I‘m aspec, demi- and reciposexual to be specific. I am able to have sex, and I am even able to feel sexual attraction in certain circumstances. I am sex indifferent. I can do it if I choose to, and I willingly chose not to. If I talk about that, allo people act like I‘m crazy, because why should I choose something like that? I‘ll tell you why: because I don‘t want to. It‘s my choice not to fuck somebody just because I could. Many people then believe that‘s because of my boyfriend, because he is completely sex repulsed, but that‘s not true, it was like that before we got together too. I did have sex in the past, and I enjoyed it (sometimes more, sometimes less), but it‘s not something I actively want in my life. It was a big shocker for my cishet best friend when I came out to him as ace, it was so difficult for him to believe that anybody wouldn‘t feel any sexual attraction at all, and when he found out that I am sex indifferent he couldn‘t understand why I choose not to have sex. I think for many people it‘s not just conforming to the societal norm (but it‘s definitely a big part of it), it‘s the fact that they feel romantic/sexual attraction and therefore don‘t understand how it feels to be ace/aro. The problem here is that they expect ace and aro people to understand how they feel because we are just a minority while they are the norm. When I asked him why he craved sexual relationships he couldn‘t understand at all why I asked that, while he expected me to explain why I DIDN’T crave something like this. A lot of Aphobia comes from not understanding why people don‘t necessarily crave something that they really enjoy. I don‘t wanna excuse aphobia with that, I just wanna say that we need more GOOD ace representation (not dehumanized and infantilized characters).
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