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hi it’s reesie is anyone here

chavdog

I WILL be posting ankle pics on dec 18th and it WILL be erotic

triptehai-blog

babyanimalgifs

ororomunroedontpullout

I love seeing videos of pandas being manhandled

blackfemmejeanvaljean

he loves you give him a hug you monster

weavemama

SHOUTOUT TO THE MISS PERU 2018 CONTESTANTS FOR GIVING STATS ABOUT WOMEN’S ISSUES INSTEAD OF THEIR BODY MEASUREMENTS

tropiuz-deactivated20200618

AHHH PERÚ DID THAT!!!

matamatamatata

theunitofcaring

load-bearing

Sometimes people hit a place in their life where things are going really well. They like their job and are able to be productive at it; they have energy after work to pursue the relationships and activities they enjoy; they’re taking good care of themselves and rarely get sick or have flareups of their chronic health problems; stuff is basically working out. Then a small thing about their routine changes and suddenly they’re barely keeping their head above water.

(This happens to me all the time; it’s approximately my dominant experience of working full-time.)

I think one thing that’s going on here is that there are a bunch of small parts of our daily routine which are doing really important work for our wellbeing. Our commute involves a ten-minute walk along the waterfront and the walking and fresh air are great for our wellbeing (or, alternately, our commute involves no walking and this makes it way more frictionless because walking sucks for us). Our water heater is really good and so we can take half-hour hot showers, which are a critical part of our decompression/recovery time. We sit with our back to the wall so we don’t have to worry about looking productive at work as long as the work all gets done. The store down the street is open really late so late runs for groceries are possible. Our roommate is a chef and so the kitchen is always clean and well-stocked.

It’s useful to think of these things as load-bearing. They’re not just nice - they’re part of your mental architecture, they’re part of what you’re using to thrive. And when they change, life can abruptly get much harder or sometimes just collapse on you entirely. And this is usually unexpected, because it’s hard to notice which parts of your environment and routine are load bearing. I often only notice in hindsight. “Oh,” I say to myself after months of fatigue, “having my own private space was load-bearing.” “Oh,” after a scary drop in weight, “being able to keep nutrition shakes next to my bed and drink them in bed was load-bearing.” “Oh,” after a sudden struggle to maintain my work productivity, “a quiet corner with my back to the wall was load-bearing.”

When you know what’s important to you, you can fight for it, or at least be equipped to notice right away if it goes and some of your ability to thrive goes with it. When you don’t, or when you’re thinking of all these things as ‘nice things about my life’ rather than ‘load-bearing bits of my flourishing as a person’, you’re not likely to notice the strain created when they vanish until you’re really, really hurting.

everything-is-optional

Almost two weeks after reading this, and I’m still kind of blown away at what a ridiculously fruitful definition this is. Like I had no idea that load bearing things were a thing that needed to have a word for them, but now I’m like holy shit I’m so glad that there’s now a word I can use to refer to this really important class of Thing.

brightlotusmoon

This is astounding. Load-bearing. Forget spoons, this concept is wonderful. I’m going to update my Spear Theory with this.

thantos1991

@thebibliosphere @sister-forget-me-not

egoisticalgoat

trntbl

So, trntbl has been down for a few days, and the creator isn’t responding. Now i’m taking the matter into my own hands, and i’m developing an alternative for the time being. I just wanted to know what from your perspective were the most important features of trntbl.

egoisticalgoat

I’ve finished it for now! It doesn’t have all the features the original trntbl had, but for now you can at least listen to your music again!

I’m still working on most features (shuffle, etc), but it’s something for now.

You can reach it at egoisticalgoat.de

If you have any problems, just send me an ask/message me/whatever, i’ll try to get to it as soon as i can

#BLESSS YOUUUUUUUU!!!!!!!

sunflorally

eating isn’t shameful. you aren’t ugly just because you’ve gained weight. calories are necessary. treating yourself is okay. please take care of yourself. your body loves you and depends on you to help it function properly.

beyoncebeytwice

You've never gotten high?

one time i was at this party where everyone was high and i was the only one not smoking and this dude told me “those that are above the influence….. are always the highest of them all” and that will stick with me forever

mediiciis-deactivated20240508

Me listening to the A Star Is Born soundtrack again after actually watching the movie and understanding the context of the songs

idolady

(181007) yuri - illusion

#my old bias #hel l o

warmshrine-deactivated20230929

How To Stop Being Jealous Of People Who Get All The Opportunities That My Trauma And Mental Illness Denied Me

falastinniya

you’ve gotta stat romanticizing your life. you gotta start believing that your morning commute is cute and fun, that every cup of coffee is the best you’ve ever had, that even the smallest and most mundane things are exciting and new. you have to, because that’s when you start truly living. that’s when you look forward to every day.

jaspurr

live your life like a ghibli movie where literally everything is charming and beautiful

sprosslee

Good advice

ganseying-deactivated20201018

me: I know I’m not emotionally prepared for a serious relationship and I have a lot to focus on and accomplish before that can be a priority for me and that’s okay!

me after watching to all the boys i’ve loved before: