Where are the Slavic sapphics??? I need more of them in my life. Please let me sing you Ukrainian lullabies and show you my vyshyvanka collection and pretend to be mavki together. Please. I need Slavic sapphics in my life.
"Oooooo transfems on Tumblr are SOOOOO horny" YES but they're also too shy to interact!!! Like if you agree reblog if you want a crazy bitch with BPD and more kinks than boundaries to disregard your consent violently
I ironically post about siscest and the tgirls go nuts.... I post earnestly about wanting to be assaulted by a transbian and I get 3 notes..... We live in a society........
Be honest with me y'all, do I really have enough "gives good advice" vibes to warrant being anon asked about heavy relationship issues??? With MY blog????
I'm not even upset or weirded out, I'm just baffled that I may apparently be Therapy McGee to someone out there who only knows me from hornyposting
can a lesbian ask for advice? Recently my grandma passed and my girlfriend of 4 years(LDR) hasn't supported me or called me ever since I told her my grandma was in bad health back in November. She left me on read when I told her "I don't think you know how or want to support me during this time. I need to focus on my family, my mental health and my grandma." (she was still alive) It's over isn't it? She hasn't called or texted me since. Is she showing me her true colors? Should I say anything in return or ghost her like she did me? It hurts because I do have feelings for her and I'm in mourning right now because I was very close to my grandma. She even met her!
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First off, my deepest condolences. I'm so sorry about the amount of grief you must be going through. While I'm honored you'd ask me specifically about this, I'm also perplexed that you consider my advice to be worth much considering the contents of my blog. I'm gonna make a wild guess and assume it has to do with me being open about BPD, neurodivergence, therapy, and my shitty ex on top of just being sapphic. So, I'll try to help to the best of my abilities.
I'll give you the responsible useful answer first, and then I'll tell you what my own lived experience has taught me, very very bluntly:
1. My darling @miss-asmodeus has suggested that I direct you to @sappho-offical for assistance in her asks, since according to her she's more used to giving advice on this sort of thing
I think if you want a more well-adjusted, grounded perspective, you should definitely seek it out from someone who knows their stuff. I'm super flattered by this, but seriously: I am just Local Unhinged Lesbian™ n.469 who's still figuring shit out, and also your issue specifically hits way too close to home for me to even pretend to be unbiased. That being said…
2. Your questions already contain your answer, and you know it. I don't think you need advice, I think you just need to be sure of yourself instead of seeking external validation to do what's fairest to you
If you struggle with BPD (which I wouldn't be shocked by given that your options seem to exclusively focus on the unfair treatment you've experienced/searching for a reaction or retribution, instead of how to do what's best for your well-being) then you really need to reframe how you approach this: Your goal isn't to hurt her, or make her understand your pain, or make her feel how she's made you feel; your goal is to heal.
That probably seems like an impossible task given the amount of grief you're in, but you owe it to yourself to put your well-being first if you have so much as an ounce of self-respect. In the future, you can analyze why you allowed yourself to be treated like that for so long and why you clung to someone who you don't believe cares or can support you the way you need. But right now, you need to focus on staying afloat, looking inward for peace, and moving on.
My ex was very similar. I craved their love and acknowledgment more than anything because I was not treated fairly. They always left me on read and avoided me when I was unwell and required support. Clinging to the hope that they'd finally come around one day and show up for me kept me in a neglectful and abusive relationship for three years, and then afterward prevented me from moving on. But you will move on, you'll be happier eventually, and the pain of feeling rejected and unworthy will be horrendous, but it will improve. Someday you'll realize that you can't afford to settle for anything less than what you need to improve your life, not just tolerate what you thought you deserved for love.
You must be your own best friend and biggest supporter in all matters. You have the right to grieve, to mourn, to feel angry and betrayed and slighted, but beyond the catharsis of feeling, you need to move on. Cry, be angry, rage, but never look back. Block her and everything that connects you to her, break off all contact; you've given this issue too much of your mental energy already. You can only move on by letting go and looking forward. You'll be happier for it, and you'll see that love requires more than just romantic feelings: it requires care. Forget about justice, fairness, motives and reacting. Surround yourself with people who care, instead. That's the best advice I can give you.
Hopefully my perspective as a recently diagnosed BPD baddie is useful to you. Lots of luck, stranger. May the gods grant your grandmother a peaceful rest.
Being a kinky down bad t4t sapphic is an unpaid full-time job and should count as community service, at least. The amount of therapy it takes to be this sexually deranged for y'all healthily is unimaginable. And I've never even gotten showered with gifts and dates for it! :<
The way to my heart (and my holes) is being spoiled rotten like a princess. Where the sugar mommies at?
Letting me infodump about my TTRPG OC's lore is a requirement for me to give you head, actually. Since I get no disability benefits, I will accept reparations in the form of letting me ramble as foreplay.
Snippets from a comic about my Kult TTRPG OC, Nadya Ponomarenko, and her traumatic childhood growing up in an isolated Mokosh (Binah) family cult.
Nadya's grandmother (Oleksandra, wrinkly raisin pictured above), the family matriarch, had sacrificed her own firstborn daughter to gain the goddess' protection after she had to endure the Holodomor and WW2 in her youth. Binah Mokosh, in return, granted them a forest and a хата (Ukrainian rural homestead) far removed from society inside an impenetrable forcefield that slowed time and prevented death by normal means so long as the whole family stayed inside it.
Nadya lived in this woodland liminal space in the middle of nowhere with no one but her grandma, aunt and mom. She escaped as a teen after a lifetime of abuse from her grandma, particularly after she came out as gay. Afterwards, she fled home and became a goth tattooed Sathariel Morana-worshipping junkie party animal.
Freaky tgirls please stop posting about your siscest kinks. My stunning older sister is gay and has an amazing stunning wife and anytime I think to indulge y'all's freakiness I immediately get reminded of my actual gay married older sis and sis-in-law and it makes me feel weird!!!!! Tgirls please!!!! Tgirls my sister doesn't deserve this!!!!!!
While you make a compelling argument, I must clarify that I am far too autistic to handle the sheer amount of awkwardness that would bring to every family function. And unfortunately for y'all freaksters I do indeed have a functional enough family for that to actually be a problem.
But as my charitable donation to the kinky tgirls, I am in fact willing to roleplay as a sister. In fact, I've done so before and will do it again! Anything in service of problematic yuri.
My sis and sis-in-law get to remain unproblematic, though
Freaky tgirls please stop posting about your siscest kinks. My stunning older sister is gay and has an amazing stunning wife and anytime I think to indulge y'all's freakiness I immediately get reminded of my actual gay married older sis and sis-in-law and it makes me feel weird!!!!! Tgirls please!!!! Tgirls my sister doesn't deserve this!!!!!!
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