Wait so B finally confessed about his real age? What was your reactions when you both discussed that?? Did he tell you why he lied :c?
He was initially defensive because I mentioned how my friends prompted the search and how it was confirmed based on the address. He felt like his privacy was violated but eventually the tension went away and he was apologetic.
He said he was nervous because it was the longest and most personal conversation we had (the day I asked him out). He thought I wouldn't want to get to know him if he was older. He said it was instant regret when I mentioned how I've had a relationship with a 21 year age gap. After he said he was 31 and the conversation led up to me asking him out, he looked very pleasantly surprised and shocked. That's when I mentioned I've dated older.
I guess I couldn't catch a break and found myself attracted to another man within the same generation as E. I am not the type of person to tolerate or condone lying, however, I know he didn't have any bad intentions towards me. B has always been respectful of physical boundaries and always asked for verbal consent (even for our first kiss). I wasn't keen on entering a relationship with a similar age gap as I did with E though I have to keep in mind that at the end of the day they're both different people. I suppose I'm just still worried about the logistics of children, the odds of outliving an age gap partner, and how the age gap will present itself more once we're older.
