Graduates, honored guests, distinguished faculty, persons of interest, people of note - welcome, and congratulations. Congratulations on making it to this moment, in this place, on that particular plastic chair. For those of you who are graduating, well done - you have achieved something spectacular. For those of you who are attending to support a graduate or just because you had nothing else going on this morning, welcome, and I hope the coffee was good, not because I had anything to do with providing it but because it is a shame to have to drink bad coffee on any morning, but especially on a morning like today, when you are celebrating something. That thick black tar taste from bad coffee lingers in the back of your mouth, and it makes it impossible to really enjoy the moment or brunch after this. If it wasn’t good, be sure to get some seltzer water before you try to eat anything you want to taste. Anyway, welcome.
Graduates, commencement is normally a time when you get to glaze over and try not to fall asleep. If the graduating class is large enough you may actually be able to fall asleep, or at least check your cell phone. I hope you won’t do that this morning, because what I have to say to you this morning is incredibly important and perhaps the most valuable advice you’ll ever receive.
Most commencement addresses are boring because they focus on abstract ideas and big rallying cries. People tell you to do it, to go for it, to keep getting up when you get knocked down. They tell you a little bit about themselves and their story and encourage you that you can do it too, whatever it is, but mostly they focus on something like being true to yourself or not giving up. All of that stuff is important, sure, and probably true, but you’ve heard it before, I hope. I hope you heard it at home, or from at least one teacher, or from Mister Rogers if no one else. Why the heck did you go to art school if you didn’t hear it? This is a stupid profession to seek out if you haven’t already been given a lot of encouragement and lectures on how difficult it will be. No one says “starving engineer” or “starving accountant” - there’s a reason “starving” is always followed by “artist”, and I’m sure either your parents or grand parents or aunts and uncles or guidance counselors have already told you all about that. If not, you’re probably already wealthy - rich parents like having artistic kids and there’s no shame in that, but anyway you don’t need to hear much of that stuff because you’re going to be successful no matter what you try, because rich parents don’t let their children fail in the spectacular life-destroying live-under-a-bridge-in-winter way that others can.
Anyway, the point is that you don’t need a rallying cry. You need some straight up advice that’s practical and to the point, and here it is. Are you ready? Write this down. Go ahead: pull out your phone and make yourself a reminder or a note or something. I’ll wait. Ready? Here it is:
Invest in a good pair of headphones.
Headphones are the key to happiness. As an artist you’re going to need to block out thew world, and a good pair of headphones lets you do that with ease. As an artist you’re also going to need to look busy. Nothing makes you unavailable and busy-looking more than starring off into the distance with your headphones on, and if I’m wrong about this, at least you won’t be able to hear whoever is interrupting you.
Good headphones are essential for getting the music in, which is a way you can get the inspiration and the focus in. As an artist, your life now runs on inspiration and focus. It’s also a way you keep the world out, and as an artist, that’s something you’re going to need to do professionally from time to time. Not all the time - you’re also going to need to be a remarkably good communicator and marketer and advocate for yourself, or have someone else who is that you communicate. But when you’re not doing all that junk, you’re going to need to rock out while you paint or sculpt or wireframe or whatever, and then you’ll need some good headphones.
Whatever headphones you have now are a fine starter pair, but probably won’t cut it for long. Keep them around, sure, but get ready to get something better. Start saving up for it. A few bucks out of each paycheck. And then get some of those really fancy ones that do all the good things.
They should have the best sound around. They shouldn’t have wires, because you’re paying too much to need wires. They should connect to everything, because your music will come from different places. And they should be very, very, very big. Small headphones are great for jogging but not for doing art. You’re not an athlete. You probably never were, because those people were getting laid in high school and frustration at not getting laid is the core struggle that drives every artist into art school in the hopes that you’ll meet someone there who understands what it’s like to be ugly and thus have sex with you. Big headphones. You’re a real artist now, and this is your moment. High school was for the jocks. Life after high school is for the artists with big headphones.
Keep them on you all the time, but don’t keep them on. Wear them around your neck, visible but not distracting. It lets people know that you have something else you could turn to instead of talking to them, and it makes them feel privileged that you don’t exercise that option. Serious artists have to pick and choose how they spend their time, and everyone knows that much of it is spent in isolation doing The Work™ that makes you a Great Artist™. The headphones around your neck are a symbol of your participation in this guild and a constant reminder to everyone else that you are doing them a favor - or possibly depriving the world of great art - by talking to them. This is a key part of getting laid.
A lot more is riding on this than you think. Bad headphones lead to distraction and frustration. You’ve already got enough of that. You’ve got it in spades. And if you don’t have kids, you’ll never hear the end of it. The human race might just end of under-population, and your stupid headphone choices will be to blame.
Graduates, when you leave today you will get a diploma. You’ve got this hat and that gown. You’ve probably got a few other things. Spend the weekend looking for anything you can sell or pawn, including the cap and gown and diploma, and start saving for those headphones. You’ll thank me later. Also, get up when you’re knocked down, persevere, be true to yourself, you can do it. Congratulations on graduating.