self care and contentment

here to tell you what your mom never did :) hit the ask box for questions and you'll 150% get an answer, but please do not use this blog as a substitute for professional advice!!

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bad bitch advice

walk like you know what you’re doing, embrace ur femininity regardless of what gender u are when u walk (swing ur hips, keep ur chin up, shoulders back)

stay healthy (eat well, exercise regularly, etc.)

always look SNATCHED; have ur makeup and hair looking good at all times and the rest is irrelevant

even if u don’t look snatched, pretend u do and act like u have a full face of makeup on

make strong eye contact (not like ur a creepo but just like ur not afraid to look someone in the eyes)

speak and move with intention (if u need help with this look at the principles of yoga)

fake it ‘til u make it, if u wanna be confident as HELL then at confident as HELL

don’t be afraid to do the most, do u and own whatever comes of it (good or bad)

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songs for when people are doing you dirty

no frauds - nicki minaj

shade - iamddb

lavish - tt the artist

bitch better have my money - rihanna

money - leikeli47

bling bling - junglepussy

queen’s speech 4 - lady leshurr

tomboy - princess nokia

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bad bitch mix 🍒

ICY GRL - saweetie

GUMMY - brockhampton

ridin round - kali uchis

CRZY - kehlani

kitana - princess nokia

don’t play - halsey

can’t get enough of myself - santigold

i ain’t got time! - tyler, the creator

barbie tingz - nicki minaj

nice for what - drake

drip - cardi b ft. migos

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if someone’s done you wrong and you’re feeling petty STOP!! and remember that your mental, physical and emotional health are better off without this negativity in your life. live through the negative feelings but never wallow in them - instead put effort into your own existence and live your best life!!

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i see so much appreciation for coconut oil now and my brown is GLOWING that it’s getting what it deserves for being a miracle BUT please keep in mind that it clogs pores and encourages hair growth and while that’s great for some parts of your routine other parts (e.g. makeup removal) are not gonna benefit. facial hair is all good and cool but if you don’t want any then don’t use coconut oil on your face! also depending on your hair type it can break down your strands instead of nourishing them. otherwise go forth and use the miracle oil everywhere!!

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https://www.instagram.com/p/BeLf7BAnSlV/

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music choice advice

on whatever music player you use to listen to tunes (let’s say spotify cos that’s what i use), create good, well maintained playlists for particular moods. it sounds hard at first but most people, when they listen to a song, have imagery or situations that they associate with it. for example, you like a song that reminds you of losing someone? put it in a sad songs playlist. a song that reminds you of your crush? put it on your crush playlist. seriously, whenever these situations are gonna pop up it’s always good to have a playlist and some headphones handy because it’s a great way to relieve anxiety and comfort nerves.

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lil life tip

clean your room. like, deep clean it. put some good music on, find some time, get a large trash bag to put old papers and garbage in and have a pile for things you can give away/sell/donate. dust. wipe down mirrors and windows. sweep. vacuum. TRUST ME, it feels so great once you’re done and easier to maintain.

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i think the key to contentment within yourself is to do what you want to do and own the consequences. if you want to be happy, you’ll be happy, and if that means not caring what other people think and being a goofy person and just not giving a fuck, then do it and own the consequences!! if doing what you want to do means telling somebody bothering you to suck a dick, do it and own the consequences!! sometimes it’s just important to remember that whatever happens as a result of your actions should be something you don’t regret doing. make yourself so happy in the moment that whatever repercussions you face do nothing to dull your inner peace.

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a li‘l school/college tip

this honestly saved my life, i’ve been getting better grades than i thought possible by simply spreading my study habits out!! i study at least 30 minutes a day everyday, rather than 4 hrs on the night before an exam or assignment, and i set clear goals of what i want to be doing the next day every night when i finish studying so i can come back and pick up where i left off. it’s really important to just put in at least half an hour every day rather than binge right before your finals.

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beauty brands that are cruelty-free + inexpensive!!

(as of 2018)

e.l.f

NYX

physicians formula

body shop

milani

eco tools

sonia kashuk

wet n wild

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Black Girls 101 🍒

I’m making this post specifically for my black babes. Repost this to uplift a black girl that may need this.

1.) Having darker skin does not make you ugly. Baby girl, you are so beautiful.

2.) Don’t have loose curly hair? that’s fine. You are still so so gorgeous with your naps and all.

3.) Don’t take “pretty for a black girl” as a compliment. You’re pretty POINT BLANK PERIOD. “For a black girl” is unnecessary.

4.) You aren’t obligated to subject to blatant racism. If someone talking shit about your people, FUCK EM UP.

5.) Dye your hair all sorts of colors. All colors work for all shades, they don’t discriminate.

6.) It’s okay to be in an interracial relationship.

7.) Your life matters.

8.) If you can’t handle having natural hair, sis that’s okay. You shouldn’t feel ashamed, because you get a perm.

9.) To my mixed girls, you’re still black. Don’t let people make you feel like you ain’t.

10.) LOVE YOURSELF BABY

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How to feel like an angel

-wear rose face masks -moisturize your skin -use sugar scrubs -paint your nails a pale pink -listen to new music -curl your hair -bat your eyelashes softly -bake blueberry muffins -wear satin dresses -burn lavender scented candles -buy yourself roses

And over all take care of yourself, you are ethereal, you matter.

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cooking white rice for grown adult people who can’t cook

okay this is a pretty easy way to cook rice, and as an asian person with irresponsible parents growing up this was the easiest and quickest way to make myself dinner. all you need is a microwave-safe container that’s significantly bigger than the amount of white rice you wanna cook (to prevent overflowing), however many cups of rice you’re making and some water.

basically all you do is

1. use a mug to measure out however many cups of rice you want. i usually make rice once a day or every couple of days so i tend to measure out 1 to 1.5 mugs.

2. rinse and drain it in the same container that you’ll be cooking in about 3 times and then fill double the amount of mugs you used with water (so if i made 1 cup of rice there’s 1 cup of rice and 2 cups of water).

3. stick it in the microwave and, depending on how good your microwave is you can heat it for 10-20 minutes (usually on 1000 watts i stick to 15-17) or, if you have a rice setting, use that. always put your rice container on a stone plate while it’s in the microwave and only lightly cover it with the lid!!

and boom you have good, soft rice! if you wanna go the extra mile and add spices and herbs, go ahead and do that, too.