"this character acted irrationally and i don't like it :/" people act irrationally in real life all the time. why do you want stories to be boring. "it made me uncomfortable" GOOD. learn to be uncomfortable from harmless fictional situations and perhaps you'll handle yourself better next time you're uncomfortable irl
slumps are totally normal, it's normal to feel tired. it's NOT normal though to stay in that state for a long period of time. if u find that you've been stuck in a slump for a while and wanna just get back on ur dolly life, i've got you...💬🎀
YOU DONT NEED MOTIVATION JUST MOMENTUM ;
what is that you've been putting off? is it schoolwork that u need to catch up on? maybe you want to go to the gym or do restock shopping. whatever it is, break it down into the simplest thing that u can do first.
for example if u want to go to the gym but u don't have the motivation, the simplest thing you could do is get up and put your gym clothes on. the psychology behind this is that once your gym clothes are on, our brains tend to go "well since our clothes are on we might as well go to the gym".
❤︎ do one thing for 5 minutes and that'll snowball
❤︎ momentum in productivity is an action that generates another action
same thing with schoolwork. if u have an essay you've been putting off, tell yourself to just write the heading and the first few sentences. wait five minutes and revisit it. we won't always have the motivation, but momentum will always work.
GET UP AND GET DRESSED ;
when you look good -> you feel good. i find that i literally can't be stressed when im cute. getting up and getting ready every single day gives you momentum which we talked about in the previous section, it also makes you feel so ready for the day!
taking a shower, doing your makeup and your hair even if ur not going anywhere can do wonders! it helps me think clearer and gives me momentum for my day. i like to keep things simple so i don't get overwhelmed. just a skin tint with some blush and mascara... and while im at it i do my lip combo bcuz MOMENTUM. i might as well.
MAKE A SHORT LIST OF TASKS ;
now that your all ready make a short list of tasks. start with three, if ur feeling ambitious go for 3-7 tasks. none should take u longer than 10 minutes. i recommend listing the following...
❤︎ one task to move ur body
❤︎ one task to clear ur space
❤︎ and one beauty related task
REWARD YOURSELF ;
absolutely non-negotiable. when u finish ur short list make sure to reward yourself! this helps ur brain to associate "doing things" with "good things happening after." nothing dramatic, in fact, smaller rewards work better in my experience bcuz u can do them more often.
❤︎ your favorite drink
❤︎ an episode of your favorite show
❤︎ lighting a limited edition candle
are just some examples that you can use to reward yourself! your literally training urself to chase that momentum instead of waiting on the motivation that, spoiler alert, won't come. the more you reward yourself, the easier it becomes to start next time.
moving forward is hot! and totally doable no matter how long you've been in a slump. dust yourself off, you've got this. momentum will stack and before you know it you'll have gotten so much done and feel so glittery...💬🎀
As most of you know I was a stripper for many years, after covid I switched to online sex work and now I’ve been doing onlyfans for almost the same amount of time I was stripping. So that’s kind of the biggest update I would say since my tumblr was very much a stripper account before.
Like so many others, I got on TikTok after COVID and became a little addicted. I still love it but since it’s become a bit over stimulating, I try to use it less and consume more longer form content instead. YouTube is still goated and I use Reddit now too (lol 😭) it’s actually so good though I love it, and overall disrupts my nervous system less than doomscrolling short form content. Still a big fan of TikTok though, I’ve learned more there than my entire time in public school (hello TikTok university!)
I was hardcore vegan for a while, and I still eat mostly vegan, but the restrictive aspect of it was becoming detrimental for my health and wellness. i dont go crazy over making sure everything is perfect and occasionally i have a meal with dairy or fish. It just wasn’t healthy for me to be upset with myself for what I did or didn’t eat. I try to mitigate stress where I can. I started repairing my relationship with food in 2021, and now i have a good relationship with food and eating. Always trying to remind myself that fed is best, and not skipping eating because it’s not the “perfect thing”. I’ve finally gained weight and I love it.
I focus on eating whole foods and fiber + protein. I eat mostly at home because I don’t like most restaurants and I make a lot of food from scratch.
I am no longer a bleach and tone, and I get my hair highlighted instead. RIP my bleach and tone blonde
I hated how they do nails in LA so I taught myself how to do my own nails 💅🏼 I’m proud of this one lol
I became a gamer girl! I started playing sims again and I expanded to other games as well. My favorites are fallout and baldurs gate 3. And I love me some Mario party
Mostly importantly though, my 3 cats are happy and healthy 🩷
So much growth happens between the ages of 26-30, if you let it. If you do the work. It’s not exactly easy though, letting go of the past and stepping into your future self.
I’m not the same person as I was when I was 18 and first made this account (my first big social media), not the same person since I stepped into adulthood. But a better version of myself.
Seems right to share this on a platform where I use to share a lot of things. Just know I’m the same person in a lot of good ways and an even better person in a lot more ways. I didn’t stay stuck in my previous ways of thinking or being, and I’ve gained perspective. The kind you only gain from growing older and lived experiences.
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