ROCKNROLL DOMESTICITY

i sing in a rock band. i have a kickass baby boy named Auggie Grey. i work at a rad tech company. i'm a lesbian. my babydaddy delivers your mail. he's straight. my strange little family lives in portland and we're fucking killing it. 

[saraaadezzz]

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I’ve finished the first official song off of my EP ‘Ghosts’, which will be released in 2021.  This process of writing, recording and producing all of my own music has been amazing and frustrating and eye-opening. I feel like this song in particular finally cracked open a new world for me, showing me that I still have the ability to write and love music, that I only have to depend on myself instead of having to put my destiny in other people’s hands, and that I can learn new skills even in my mid 30s. 

You can download the song at my website:

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I’m excited to share my next song, as well, which is nearly finished. You’ll see it here when it is!

[saraaadezzz]

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I ended up revamping the track a little to include another part and a more bouncy bass line. It’s not perfect, but I think I’m on the right track (har har musician joke). 

I can’t decide if I want to take this into a full song or use it as a little intro to another, darker song. I’ve been really into concept albums lately, so I kind of have a hankering to make one myself. I guess we’ll see. 

[rocknrolldomesticity]

a little demo i created today, after not writing music for about a year. feeling much better. i know i need to keep making music or else i really suffer, mentally. 

[rocknrolldomesticity]

Are you a Gold Star lesbian? (Just in case you don't know what it means, a Gold Star lesbian is a lesbian that has never had sex with a guy and would never have any intentions of ever doing so)

let’s start with facts about me:

i am not what you and many other people call a ‘Gold-Star Lesbian’. i was married to a cishet male, i had a kid with said cishet male and i dated and had sex with cishet males before him. 

i AM what i call a Gold-Star Lesbian because i am a lesbian. 

that bullshit term seriously degrades all of us. we’ve been raised in such a deeply hetero-normative world that many queer women try to ‘override’ their feelings (which is what i did for years) by dating men, sleeping with men and marrying men in an attempt to be ‘normal’. 

there is no shame in that - the shame lies in the fact that we are made to believe we have to do that. 

the shame also lies in the fact that our fellow lesbian sisters feel the need to put us down about it, when we went through the same kind of hell they did when grappling with the feelings, telling others about them, coming out to our families (many of whom were husbands we truly did love, but as close friends instead of the lovers we’d hoped they’d be). 

being queer isn’t easy. let’s stop dividing ourselves into cliques and qualifications. 

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So

My girlfriend and I were getting dressed to go out and buy shit. I throw my shirt on and turn around, she turns the corner and we make eye contact. She eyes scan me, looking up and down, noticing the flannel shirt I was buttoning up. Then all of the sudden she yells “DAMNIT, I WANTED TO WEAR A FLANNEL.”

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Birb for President 2k16

[saraaadezzz]

so.

today i did a thing.

a really important thing:

i came out to my mom.

as a lesbian.

i know some of you may be thinking: what?!? but you’re married… to a dude… and have a kid…

yeah… about that…

i’ve been doing a lot of soul searching over the last year (thanks, return of saturn) and have been in therapy for a while now, figuring out who the hell i am and where the fuck i fit in.

i’ve always liked chicks, but i never realized that i was different - i just thought (yes, naively) that everyone felt this way. i thought for a while that i was bi, but in a recent epiphany, i realized that i just wasnt.

i realized that i love matthew so, so much, but not in the way other wives love their husbands (or any straight person loves or wants another straight person). and that i like and want women in ways that straight women dont.

this has been a really really difficult 6 months - i came out to matthew, we fought and cried and mourned and held each other and eventually accepted it. we became friends and then confidantes again.

i told my sister, some friends and finally today, my mother. tomorrow morning, i’m telling my dad. matthew is telling his parents in a week or so.

matthew and i are fine now - we both agree that auggie is the most important thing and that we’re gonna co-parent the shit out of him, but we also agree that our friendship is extremely important to each of us. he is one of the most important people in my life and i cant live it without him.

as of now, there’s no real timeline for anything to happen, but we’re slowly figuring out what we want to do. he doesnt know if he wants to sell the house or not and if we do sell it, we dont know when that will be. right now, we’re just taking our time and making sure that the decisions we make are the right ones for us.

so yeah. i know ive been absent with personal posts for awhile and this is a large part of the reason why i havent felt comfortable writing. i didnt want to portray a life i wasnt living. now that my life is going to be more congruent with whats in my head, i’ll be here writing lots more. welcome back to dork-mom central.

[rocknrolldomesticity]

you guys. i came out to my family a year ago. and can i tell you, those three little words are true: it gets better.

[iheartgot]

Game of Thrones cast (Maisie Williams, Sophie Turner, Natalie Dormer, Rose Leslie, and Gwendoline Christie) at the TV Guide Magazine portrait studio for Comic Con 2014

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Love!!

[rocknrolldomesticity]

heart eyes forever

[saraaadezzz]

OH. MY. GAAAAAAAAWD!!!!

YOU GUISE!!!!!

my band is on the new episode of Welcome to Night Vale!!!!!!!

I AM DYING OF EXCITE!!!!

😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

[rocknrolldomesticity]

💥😻💋☺️✨😍💖

[rocknrolldomesticity]

broad city live like whuuuuuuuut!!!! me and dead-brownie livetweeting on the big screen like ballerz!!!! and free drinks from the girls sitting next to us!!!! today hurts.

[adventuretimestuffz]

Adventure Time Sweatshirts

https://www.etsy.com/shop/SkipSweater/search?search_query=adventure+time&order=date_desc&view_type=gallery&ref=shop_search

[rocknrolldomesticity]

take all of my money. now please.

[saraaadezzz]

any portland friendos that wanna spend a friday night perusing local fashion and listening to (my) music:

COME GIVE ME YOUR LOVE.

DO IT.

[ccbroadcity]

[rocknrolldomesticity]

oh dead-brownie. 

[saraaadezzz]

♫ PDX Pop Now! 2014 Compilation

my band’s new single, Just Like My Heart, made it on the PDX Pop Now! 2014 compilation and i am super fucking pumped. over 600 tracks were submitted and 35 were chosen - feels pretty damn good!

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Watch Honey Maid’s awesome answer about the backlash they received 

[maeghaman]

so powerful

[calliopesmuse]

This is beautiful and perfect and EXACTLY as the world should be.

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[dead-brownie]

this happens more often than not

[rocknrolldomesticity]

always

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fucking rich white people laughing at how poverty is some diet they should try.

[rocknrolldomesticity]

what

the

fuck

[abigaildonaldson]

Fashion in Film: Clueless (1995)

You don’t understand, this is an Alaïa! It’s like, a totally important designer!

When Clueless hit theaters in July 1995, costume designer Mona May had no idea the impact the film would have on the fashion world. Girls everywhere adopted the closet staples of Beverly Hills teen, Cher Horowitz, including her signature plaid, mini skirts and knee socks; Karl Lagerfeld sent models down the runway clutching the same portable phones that were specially designed for the movie; and publications like Vogue and Women’s Wear Daily lauded Clueless as the fashion movie of the year.

May looked to European designers like Jean Paul Gaultier and Azzedine Alaïa to draw inspiration for the costumes, choosing to stray as far from the then-popular grunge phase by incorporating girly silhouettes and bold colors.

"I took from the trends, picking and choosing from that moment in fashion," May said. "But I didn’t want to date the movie with certain trends, which was easy to do in the ’80s and ’90s. We wanted to make it timeless, and it really stood the test of time. I can watch Clueless now and there’s still stuff we can wear.”