to the subs who have a hard time finishing,
youâre not broken. your body isnât wrong. you donât need to apologize for taking longer. for needing specific things. for not being able to cum the ânormalâ way. there is no normal way. thereâs just your way.
iâm patient. i have all the time in the world for you. i donât care if it takes five minutes or two hours. i care about you feeling good. about you feeling safe enough to even try. about you being present in your body instead of anxious in your head.
tell me what you need. if you can only finish a certain way, weâll do it that way. every single time. no judgment. no trying to âfixâ you or get you to finish differently. just giving you what works.
if you need me to say specific things, iâll say them. if you need complete silence, iâll be quiet. if you need a vibrator, weâll use one. if you need a specific position, thatâs the position weâll do. if you need me to maintain exact pressure and rhythm without changing anything, i wonât change a thing.
if you need breaks, weâll take breaks. as many as you need. we can stop. touch other parts of your body. let the intensity fade. let you catch your breath. let you reset. then start again when youâre ready.
if you need to stop completely and try again later, thatâs okay too. maybe tonight isnât the night. maybe your body isnât cooperating. maybe youâre too in your head. thatâs fine. we can try tomorrow. or next week. or whenever you want.
thereâs no pressure here. no timeline. no expectation that you have to finish at all. if you do, beautiful. i want to see that. i want to watch you fall apart. i want to feel you cum. but if you donât, equally beautiful. because this is about pleasure. about feeling good. about being present in your body. about intimacy. about trust. not about reaching some arbitrary goal.
i know youâve probably had partners who got frustrated. who made you feel bad. who gave up. who made it about them. âam i not good enough?â âam i doing something wrong?â making your bodyâs response about their ego.
your bodyâs response isnât a reflection of me. itâs just how your body works. and iâm not going to take it personally. iâm not going to get frustrated. iâm not going to make you feel like youâre too much work or too difficult or not worth the effort.
youâre absolutely worth the effort. youâre worth the patience. youâre worth the time it takes. youâre worth learning. worth understanding. worth working with instead of against.
i know youâre anxious about it. i know youâre worried youâre taking too long. worried iâm getting bored. worried iâm going to give up like others have. i can see it on your face. feel it in how tense you are.
but i need you to try to let that go. try to trust me. trust that i mean it when i say iâm patient. when i say iâm not going anywhere. when i say your pleasure matters more than the destination.
focus on what feels good. not on whether youâre going to cum. just on the sensation. on my hands. my mouth. my body. on being present. on breathing. on letting yourself feel without judgment.
and if you need reassurance while weâre doing this, ask for it. âare you okay?â âis this taking too long?â ask me. iâll tell you the truth. iâll tell you iâm fine. iâm exactly where i want to be. doing exactly what i want to do.
you deserve patience. you deserve someone who understands. who doesnât make you feel bad about how your body works. who celebrates what does feel good instead of focusing on what doesnât.
you deserve someone who learns you. who pays attention. who remembers that you need specific things and gives you those things without making you ask every time. who makes you feel safe enough to be vulnerable about what you need.
and even if you never finish with me, that doesnât mean we failed. that doesnât mean it wasnât good. it means we spent time together. we were intimate. we explored. you felt pleasure even if you didnât cum. that matters. thatâs valuable. thatâs beautiful.
your worth isnât tied to your ability to orgasm. your body isnât broken because it works differently. youâre not less desirable. not less sexual. not less anything.
youâre perfect exactly as you are.
so take your time, baby. iâm not going anywhere. weâll figure this out together. at your pace. with your needs at the center. with patience and gentleness and zero pressure.
and maybe youâll finish. maybe you wonât. either way, iâm here. either way, youâre safe. either way, youâre exactly what i want.
