[wyrmicelli]

me tongue-deep in a sandalwood candle: 🤤

the tjmaxx employee loading a fourth tranquilizer dart into their blowgun: i need backup

[snowown]

[moldavite]

the problem is giving up genuinely feels so good #imnotdoingthat

[aromanticduck]

Free service with ads: Well, if I'm not paying for it they have to foot the bill somehow.

Paid service with no ads: Well, if they're not funding it with ad revenue, they need to charge us something.

Paid service with ads: Well that's bullshit.

"We used to be a paid service without ads, but now we're putting ads in it! If you want the ad-free version you have to pay more for preeeeemium": Fuck you fuck you fuck you

[juststarsandthemoon]

Free service with no ads: Okay so these guys are stealing my data

[a-method-in-it]

Free service with no ads that stays afloat with regular donation drives: The backbone of society

[mitchipedia]

[willgrahamscock]

a ​past url is kind of like a dead wife

[willgrahamscock]

now I’m curious, what’s everyone’s dead wife url mine is assbuttsinburgatory

[grungekitty-77]

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

[grungekitty-77]

Fun fact, that was literally what inspired me to make this post!

[thatbuddie]

“omg why is no one talking about—”

[plutoarttv]

prometheus: hot take,

the greek gods: no give that back

[permetutotheworld]

I shouldn’t have laughed that loudly

[coffee-without-anesthetics]

forgive me father for i have opened a notification and read the message within to make the red dot go away and then forgot to reply for a month . it will happen again

[door]

is there anything better than seeing many people you love and then lying down in bed by yourself in a quiet room

[theriverbeyond]

Ideal work schedule:

I show up and am given a list of cognitively engaging but achievable tasks

I complete the list

I leave immedietly

[strawberrycamel]

we really should be calling it fanworks, not content

[strawberrycamel]

I'm here for fun and community not to rp a mega corporation's underpaid social media intern

[ohwhatagloomyshow]

seeing posts about scarlet hollow that boil down to “I don’t think the authors thought through [x issue which is a main theme of the game and driving force for a story that has been in development for 4+ years]” and it’s driving me bonkers.

Kaneeka is Black on purpose. Sybil is white on purpose. Avery is Black and trans on purpose. Kaneeka’s arc is entirely dependent upon being a Black daughter of a white mom. Avery’s arc is entirely dependent upon being a trans, Black transplant in a tight knit rural community. Kaneeka’s arc can end a certain way on purpose. You can completely miss Avery in a play-through on purpose.

Scarlet Hollow chapters aren’t being posted 3 hours after completion with a half-assed beta proofread. [holding you very gently but firmly] sometimes, bad things are included in stories on purpose.

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

[hyunpic]

“global birth rates are declining”…… yeah and so are the reblog rates on tumblr.com too, so what now

[h0ezi3r]

Self care is writing fan fiction that you are the sole target audience for.

[bladeweave]

you gotta start rambling in those tags bestie how else are you going to get that blogger to follow you back and your mutuals to fall in love with you #GetYapping