An age-old question aroaces get both from the outside and from personal doubts is āhow can being aroace be about anything other than a lack? sure you have platonic bonds but allo people can have those tooā
I used to compare this to how black and white photography has its own beauty you can appreciate on its own terms, but Iām feeling that less these days. Itās more like being able to see the stars without light pollution.
The stars are still there, but if youāre caught up in societyās amatonormativity and suffocating relationship structures you may never experience their full beauty. City lights have their own beauty, but they can choke out things youāre starved for beyond them.
(also fits with the whole āIām not aromantic but I believe in their beliefsā thing I love seeing from people making an effort to understand)
