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moved

Here’s my/our new blog. It’s been a while. A lot has changed.

If you followed me for the edgy shit you’ll probably be disappointed. Kind of done treating myself like garbage.

See ya. <3

-Lune

seashellronan

half of me is a hopeless romantic and the other half is just hopeless

showerthoughtsofficial

Negative self talk is just DIY bullying.

screenshotsofdespair

straightboyfriend

telling ppl attracted to men that there are no good men out there or that men can’t love only normalizes poor treatment from men & doesn’t do anything helpful

myothertardisisonthemun

#the idea that all men are naturally garbage is super unhelpful#because it absolves awful men of the responsibility to be better

fucktheevanuris

ADHD culture is saying “what?” when you heard the question someone asked you but… It didn’t fucking… Register… In the brain? And then you hear the question before they ask again and interrupt them when they’re talking because now you’re An Asshole™ who understands

mostlyvoidpartlyplants

Someone: Hey what time is it?

Me: What?

Someone: Wha-

Me: It’s 3:20

attack0npotato

This is actually a thing, while visual info takes 0.1 seconds to process, auditory infor can take 3 to 4 seconds to process, which is why you ask, and then actually hear the question because your brains only just processed it

seashells-and-bookshelves

My husband has ADHD and does this, and I hate repeating myself constantly. One thing that I feel has saved us from so much stress in our marriage is that I’ve just stopped repeating myself. After a while he caught onto what I was doing and stopped saying “what” over and over when I didn’t respond. Now occasionally he’ll ask me “what?” when I said something because he actually didn’t hear me, and I will happily repeat myself for him, but most of the time I just say silent and let his brain compute what I said. So now our conversations go one of two ways:

Me: Hey hon, where is the tv remote? Him: What?? Me: *silence* Him: I left it on the couch.

Or

Me: Hey hon, where is the tv remote? Him: What? Me: *silence* Him: Ok, I really didn’t hear you that time, what did you say? Me: *repeats question*

Even if you don’t have ADHD, I mean, auditory delay happens with a lot of people, not just ADHD folk. If you deal with it, try this approach with your friends and loved ones. It has helped us so much.

old-songs

I jokingly suggested something similar to my gf called the “3 second rule”. If i don’t respond in 3s, assume I really didn’t hear you. Tho Im p good at just masking the processing time with UUhhhhHhHhh

adhd-informative

Also pro tip for communicating with ADHD people: say the name of the person you want to talk to before you share your thought and wait for them to acknowledge you. That way if we are distracted or otherwise occupied you know can be sure are listening. We very well may still need to process, but it will greatly cut down on the number of times we genuinely didn’t hear a word you just said.

dathen

THAT LAST NOTE

PLEASE

I AM BEGGING

luxwing

transphobic people will be like “I dont understand what you are and I’m entitled to a polite explanation in detail about you and your body and if you are rude then it will be your fault that I hate trans and nonbinary people”

littletetra

When you’re stuck in a point and click adventure game:

actingnt

Let’s humor, for a moment, the notion that I don’t actually exist, and that my partner is in fact a singlet who is pretending to be multiple for some ridiculously contrived purpose.

In order to take this belief from baseless assertion to a testable theory, we need to explain several things:

1. Why would anyone choose this of all things to fake?

Multiplicity is extremely stigmatized as a Scary Mental Illness, discriminated against, and already ridiculed as “not a real disorder”, making it one of the most challenging neurodivergences to fake. Why choose it?

Why choose to fake something that if you tell the wrong person about, could get you locked up in prison with no due process? Why risk that?

Why not choose a different neurodivergence that’s easier to fake, less stigmatized, taken more seriously, and not subject to psychiatric detainment?

2. Why are there any more than two of us?

Why would they put in the effort to create twelve (12) fake personas, complete with our own personalities, voices, and mannerisms?

Why would they bother to give us different pronouns, sign names, things we (pretend to) like and dislike, a complex web of in-system relationships, as well as different relationships to people in other bodies, who recognize us and reciprocate those relationships?

Why would they take the time to create not one but *checks notes* fifteen (15) digital avatars PER each persona using various dressup games? Why would they spend hours getting each persona custom-portraited by a digital artist? Why faceclaims?

Granted, it’s not infeasible for a writer/actor to create twelve (12) original characters, but the point is why do that much work, when you could be recognized as a system just as well with only two (2) members?

3. Why only one fictive?

If for some reason you’re still determined to invest the time and energy into an actor’s repertoire of twelve (12) characters, why not save yourself at least some of the trouble and make eleven (11) of them characters that are already written for you?

(Having a lot of fictives is, of course, not a valid reason to accuse someone of faking, but for the purpose of this exercise in hypotheticals, it begs the question.)

4. Why aren’t we all human?

Why would they set up their wardrobe of personas to include two angels, a demon, a fairy, an alien, an anime slime girl, a cat, and a wind spirit?

Why would they not just make everyone human, considering that would be MORE likely to be taken seriously, and LESS likely to be called delusional or fake?

5. Why are some of us more disabled?

Why would they cause their own inconvenience by crafting some of their personas to act less mobile, more restricted by their dysphoria, or nonverbal?

In case you haven’t noticed the state of society, being disabled, especially being nonverbal, does not garner sympathy. It garners annoyance, frustration and dismissal.

If they are trying to convince people that they are not faking, why would they take on additional traits that themselves are known for being called fake?

6. How have they not been caught by now?

How is it possible that this one person has managed to juggle twelve (12) fake personas, which again have different personalities, voices, mannerisms, genders, likes, dislikes, and relationships?

How is it possible to keep this up 24/7, amidst a variety of mental states and circumstances, including stressful situations, late night and early morning, even while drunk or high?

How have they maintained the illusion flawlessly and NOT ONCE been caught practicing voices or writing down character motivations or anything of the sort?

I can only think of three (3) explanations that make any sense at all:

(1) This faker has gone to such great lengths with these characters that they’ve taken on lives of their own, which would be tulpamancy and a form of multiplicity.

(2) This faker singlet is THE BEST ACTOR IN THE WORLD (yet hasn’t gone into professional acting for some reason.)

(3) Or maybe, juuuuust maybe, we’re real people and no one is faking anything.