“This is what you have to ask yourself: Do you want to be good, or just seem good? Do you want to be good to yourself and others? Do you care about other people, always, sometimes, never? Or only when convenient? What kind of person do you want to be?”
It's been a while Tumblr.
When I was on tumblr earlier in the year it was mostly for shadow work. I've been exploring other writing platforms such as Substack and Medium to write pieces and making videos on youtube as well to practice speaking. Pretty much, I wanted to allow all the things I started to uncover through the shadow work that I started her to become lived. I will link them all below if you want to check them out.
A lot of this year has been deep shadow work, and I got to a point in time where I was meant to put expression into practice and start focusing my energy on creating opportunities for myself to be the version of myself that I've uncovered this year.
As the year ends, I've been feeling called back to shadow work, to clearing out any last bit of my old energy to close out the year and set the intentions and standards for myself in the upcoming year. So here I am.
The new moon will be transiting my 7th house, which means it will be focused on relationships, partnerships and how I relate to others. This year was a lot about me recalibrating myself and my boundaries, so it makes a lot of sense that next I will be recalibrating how I allow others to access me and how I want to show up in connections
CORE INTENTIONS:
I prioritize relationships that are reciprocal, consistent and expansive
I show up to do my part, I release the need to have others do theirs
I release the compulsion to over-give necessarily
I attract people who value clarity, depth and growth
I align with partnerships that value find value in my vision and put in the effort to match the depth of what I offer
Should I organically align with someone who I'd wish to explore a romantic relationship with:
I will do so with presence, releasing the need to control everything. I allow the universe to determine how and when love shows up in my life.
I will see the other person for the frequency they are operating in and the effort they make towards intentions they set rather than for the potential I see them to have
I will only share a romantic relationship with someone who inspires my highest self to rise, and connects me with my inner child naturally
My romantic relationships will not affect how I show up in other relationships, especially the one with myself
The version of me in 2026 relates like this:
I am a mirror to others as they are to me. I set the boundaries for how I want to be treated by showing up that way for myself first and expressing my needs to close any gaps. I match the energy of others in retrospect and withdraw or give my energy accordingly.
SHADOW + ALCHEMY
Where have I been loyal to potential instead of reality?
This year has been a lot of understanding in how I have poured into the potential of my closest relationships, especially romantic and parental, rather than into my own. It wasn't just an issue of seeing people for their potential rather than reality, but rather recognizing whether any effort was being made to move towards the potential in their realities. It doesn't matter how much I pour into others, if they aren't willing to make the effort themselves I will waste mine trying to coddle them to do it. I allow myself to show compassion without taking on responsibility for it.
Where do I confuse patience with self-abandonment?
Similar to the previous answer, it's all about intention and balance. I think while I have a lot of patience for others I have little for myself. I confuse patience with self-abandonment when I pour all efforts into other people's self growth and place none on my own. It's part of my purpose and my personal journey to guide others to grow, but when there is an imbalance of reciprocation (meaning they don't match the effort to garner the results) I need to recognize when to pull back and let them figure things out on their own accord rather than to take on the burden for them. I have to trust that whatever I've done is enough so I can let go and trust them to meet themselves on their own time.
What relational lesson from the past year am I done repeating?
I am done over giving. I am done feeling obligated to over extend myself due to the nature of the role I play in other's lives. At the end of the day we are all equal beings of light, we all have the same right to grow, express and be respected.
This is how I move differently now.
I show up for myself first. Understanding my own standards sets the stage for how I show up in the world. By knowing what I need for myself and making sure the needs are met I separate the responsibility to have them met by others, allowing them to do so naturally rather than out of obligation and vice versa. I move with compassion. I am a fountain of good energy, circulating it to others for it to come back to me. I trust my intuition and move accordingly. There is no one outside of myself that can tell me what I know to be true, I only look to others in that sense to reflect my intuition back to me. This is not a phase, it's a standard.
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