead of changing any of their merchandise (aside from the fact that visa doesn't have a monopoly here) is because cash payments for online transactions remain an option. even if you don't have a jcb credit card or paypay or whatever, you can still pay for your online purchases using cash by taking your barcode to a convenience store, and you can do this for essentially every online vendor, meaning credit card companies can't just impose their moral judgments on your purchases with much repercussion

[goth-princess-gwennie]

How does that barcode system work? I've never heard of something like that.

[yandere-angela]

1. you add whatever porn games or movies or books you want to your cart and go to checkout

2. you select cash payment at conbini as your payment method

3. youre emailed a barcode that you take to the conbini

4. you show it to the cashier, they scan it, and you pay what you owe. note that the cashier does not see what youre buying

and the transaction is complete

[seimsisk]

in Brazil we have Pix, a form of payment that is incredibly easy and free to make from any bank to any bank, usually done by mobile app, and so online payments are being done more and more by pix. it was created only a few years ago and it caught on like fire because its cheaper than cards (since you don't have to pay visa or Mastercard to use it)

This year trump is pressuring Brazil to destroy Pix. It won't happen, of course, but the very idea that a foreign country can try to pressure us into making all our financial transactions through companies from their country pisses me off. Pix is superior to credit cards in every single way, but right now I'm just glad we still have payment options even when credit card companies are being obtuse. pity the US doesn't have anything like that, and so we are all subject to bullying by credit card companies

[thatsonemorbidcorvid]

‘Heroic actions are a natural tendency’: why bystander apathy is a myth

Modern research shows the public work together selflessly in an emergency, motivated by a strong impulse to help

“The notion that people panic and run screaming for the exits is a Hollywood fiction,” said Prof Stephen Reicher, an expert in group behaviour at the University of St Andrews.

“Characteristically, people stay and help each other,” he said. “We found this during the 7/7 attacks on the underground and the 1999 attack on the Admiral Duncan pub in London, where people looked after each other even though they feared other bombs.

“In our own research on the Leytonstone tube attack in 2015, there was an amazing level of spontaneous coordination by bystanders: some directed others away from danger. Some distracted the attacker. Some confronted the attacker. Each was able to act because of the others. Heroism was a feature of the group, not just the individual,” he added.

Prof Clifford Stott, a specialist in the psychology of crowds and group identity at Keele University, agreed. Modern research, he said, showed “bystander apathy” was a myth. Instead, strangers often work together in emergency situations with highly sophisticated unity.”

[cephalopodvictorious]

Bystander apathy is a myth invented by the New York Times to cover up that the police were called by several residents of the building, but the cops refused to act. The cops then told the Times that 38 people just watched her die (a seemingly arbitrary number and a physical impossibility based on where the attacks occurred), and the Times ran with it. In fact, Kitty was alive when the cops got there, and was being held and comforted by one of her friends who lived in the building because one of the people who saw her get attacked from across the street called her friend to go get her. Because people care.

The Bystander Effect Started from a Lie

You have just been attacked. How likely is it that someone will come to your help? If you remember the infamous case of Kitty Genovese in 19

[moosepower]

I will always re-blog this. The story of Kitty Genovese’s murder has gone down in history as a story about everyone watching it happen and doing nothing and none of the story is true.

[coward2coward]

transgender intersex people - you are not less intersex for going on hrt. you are not less transgender for being intersex. you are still intersex if hrt lessens or removes your symptoms. having a large clit expected of you for taking testosterone does not erase your history of clitoromegaly. being on testosterone or estrogen doesnt erase your history of hypoestrogenism/hypoandrogenism. going on testosterone and having your symptoms go away doesnt erase your history of PCOS. going on estrogen doesnt erase your history of AIS/PAIS/MAIS even if your route of treatment lessens or removes your intersex symptoms, it is still a part of you, and a part to be proud of 💛💜💛

[theloverislost]

as we are rapidly approaching pride month, here’s an obligatory reminder!

AROMANTIC PEOPLE

ASEXUAL PEOPLE

AND AROACE PEOPLE

ALL BELONG IN THE LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY

I WILL REMOVE EVERY BONE IN YOUR BODY IF YOU SAY OTHERWISE

[queercripintersex]

I'ma "yes and" this and also reminder:

INTERSEX PEOPLE

ALSO BELONG IN THE LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY

Because I see way too many people implying that cishet is the opposite of LGBTQ+! There are cis het asexuals, cis het aromatics, and cis het intersex people!

The opposite of queer is non-queer!

Remember there are cishet members in the community!

[baddywronglegs]

If you are young and fit and healthy, get a hobby you can do while ill. Something that brings you joy and you can still enjoy while laid out with flu or whatever.

Future you will thank you for not pinning your ability to enjoy and get any sense of achievement on having the base energy levels of a teenager.

Sure, you might still be dancing and playing tennis and running marathons in your 80s. Or you might be walking short distances with a cane between breath stops in your 30s, and really glad past-you found those breath stops were so much more enjoyable if you brought a pencil and some paper to draw the pigeons you were sharing a bench with.

[naamahdarling]

This is such a good idea and I can't believe I've never seen anybody say anything about it before. I recommend jigsaw puzzles and cross stitch. I thought my eyesight was too bad for cross stitch but then I bought a pair of cheap 3x magnification glasses from Walmart and they're even more helpful than my prescription pair.

[uncle-fruity]

Shout out to trans people who don't want to be exactly like their cis counterparts.

Shout out to trans people who don't have cis counterparts.

Shout out to multigender trans people who still identify with their original assigned gender alongside other genders.

Shout out to intersex people who identify as trans despite their gender lining up with the gender they were originally assigned at birth due to their bodies feeling incongruous with their gender identity or to being reassigned a different gender later in their childhood/life.

None of this makes any of you less trans. Your gender experience is yours to define and if you say you're trans, you are trans. It's okay and, in fact, pretty normal to have a complicated relationship with gender.

There is no meaningful way to "fake" being trans. Anyone telling you that you aren't a "real" trans person isn't someone you need to take seriously. People who gatekeep and enforce strict gender rules are not the arbiters on who gets to be trans or not. Most of the time, they're just miserable and want you to be miserable with them. You don't have to prove anything to them or anyone else. You only have to find peace and understanding for yourself.

[intersexfairy]

@ intersex community i have a question about self-diagnosis: when is it appropriate and most accurate?

i'll put my story under the cut:

(TL;DR: I have EDS, and symptoms of CAH from birth (hypospadias), and hormone test results that are indicative but i dont remember the details, so I have no idea if I actually have it. the doctors keep fucking up the diagnostic process)

i dont know what my variation is, but judging by the fact i have vestibulovaginal hypospadias apparently, it has to be one with intersex traits that developed during fetal development, not just in puberty - unless my mom has "severe" PMOS and it androgenized me as a fetus in womb.

but i fit CAH-X syndrome (or just N or SV CAH) to a T, pretty much. precocious puberty. early body hair development. irregular and eventually absent periods. hypospadias. clitoromegaly. partial labial fusion (mild but still uncomfortable/painful). labial hypertrophy. frequently borderline/low sodium levels, dysautonomia, generalized hypermobility (fits much of both hEDS and clEDS criteria). prediabetes. large hips/bust. short stature.

testing revealed both abnormal estrogen-related and androgen-related hormones. i dont remember much more than that. i think i had an ACTH stimulation test too. all i remember is the endo listing off the hormones that were elevated and not even having heard of some of them before. which... increases the likelihood one of them was 17-OHP.

ive just been saying "CAH or PMOS" and "hyperandrogenism" but that's a mouthful. i dont think PMOS is the most likely here. CAH fits more, and all i need is a gene test and a redo of the entire workup.

but finding a doctor who will do that is hard. the trans health endo i saw a while ago did a baseline 17-OHP test randomly. results were normal, so she said we didnt need to do the ACTH stimulation (literally not true. you need to do that. bc not everyone with CAH has abnormal baseline 17-OHP). the first trans health endo i saw just refused entirely and said i had PCOS. without doing any tests.

so. wtf do i do? it feels like these doctors dont want me to have CAH =/

[queercripintersex]

Personally I'd love for the intersex community to move away from diagnosis being the primary way we talk about different kinds of intersex.

Certainly diagnosis matters for getting access to appropriate medical care.

But I think it'd just be easier within the community to talk more about phenotypes given that so few of us actually get access to appropriate genetic testing.

The trend in medicine has been to define intersex variations (and disabilities) more and more around genotypes but it's not translating until clinical care. They just keep throwing intersex (and disabled) people into broad phenotypic buckets like PMOS (and POTS) that are *supposed* to be diagnoses of exclusion but like... I never hear of people actually getting "standard of care" differential diagnoses investigated.

I think it's pretty reasonable for people to self-diagnose when doctors can't be arsed to diagnose. Maybe it helps get access to appropriate care.

Anyway I want some bigger buckets for our community to have to help people connect based on similar phenotypes. Like an umbrella term for PMOS+CAH. An umbrella term for MRKH+CAIS+Swyer+etc. And so on. So that there's less pressure on people to figure out exactly which kind they are.

[weepingpussywillowtree-deactiva]

sometimes I think about how far we still have to go with consent

my worst relatives try to sneak meat or meat products into my food despite the fact that I'm a vegetarian

my ex's brother gave his mother an edible without her knowledge and when she got freaked out and paranoid they laughed, and people I've told that go "yeah that's shitty but it's just weed"

when I go to the doctor and ask them to describe what they are going to do before touching me they get frustrated

when I ask a friends of a friend who is a small influencer to keep me out of frame in videos they film for social media in public they look at me like I've pissed in their cereal

idk man, we've got a long way to go.

[fuzze5]

i find it crazy how some people find it hard to grasp that consent applies to stuff outside of sex

like bro just. "hey can i __" "huh? yaeh sure" or "nah" IT TAKES LIKE MAYBE THREE SECONDS?? AND JUST MAKES EVERYTHING BETTER??

[queercripintersex]

I prefer when my spouse is clean shaven, but his body is his own and so when he grows out a beard he grows out a beard.

First time in our relationship that he grew out his beard, his mom seriously asked me why I didn't shave it off him in his sleep.

[cosmikazie]

hey remember when people said we gotta keep talking about this and then two days passed and it just went quiet. anyways

[i-suggest-transing-your-gender]

I think it's crazy that in modern day queer culture your identity is starting to matter on your genitals rather than just what you feel. I'm sorry, I didn't know I required to have a certain part to be transmasc or transfem. I didn't know being born a certain gender automatically meant that you HAD to be one trans label, and you couldn't be anything else. Back in the day, we didn't do that weird bioessential shit. It's like some of these people don't even realize how much they're parroting TERF ideology. What, you wanna check my genitals to make sure I'm not "appropriating" a gender identity??? what about people who have gender-affirming surgeries? what about intersex people? what about what's in my pants doesn't fucking matter to my gender identity at ALL??? like I genuinely want to understand what these people think this is. They just sound like every conservative lawmaker ever wanting to peep on trans people and are obsessed with their genitals. It's none of their fucking business, nor should it dictate what I identify as.

I don't have much to add but yeah, nodding

[prettiest-pride-flag]

Round 1, Match 157 — Intersex vs. Aroaceflux

Which pride flag do you prefer?

Intersex

Aroaceflux

Voting ended onMay 29

INTERSEX Definition: Intersex is a term for those born with physical sex traits that cannot be typically classified as wolffian (male) or müllerian (female). Variations may appear in a individual’s chromosomes, hormones, genitalia, gonads, secondary sex characteristics, such as phenotype, or some combination of these things. Intersex variations are observed in many animals including humans. According to the ISNA it is estimated that as many as 1.7% of individuals are born with intersex traits, however this may be an incorrect estimate, as many individuals are unknowingly intersex due to the fact that external genitalia is the only sex characteristic noticed at birth (in most cases). Intersex does not describe a specific body type but rather is an umbrella term for a broad range of variations/traits. Some intersex individuals may closely resemble one of the binary sexes, while others are closer to in between. An intersex individual may have characteristics of both the wolffian and müllerian sexes, characteristics that fall somewhere in-between wolffian and müllerian, and/or characteristics that don't fall into either. Intersex individuals may have any gender identity, including male, female, non-binary, etc. They may identify as cisgender or transgender, or possibly another gender modality such as ipsogender or ultergender, but they can use none at all or use intersex as its own modality. Intersex individuals can have any assigned gender at birth, some may be AMAB or AFAB because their variation of intersex was not noticed at birth. Others may be coercively assigned male/female at birth (CAMAB/CAFAB), meaning they had nonconsensual surgery preformed on them so their body more closely fits one of the binary sexes. In some rare cases they are AXAB. Each intersex individual has a unique relationship to their gender, assigned gender at birth, the gender they were raised as, and how that relates to their experience being intersex. Intersex is included in the LGBT+ community, though not all intersex individuals consider themself to be LGBT+ on the basis on being intersex. This is largely a personal choice based on how one's status as intersex has (or hasn't) affected their experiences. Someone who is not intersex is called dyadic, perisex, or endosex. Intersex is not an identity, but is something one is born as. Some intersex traits are identified at birth, while others may not be discovered until puberty or later in life (although, the variation was always present, just unnoticed). One cannot "transition to intersex". Dyadic individuals who desire mixed sex traits may identify as altersex. Flag creator: Morgan Carpenter (2013) Colour meanings: Yellow and purple = alternatives to the strongly-gendered colors of blue and pink. The purple circle in the middle = "wholeness and completeness" as well as "the right to be who and how we want to be."

AROACEFLUX Definition: Aroaceflux (also known as Aflux) is an orientation on the Aroace spectrum which describes someone who is both Aceflux and Aroflux. More simply, it is an orientation where one's sexual and romantic orientations fluctuate, but generally stay on the Asexual and Aromantic spectrums. These fluctuations may occur at the same time or they may be independent of each other. One's romantic and sexual orientation may or may not align or correlate with the other. This means that an Aroaceflux individual may feel very strongly Asexual and/or Aromantic at one point in the day, but could feel more strongly Allosexual and/or Alloromantic later on. These experiences can cause some Aroaceflux individuals to consider themselves more aligned with the Greysexual and/or Greyromantic spectrums. Some Aroaceflux individuals may never consider themselves to be Allosexual/Aomantic (or even Greysexual/romantic) as they may never fluctuate into orientations which experience sexual or romantic attraction (e.g. one who is only flux between apothiromantic and aegoromantic as well as apothisexual and cupiosexual.) It may overlap with Abrosexual and Abroromantic, however, someone who is Abrosexual/romantic experiences changes in what orientation of attraction they experience. Generally, for aroaceflux individuals, when or if they feel attraction, the gender(s) they're attracted to are always the same. It is only how they're attracted to them or how intensely they're attracted to them that changes. Flag creator: @aroaesflags (2018) Colour meanings: It uses the color blue to = aroace identity, similar to the Oriented Aroace flag and aroaesflags' Aroace flag.