Bit of an unrelated work rant:
So I work with my boss and my best friend, I was working with my boss this morning & then my best friend this afternoon (i'm going to call my bestie 'M' for this post)
So M didn't turn up to work on Monday and I came in to cover, I saw her this afternoon & she was in a bit of a grumpy mood but hey, it's okay, we all have grumpy moments so I am a peacekeeper and brush it off and keep on working/serving the customers on both sides
She has been a bit too attitude-y today, just been sitting in the office on her phone for most of the shift and in a bad mood in general. I brushed it all off again cause she's ill and stressed and we all have bad days
At the end of the day, she started the close down for the post office (printing specials) so I thought she had that handled, I started closing down the shop side (putting things away etc) and she gives me attitude asking what the fuck i'm doing and to help her with the mailing bags at the post office side so I apologised and helped out close the mailing bags, she then started snapping at me saying why would I even be doing that when the postman is arriving soon
(we had plenty of time to get this done in time) so I just tried reassuring her that it will be alright and we will get it done in time for 5pm
All the bags, cheques & specials were ready in time for the postie & then he arrives and she starts moaning to him about me saying that I wasn't helping her out with the "fucking bags" and then said to the postie that I was being grumpy (which is her projecting because really?)
So I kinda sounded like "eh?" (In a slight "are you joking?" tone) & then calmly said:
She started getting even grumpier, started getting on at me about not helping her out at the end of day and I told her calmly to
She looked shocked for a split second and then grumpy asf and stormed into the office to grab her phone, she said "get out my fucking way" she grabbed her phone and left. She phoned my boss crying
I didn't want it to escalate. I can generally tolerate/put up with a lot and brush a lot of things off, I understand she is stressed but i'm also going through stuff & I don't talk to her or anyone that way so to avoid any further conflict, that's why I said calmly to her "just go home"
This was like 10 mins before closing time so at the end of the day
My hands were actually shaking as I was closing up the rest of the shop, my boss came in, I explained what happened and we're going to all have a chat tomorrow afternoon to clear the air
I'm not really a confrontational person & i've always been the peacekeeper in situations as I don't like conflict and basically just trying to keep the peace but the way she was talking to me was actually out of order
I genuinely wasn't trying to avoid work, there was time for us to get both sides closed down in time for leaving at 5pm
So after chatting with my boss & doing the rest of the close down, I finished late & had to phone my neighbours to help let my dog out as I was running late back home
M has been slightly snappy/grumpy with me in previous shifts and i've apologised if i had annoyed her in anyway. This has happened a bunch of times now and the other week, she was grumpy yet again and then she said to the postie in a joking kind of way "it's alright, she will just send me a message later apologising 🙄"
Again, i'm a peacekeeper and just not wanting to annoy anyone or cause any conflict so when she is annoyed, I try and resolve/clear the air straight away/apologize if I had annoyed her in any way (i'm a good worker, friendly, easy to get on with)
I felt like I was walking on eggshells all afternoon
Anyway, we're all gonna chat about it tomorrow and I won't let this get to me, just needing to vent it out to get it out of my mind. My cycle home helped clear my mind. I was gonna be sad about it after work but then I thought actually, nah, i'm not the one in the wrong here and after her comment of "she will just send me a message after work apologising anyway 🙄" the other week, I decided not to message her to apologise
We all need to get along, she could communicate better asking for help, we are meant to be a team but i'm just picking up the slack and getting attitude in my face
I can take a joke but dang, i'm not getting spoken to like that. She needs to reflect and have a think about her mood/how she acts/the things she says and how she says them