PARA SA MGA SINGLE ngayong Valentine's day... READ this
Some people ask me these questions:
*Ang ganda ganda mo (seryoso po dalawa talaga yan ✌) pero bakit single ka pa din? (yun lang 🙄)
*Di ka pa siguro nakkaamove on 'no?
*Ang tanda mo na girl, si ganito may kinasal na, si ganyan may anak na, e ikaw?? (kelangan ipamukha?🤔)
*trip mo bang maging matandang dalaga (single blessed)? (Wow po ah, weg nemen)
Aaaaaaand my answer goes like this!
For me po kasi, being single does not mean that you are ugly or undesirable. Instead, it very well could mean that you know your WORTH, and are weighing your options against God's scales and have no time to waste on a man who is not intentional about marrying you. Also, always know that not every fellow Christian man that you meet is your Adam. Minsan, dumadating lang sila para kilitiin ang puso mo, pero hindi naman talaga para ipursue ka. ✌ Wait on the Lord and when you're ready, get out there and meet new people, however, don't fall for the trap of thinking a man who quotes the Bible from his head is automatically a good future husband. Hindi po lahat ng mahilig magpost ng bible verses or quotes ay Man of God na agad. Be careful din. Girl, you might consider this... Character is everything!
And as i continue enjoying this season of singleness, i learned how to set STANDARDS for love and relationship.
For some, STANDARDS might be a clichè, maybe one of you can say that standard means perfection. You can think that I am a perfectionist because of having standards in my future relationship but no, a standard is not all about perfectionism. It is more than that. It is a set of principles or values that had been set by the Lord in the bible. It is not just a standard but Godly standards. A standard that was not established by the world but was established by God.
Many of the young people fall into the wrong place, into the wrong meaning of love and relationship. Well, I've been there! Di naman ako na-exempt dun. Even though I am a Christian, I also had fell into the wrong place of love and relationship because I had been swept away by the standards of the world. Nakisabay kasi ako sa agos ng mundo. Akala ko kapag may karelasyon ka, okay na ang lahat, you got your reward already. But it's not really how it goes. At ang resulta sakin? Days and nights lang naman ng pag-iyak dahil sa sakit.
I end up realizing that the more you prolong that wrong relationship, the more that you gonna get hurt.
The more you prolong something that God is removing in your life, the more God is gonna break you.
However, I am already finished with my worldly relationship and currently pursuing a relationship with the Most High. (Si Lord muna, syempre!) I learned to be content with God's love. His love sustains me. His love upholds me. His love rescued my broken heart. And i realized that there are many times God breaks us to protect us.
So, why did i chose to force love if i can actually rest in God's love?
Furthermore, as I say earlier, madaming kabataan ang nagkakaroon ng maling interpretasyon sa pag-ibig at relasyon. They perceive love as a variance of emotions like kilig at saya. Then, they end up getting involve into a relationship without knowing the real meaning of it.
Listen to this, beautiful lady, Love is not all about feelings/emotions. It is more than that. Relationship is not all about having surprises (yung may pacake si mayor, may paballoons or may mahabang message sa facebook and etc.), celebrating anniversaries/monthsaries, having long and sweet conversation or even standing through the test of time (tumagal lang kayo, nag-over fantasize na. PEG EBEG NGE NEMEN) IT IS MORE THAN THAT. I repeat ladies and gentlemen too, IT IS MORE THAN THAT! Your worth is more than the surprises, sweet messages and etc. You are far more precious than rubies (Proverbs 31:10) , not to mention that ruby is a high-paid stone. Hindi ka pang 3-day sale. Hindi ka pang second hand. Hindi ka made in China.
In my 24 years of existence (baka iniisip mo, ang bata ko pa pero ang dami ko satsat! Well, magbasa ka nalang) But age doesn't define the maturity of being a Woman of God. God put me through many testing in life, especially in overcoming the heartbreak that was caused by my past relationship. There are many things I had learned.
First, I do not set standards. (very wrong)
Second, i do not pray for it.
Third, I do not guard my heart. (Proverbs 4:23) (😩)
Last, we do not build our foundation on Jesus therefore it fell with a great crash (Matthew 7:26-27).
You have to remember this...
A relationship that has not been established by the Lord will be struck down. A worldly relationship will be full of ungodliness, impurity and evil things. It will be sinful because the guidance of the Lord is not there.
As a Godly woman (of course! You must be a godly woman), we must have standards before getting into a relationship. We must set a Godly standards. Wag tayong magsettle sa pangkaraniwang relationship goals na mayroon ang mundo, IT HAS TO BE MORE THAN THAT. As a Godly woman, we must renew our mind and do not conform with the world. (Romans 12:2) (it requires a change of mindset) Well, physical traits and looks can be negotiable (hahaha it's a plus tho! 😉) but faith and values is not and will never be.
Love has a standard in 1 Corinthians 13. Kung hindi ka pasok sa standard ng 1 Corinthians, e baka hindi‘yan love. Nago-over fantasize ka lang.
4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;[b] 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.
That's the real meaning of LOVE. It is not just what the world means to it but it is what the Lord says to be.
Ladies and gentlemen, for those who are in the WAITING season, let us be guided by the word of the Lord before making a move and drawing conclusion to it. Wag assume ng assume, be wise. Be full of wisdom. Reflect from your past (if you have one) and don't repeat the same mistakes again. Learn as much as you can. Matutong mag-define ng status para hindi ma-fall into the assumption game. (sistemang hopia nanaman pag nagkataon sis!!!!)
Wag kang "POKMARU" as others call it. Hindi porke may kumatok sa wall ng heart mo, bibigay ka na agad. GUARD YOUR HEART dear. Tandaan mo, hindi ka basta basta. You are precious. Wag ka dun sa cheap version or sa second hand. You deserve the best that God will give you. 😉
Ladies, wala naman siguro may gusto ng another cheap version of lovestory, 'diba?
Your definition of a relationship must be a Christ-centered; kumbaga love triangle (MAN-GOD-WOMAN); it must be a God-established relationship. Yung masasabi mong, "It is orchestrated by God!" (Yiee kilig)‘Yong relationship na hindi pangkaraniwan,‘yong kakaiba. ‘Yong nakaka-inspired.
