#cisheteronormativity

[tgirl-tamag0tchi]

18 year old me: I’d only date with the intention of marriage. I can’t imagine wanting to date someone if I don’t at least hope to spend the rest of my life with them, and them alone.

22 year old me: *stares in polyamorous nebularomantic relationship anarchist lesbian* Sure…

[cishet-white-male-offical]

wow look at the size of this fish I caught, I’m sure that every female finds this immensely attractive

[smokingtigerhiddengun]

Tired of cishet gender roles that just don't fit? Growing bored with cat/dog and sun/moon analogies?

Why not try your hand with one of the many other interesting binaries and dichotomies you could use?

Here's one, for example:

Shane is Apollonian, Ilya is Dionysian.

Apollonian and Dionysian - Wikipedia

(Both Hudson and Connor are both at once, and which one you see at any given time depends on the light and viewing angle.)

[tallglassofsoup]

Reminder that men and women can both do Things, and since the Things they do overlap, then "masculinity" and "femininity" are NOT SEPERATE.

Actions do not have gender.

The masculinity/femininity venn diagram is very close to a circle. Enough confidence and genderfuckery can make it a circle actually. A guy could be doing something masculinely and I could be doing it femininely and our nonbinary friend could be doing it like "the concept of a rainforest ecosystem", but we're all doing the exact same thing.

Actions don't have gender, just like clothes don't have gender. Just like haircuts, hobbies, voices, body types, etc etc etc. the reason people think they do is, as usual, rooted in the white cisheteropatriarchy.

If someone does something that you thought they couldn't, change your mind instead of stopping their action.

[shamebats]

[bisexuality-the-concept]

Idc what anyone says I fully support teenage boys who wear dresses as a joke. A group of boys dressed up as the Disney princesses for the "fictional characters" theme day at the end of Year 12, and you know what? They slayed. Idc if they're "making fun" of drag queens or whatever, if they're normalising dudes wearing dresses then I SUPPORT THEM GO STRAIGHT BOYS GO

[corvine-cosmos]

I'm so tired y'all. I want it to be summer already, but I have a wedding to go to this summer that I really don't wanna go to. Very cisheteronormative.

I'm having to balance wanting to choose something non-heteronormative with the fact that part of that desire may be spite driven and I don't wanna be an asshole as much as I wanna be an asshole.

[sheridan-le-fanu]

I generally avoid media that markets itself as or appears to be uninterested in women/only concerned with men.

My exception is JoJo’s Bizarre Adventure.

This is because JJBA is not “concerned with men” in the same way most media that focuses primarily on men is. This interview answers why:

Hirohiko Araki (author of JJBA): I am interested in drawing beautiful men.

Interviewer: And beautiful women too?

Araki: Well, yes, but mostly, beautiful men.

The male characters in JJBA are beautiful, aesthetically appealing and occasionally sensual, but not overtly sexual—especially not in the way male sexuality is typically depicted. Cisheteronormative male sexuality (and I’m generalizing, I know) is expected to be dominant, the subject, not the object. The one doing the *doing*.

By overtly placing the male characters as the object of aesthetic attraction, Araki places them in the role of the object. (I mean this strictly in the narrative framing sense—not in the sense of “objectification.”)

This is an uncommon role to put male characters in, since the viewer is typically expected to subjectively identify with male characters instead (the “male gaze.”)

However, JJBA takes it even one step further.

JoJo’s Bizarre Adventure LOVES men, in the same way that Cute Girls Doing Cute Things anime LOVES girls. The viewer is essentially a voyeur on the characters, and their “man-ness”/“girl-ness” is played up for the audience’s benefit. This is why so many people are quick to label JJBA as “gay” though it is not intended to convey the idea of sexually attractive men to a male audience. It is “strange” (within cisheteronormative society) to see the (non-gendered) viewer enjoying masculinity without seeing said masculinity as subjective or default. In fact, the very idea of calling JJBA “gay” presupposes that a) the viewer is a man and b) the viewer is sexually attracted to the characters as opposed to appreciating their beauty.

There is quite a lot more to say, of course about how masculinity is represented in JJBA, but I won’t get into that here.

If you read this far, thanks.