A true friend, is someone who gives you advise only when you ask them, or if the situation demands it, they will leave it up to you to whether take it or not, but, whatever you choose though, they will be there, getting in trouble with you or lying to cover your butt or simply there to lend u an ear or a shoulder to cry on.
And when life gives you a hard lesson, they will be there laughing with you, the best stories are not the happy memories but the ones when you where struggling but pulled through, because that's what friends are truly for, to help you make mistakes, to overcome fears and grow and define who you are as a person, but most of all, so you know you're not alone.
Nowadays, I'm sure you've noticed, boys and girls only worry about wanting to put down, outshine and outsmart one another instead of trying to find a friend to relate to, they are putting their own life on hold, wasting time on things that will do nothing for them but damage their future, it used to be that our parents raised us to think and worry about our future and life, because they knew that they wouldn't last forever and that we would be on our own, they used to teach us about morals and respect, what was important in life, not only survival of the fittest, as in, if you don't learn what you need to be able to make it in this world, then you wont make it but as in to make you a person worthy of the future.
Now, we can't seem to think beyond high school or our current romance affairs, have no clue or interest about the future, no interest on finding a passion for anything that could help us prosper in the future, our greatest fear is to end up in a job we hate but then again, if you don't try to learn anything how will you know what you want to do?
NOW, the basic life plan is either finding a rich guy that girls can marry (As if women didn't fight for your rights hard enough so that today women around the world could be independent) or maybe making a video that goes viral online and that HOPEFULLY makes you famous, do you want to be the next dumb celebrity people are making- fun off online cause they said something stupid on live TV? If you're going to be big then do it right, do you really want to leave your life to chance?
School was made to learn not just math and science but to give you the options and the resources to find something that makes you want to get up in the morning, NOT to make your life impossible, is were you have your first puppy love, where you learn the basics on how to do it right, NOT to get knocked up at 16 cause you decided to skip on health class and just because you're in love doesn't mean you're going to drop everything you're doing to dedicated every second of your life to that person, do yourself a favor and Google the meaning of 'Puppy Love' and you'll find the answers as to why you're feeling like the love you had with a certain someone faded away, How can you find someone that makes you happy if you haven't lived your life first to know WHAT makes you happy? Think about it.
The matters of the heart are very sensitive and can change our way of thinking and our personality.For Example, We all know that girls mature faster than boys, so while a girl is looking for a relationship/boyfriend boys are looking to have fun and since the hormones are acting up the only thing in their mind is sex, so we have the classic but true cliché of girl meets and falls for boy, since they both want different thing's boy breaks her heart, girl is hurt and decides to close her heart to avoid being hurt again but by doing this she ends up breaking the heart of the next boy who could have been the one she was looking for, I know, its cliché, but its true and it applies to boys too.
In the end we just end up with a bunch of girls and boys not fully letting themselves care about another person just to avoid the risk of getting hurt, which leads to meaningless sex and feelings on loneliness because you're doing an activity that is meant to be done between two people that love and care for each other enough to be able to satisfy their needs and you are yet not old enough to understand the emotions that come after such act.
Before we used to learn about sex with 'the talk' that believe it or not used to work, now we hear and learn about sex with porn and word of mouth instead of learning with someone that is either just as inexperienced as you are or with someone that cares enough to teach you what they like.
So instead of thinking about finding a boyfriend that is everything, you think, you want and need, try first to find friends that will teach you what having someones back means, to learn how to keep promises, to know what being loyal is, to celebrate your achievements and let you vent about whatever is eating at you, to talk about those things you wont share with anyone else, friends who open doors for other possibilities, people to share experiences with, friends that maybe in the long run will turn into more than just a friend.
Take the time to learn what needs to be learned to survive in this world, don't rely just on looks cause after 10 minutes of flirting and looking at each other, you're going to have to talk about something.
When i was 12, I asked my father once, when did he think it would be best for me to have a boyfriend and he said:
-”When you are able to love and take care of yourself.”
At that moment I didn't understand what he meant by that, why was, me thinking about myself, going to help me with getting a boyfriend but now I understand, if you don't love yourself then you wont let anyone worthy love you the way you should be loved, how do you expect someone to give you their heart and trust you to care for it and not break it if they see how careless you are with yourself? If you can't take the time to nurture your mind, to look out for your future, to respect yourself and demand respect, to be kind and honest, then how do you expect to find someone that does that for you? Treat others how you want to be treated, no matter how rude they are, that's their problem, not yours.
Being in love is not just sex and someone to talk to at night, being in love is meeting someone who you come to love like you love your parents, because you know that he/she will take care of you and love you even when you poop in your diapers, someone you love like a friend because you can share everything and anything that comes to mind, any idea or plan because you know they will support all your shenanigans, in the end it all depends if you have the cojones to do what needs to be done to be able to live your life the way you want it.
Life doesn't make you any promises and opportunities are bald you just gotta grasp them by the hairs.
