Alright, I need to have a chat with the teenagers that follow me, specifically regarding lying about your age and nsfw content. This isnโt directed at anyone, but I think itโs a convo that needs to be had in general.
I was a teenager once. I get it. Everyone lies about their age online. Maybe not to other people, but Iโm sure every minor has clicked a โyeah, sure, Iโm 18+โ button at some point in their lives. Iโm not here to shame you for that.
What I am here to say is it is vital that teenagers understand the difference between engaging in sexual content independently (ie, entering a fake birthday to access 18+ content), and lying about your age to engage in sexual activities with others online (joining discord servers/using nsfw channels intended for adults only/lying about your age to talk to nsfw content creators/commissioning nsfw art/etc).
Lying about your age to a website so you can look at porn is one thing. Itโs an entirely independent experience, where the only consent that really matters is yours. Nobody has any power over you in this situation, and thereโs about no chance of legal consequences.
However, lying about your age to other human beings is extremely different. If youโre engaging in nsfw roleplay with a friend about the same age as you, talking about sex with other teenagers, sharing nsfw fics among friends, thatโs one thing. But do not lie about your age to engage in sexual activities/discussions. Not only is something that could have actual legal ramifications, and very serious ones depending on whatโ going on, but itโs a violation of the other peopleโs consent. The moment other real people are involved, you need to be respectful of their boundaries & what is and isnโt appropriate for you to be engaging with. If they say no minors, I donโt care if youโre 17.5, you stay out until you are 18 years old.
Examples of situations where it is never okay to lie or mislead anyone about your age online include:
Joining/accessing nsfw channels or servers on discord.
Yes, I know itโs very easy to just click that little red button on discord that lets you access the channel youโre so curious about. It looks just like the one you see on adult websites that you click without thinking.
If channels are 18+ then you stay out of them. There are other real life human beings involved who did not give consent to have a minor in an adult orientated space.
Engaging with nsfw creators/content directly
ie, commissioning nsfw artwork, following or talking to nsfw creators whoโve asked for no interactions from minors/flagged their accounts as 18+ only, subscribing to nsfw creators on patron, nsfw roleplay, etc.
Joining/engaging with adult only communities, like Fetlife or cam sites.
Engaging in romantic and/or sexual online relationships
Any time you are talking with one or more other real human beings, particularly any adults, in a sexual context.
I know that adult websites have basically trained teenagers to just say theyโre 18 and move on, but it is vital that teenagers understand that it is never okay to lie about your age when directly engaging in any kind of sexual activity. Knowing peopleโs age is a vital part of consent, and if an adult is found to have been engaging in sexual activity with a minor, they could face life long legal consequences. Not only that, but a basic facet of consent is clear, honest communication. If you are lying to a partner, then you do not have consent. Lying about your age is a huge violation of consent.
Thatโs not to say you can never mention sex around adults online. There are times and places where you may be asking for advice, or even just making jokes about sex or whatever. Thatโs all well and good, so long as everyone is on the same page. Itโs on adults to make sure that we are behaving appropriately around minors online, and make sure that weโre setting boundaries in those relationships. But itโs on minors to communicate that they are minors, and respect those boundaries that are set.
Lying about your age to access a porn site is fine. Lying about your age to engage in sexual situations/adult-only spaces where other real human beings are involved is not.
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