hi! you can call me shrimp đŚ im an adult transmasc and use any pronouns except it/its, but if youâre calling me a whiny bitch or a cunt or whatever you have to use she/her because i donât think you should get to pretend youâre not being misogynistic just because im not a woman. other than that i donât care what pronouns you use for me as long as you switch it up every so often!
im disabled both physically and mentally, so i might be a little slow on the uptake sometimes. i apologize for this, please be patient with me. i struggle with remembering to tag for similar reasons, please let me know if i missed something. im not smart so if i ever post something that makes you think âwow this probably goes hard if youâre stupidâ know that itâs me i am stupid â¤ď¸
if youâre asking me something about a specific post or instance, please give me a link to whatever youâre talking about. i struggle with dissociative amnesia and may not know what youâre referring to otherwise.
i will be focused mainly on issues faced by trans men and mascs. this is not because i think trans women and fems do not face issues or because i donât believe in transmisogyny or whatever other bigoted position you want to ascribe to me, but because i am transmasc, this is partially a vent blog, and i want to talk about issues that affect me. yes this is a sideblog, no you cannot have my main. this post will probably be updated periodically.
IF YOU IDENTIFY AS A RADFEM IN ANY CAPACITY WHATSOEVER FUCK OFF EXPEDITIOUSLY THIS BLOG IS NOT FOR YOU đ
core stances and beliefs under cut
the tma/tme framework is at best a nearly useless lens to view trans issues through and at worst an actively harmful one. bigotry and oppression donât work like binary skill checks, especially when theyâre based on something as non-obvious as the presence or absence of trans identity, and ESPECIALLY when itâs being used to group individuals as either transfem or not transfem the way it currently is online.
gender essentialism and radical feminism are both bad even if youâre âtrans inclusiveâ about it. people of any gender, cis or trans, are capable of harm. to pretend otherwise is silly.
trans men and mascs do not have systemic power over trans women and fems.
i personally prefer the term anti-transmasculinity (if only because it makes it harder for people to insist weâre saying systemic misandry is a thing) but i also understand that transandrophobia is more widely used, and as such that is the language i will default to.
i think the oppression and bigotry trans men and mascs face are often based around intersections of misogyny and transphobia, albeit different ones than the term transmisogyny refers to. this is fine, transmisogyny meaning the specific intersections trans women and fems face is not necessarily an issue, i just think trans men and mascs should be able to create our own language to talk about our intersection without being told to kill ourselves, whatever that language may be.
trans men and mascs experience misogyny (for the record, so do cis men, but im not sure if people are ready for that conversation yet)
trans men and mascs talking about âwomensâ reproductive rights and healthcare as our own rights and healthcare are not misgendering ourselves, we are not the ones who decided obstetrics and gynecology and abortion and such were womens issues.
your dysphoria being triggered by people talking about how detransition through forced pregnancy is primarily used against trans men and mascs does not mean it is not a real issue that needs addressing. i would also love to live in a world where i donât have to think about the dysphoria nightmare that is pregnancy, but unfortunately i do not. much to my dismay my uterus did not shrivel up and fall out the second i put he/him in my bio, and hysterectomies arenât free or easy to get.
âyeah but those things happen to women not specifically trans men, that didnât happen because youâre a man it happened cause you were perceived as female so itâs not a trans mens issueâ is not a real rebuttal to a trans man talking about how he is impacted by forced marriage, fgm, honor killings, etc. do you think we just spawn in. do you think those things magically stop being problems for us when we come out, because if so i have some really terrible news for you about how all of them work. things can actually be issues for more than one group of people at the same time.
trans men and mascs talking about oppression we face are not âspeaking overâ trans women or âinsisting we have it worseâ or anything like that, we are allowed to have our own issues, it is not always about you.
positions on the kink/para discourse that got lumped in with this stuff
thought crimes arenât real, but they cease to be thoughts when you post them on your public tumblr blog. you can have your kinks and fantasies, but other people arenât required to stick around when you post siscon or whatever. youâre allowed to have kinks and other people are allowed to think youâre weird. get a journal, or at the very least donât post your kink untagged on main.
attraction isnât always a factor in rape and csa but youâre stupid, lying, or both if you say itâs never a factor. âpeople sexually attracted to children are more likely to engage sexually with children, even if people who arenât sexually attracted to children sometimes do it tooâ seems like it would be a no brainer but i guess not.
children are an oppressed class, but i donât think self identified pedophiles are fighting for childrenâs rights because they care about children. childrenâs rights activism shouldnât start and stop at childrenâs ability to have sex with you. stop pretending you care about their rights outside of making it easier for you to groom them.
forcefem is a cnc kink and it is not the same thing as trans positivity or just telling people to try estrogen or whatever. same with forcemasc.
maybe donât equate pedophilia and sexual abuse with transfeminity. maybe donât say little sister incest kinks are transfem culture. maybe donât do that.
your blog getting deleted isnât lynching or social murder or whatever, you did not die in real life because your blog got deleted.
please donât send me asks about these, my blog is not meant to be about whoever posted rape fantasies this week, these positions are here so i donât get asks about them.
i am not interested in talking about specific people. that being said if you say some stupid shit on my post i will take a screenshot and drown it. whether i post it or not please rest assured that it is in my camera roll with the water filter over it.
reblogs are not me saying âi agree with this person and everything theyâve ever said wholeheartedlyâ i do not have the time or energy to go through every single person i reblog from
i do my best to keep shitheads out of my notes and off my blog but again i canât check every single blog that interacts with me especially if itâs just silently liking and reblogging so i will inevitably miss some
iâm not gonna lie the erasure of transmasculinity everywhere i turn is really starting to get to me lads. multiple characters that are either gnc or outright trans in their source material are being hyper feminized in their television adaptations. a cis lesbian lgbt historianâs video comes across my path and in it she asserts clearly that stormĂŠ delevarie is a cis woman, the comments all agreeing on what a wonderful womanly woman she was, no one does it like women do. another video someone with nearly two million followers posts a video essentially saying trans men donât experience discrimination compared to trans women. it gets tens of thousands of likes. a video of a cis woman in support of trans people next, all the comments talking about how trans women must be women because they are oppressed like women are, i wonder what that makes me to them. two trans men dead this last month. another two trans men with their teeth broken from hate crime assault this week. one of them in a trans sanctuary state, in broad daylight, screaming out for help and everyone around him looks away. looking away. everybody is looking away. we are the thing in the corner of their eye that they would rather not see and what crime did we commit to be treated this way? are we truly seen as so pitifully grotesque for our harmless aberration from the female sex that it feels natural to pretend we are not there? that we were never there? iâm terrified. iâm terrified by what is going to happen to us in the silence. i wish i wasnât.
"Theyfab" isn't a slur, silly! It's only a disparaging, insulting term I call a minority I don't like, irrationally blame for all my problems and make death and rape threats toward. Why would you think it's a slur?
Way too many people are comfortable making their own personal discomfort about their past other peopleâs problem. I was an autistic little fat girl, injecting testosterone every week doesnât change that for me. At one time thatâs who I was and it fundamentally shaped my life in a way that I know for a fact it wouldnât have if Iâd been an autistic fat boy. Iâll always carry a little piece of her inside me, and thatâs okay. If you would find that viewpoint on your life invalidating then thatâs completely fine, you donât have to identify that way. How I or anyone else views their pretransition selves has no bearing on you, says nothing about you and is most importantly not up for you to decide.
The US is detransitioning prisoners and just announced that ICE can detain trans people on suspicion of visa fraud. The UK just banned all care for trans kids and is now conducting an "evidence review" into HRT for trans adults and now the biggest DIY HRT web resource just went down.
Trans people need to learn solidarity yesterday, we need to be ready to organise together and set aside anything that we need to in order to get our shit sorted out. Cis people need to take it seriously that the fascists are trying to completely extinguish transess from existence
Crazy thing to say when it was immigrant trans men & masculine queer people perceived female who were the targets of a forced labor program and sexual violence in ICE detention.
At the South Louisiana Ice Processing Center in Basile, detainees say they were forced into hard labor â and sexually assaulted and stalked
Three current and former detainees who spoke to the Guardian said that, between 2023 and 2025, they endured months of abuse from an assistant warden named Manuel Reyes and his associates. In their complaints to the Department of Homeland Security (DHS) and Immigration and Customs Enforcement (Ice), the detainees also said that they faced retaliation for reporting the abuse to authorities, alleging that Reyes and other staff beat them and denied them medical treatment.
âI was treated worse than an animal,â said Mario Garcia-Valenzuela, one of the detainees. âWe donât deserve to be treated like this.â
Garcia-Valenzuela, a trans man detained at SLIPC, has alleged that, as part of the unsanctioned work program, Reyes forced him to move heavy cabinets and cinder blocks, and to clean using industrial-strength chemicals without gloves or protective gear. When Garcia-Valenzuela complained of injuries from the work program, he said, Reyes and his associates forcefully stripped him naked and mocked him.
Kenia Campos-Flores, who is trans and non-binary, told the Guardian that they suffered from persistent migraines and chest pain after exposure to cleaning chemicals they were made to use during unofficial, overnight work shifts. Campos-Flores also alleged in a complaint they were persistently sexually harassed by Reyes, who entered their dorm and stole possessions including their boxers.
Another trans detainee, Monica Renteria-Gonzalez, complained that a stripper chemical he was told to use to clean the facility floors seeped through his fabric shoes and burned the skin of his feet. On more than one occasion, while Renteria-Gonzalez was bent over cleaning, he said, Reyes came up from behind and inappropriately touched him. The assistant warden also told Renteria-Gonzalez he was watching the detainee through security cameras, including while he was showering.
A fourth detainee, identified by the pseudonym Jane Doe, is a cisgender, queer woman who said that Reyes forced her to perform oral sex on him on a ânear daily basisâ between February and May 2024, threatening to kill her if she refused, according to her complaint. [...]
âThis was a sadistic late-night work program,â said Sarah Decker, a senior staff attorney with RFK Human Rights. âIt was designed to target vulnerable trans men or masculine-presenting LGBTQ people, who [Reyes] coerced into participating.â [...]
Garcia-Valenzuela had fled to the US in 2014 from Mexico, where he was tortured by members of a drug cartel. âI have no choice, thatâs why Iâm fighting,â he said. âBecause I know that as soon as they deport me, Iâm going to be handed over to the cartels and Iâm going to be tortured and killed â ripped into pieces.â
But in SLIPC he faced a new kind of horror. He alleged that on more than one occasion he was told to move heavy metal filing cabinets back and forth across a room. When he struggled to lift the furniture, Reyes would taunt him, he said, saying: âIf you think you are a man, Iâm going to treat you like a man.â
And no one in the community seems to be interested in bringing it the fuck up. Even a post which starts off by talking about forced detransitioning under ICE! You'd think this would be the perfect example of this kind of violence in action, but for some reason people don't seem to think these people make good enough victims for the cause. Why is that?
At a time where reproductive rights are also being drained away, where there is very clear targeting of people's ability to control if they are pregnant, is it really so much to ask that we don't start talking about trans men's ability to "financially and socially defend themselves" as if that means jack shit to the brown undocumented trans men being used as slaves and sexually assaulted by federal employees specifically because they are trans men.
"Focus their energies on protecting the most vulnerable" the majority of people I see who talk about reproductive justice forget trans men. The majority of people I see talk about 99% of social issues forget trans men, much less nonbinary people in general. When exactly are we allowed to focus our energies a population that has a 51% lifetime rate of sexual assault across races, and which goes up to 71% for Native trans men? A population that, no matter what study you look at, is paid less than cis women (also see here)?
"Relatively privileged"? Are you fucking kidding me? Do you have any idea how insanely hurtful and straight up misinformative that is to say, in these circumstances?
The callousness this shows towards trans men is just unconscionable, and is highly suggestive of a lack of knowledge about the violence trans men face as well as a lack of openness to questioning ingrained ideas about transmasculine people. I don't mean this as an attack but this is a very clear example of how people internalize transmasculine erasure and repeat it uncritically as fact. We cannot tolerate this rhetoric. I'd like to once again highlight this HRW report, specifically the section â"Butches Get Punchedâ: Violence Against Masculine-Presenting LBQ+ Peopleâ in âThis Is Why We Become Activistsâ:
"Unless they present hyperfeminine, butches donât have access to the job market. You will not be considered if you donât wear nice womenâs clothes. If you set up catering, you will get told, âI am disgusted; a woman who thinks sheâs a man is cooking for me.â So butch lesbians normally have an assistant, or their femme partner if they have one, who is more feminine-looking to run the front so customers donât know a masculine-presenting person is cooking behind the curtains. Many of us become sex workers [due to lack of job opportunities].⌠But then when police raid brothels and homes, the masculine lesbians get treated âlike men.â This means more forceful handcuffing, kneeling, and stripping their shirts off."
â Rosa, lesbian and sex worker rights defender El Salvador
[...] While gender expression is thus less explicitly criminalized than sexual orientationâthe same project reports 66 countries that criminalize same-sex relations between consenting adults âLBQ+ people interviewed for this report repeatedly named gendered discrimination against masculine gender expressions[238] in particular as the catalyst for a lifetime of economic marginalization, discrimination and harassment at work, psychological abuse, and physical and sexual violence.
Their accounts point to the need for deeper research and analysis of how masculine gender expression by LBQ+ people increases their risk of exposure to various human rights violations and abuses. Some reports on violence against LBQ+ people (explored below) have treated gender expression as a signifier of sexual orientation or gender identity, limiting knowledge production on how presentations of masculinity are themselves policed and violated.
This kind of attitude gets trans men is exactly what is described by this report as "limiting knowledge production on how presentations of masculinity are themselves policed and violated." It's just not right and its not remotely accurate. It can and does get trans men detransitioned and killed, and then those victims ignored and forgotten by the very people who claim to be acting purely out of a desire to focus on the most affected. The insistence that trans men don't need specific, focused attention and concern is exactly what creates the circumstances for their vulnerability!
If anyone wants to know more I'd recommend starting here and here.
If you're a trans man/transmasc falling to the trap that transfems are your enemy 𫵠DON'T. Transfems are our friends and sisters/siblings in arms and generalization of an entire demographic due to one or two of them hating your identity is the wrong way to go about it. You also need to remember it's really easy to just open a blog or send an anon and claim you're a transfem and that all of your transfems friends hate transmascs. Stop listening to what some bigots on the internet say and make friends with transfems and you'll see believing they all suck is a pitfall trap that only lead you to dark places. Don't trust anyone that claims you're only safe with people that share your identity.
Literally all transfems I've met loved transmascs (specially because I was the first one they met) and we easily swapped tips and talked about being trans together with no issue. This divide is totally fabricated. Stop falling for it. Support your trans sisters and listen to their lives experiences NOW.
saw a post like "tmras will insist joan of arc was a transmasc but not even realize that is proof that masculinity is rewarded because joan of arc is celebrated and ascended to sainthood"
and i just googled real quick,
what good is becoming a saint and being celebrated for your GIRL POWER hundreds of years posthumously if during your life you are abused and murdered by the state in one of the most gruesome and painful ways imaginable because you dressed as a man? I wouldnt call that society "rewarding masculinity" in people who are afab.
People: Oh thank God you're not a woman. Here's the hormones, here's your birth certificate control, here's your male privilege, here's your male clothes and you'll be immediately accepted into male spaces with no problem! You're so much better than those vile women.
How it generally happens:
Transmasc: I am a man
People: no you're not, you're a fucking freak. Why do you want to ruin your body with T. Don't take off your uterus and tits what if your hypothetical future husband wants kids. What do you mean you don't want them. Also you'll not be safe in male only spaces nor be safe in female only spaces. Congrats on the newfound easiness of being sexually abused too. Oh also don't forget about people telling you to shut up now not because you're a woman, but because you're a man.
Listen, fellow trans women, I love you all, but if you think that trans men or transmascs are an oppressor class you need to log the fuck off because you are being brainpoisoned by discourse-mongers. That is a legitimately rocks for brains take
There is a HUUUUUGE gap between "transfems experience a unique intersection of oppressions which are not experienced by transmascs", which is true, "some passing trans men benefit from male privilege", which is true, "trans people are not immune to transphobic rhetoric and this can sometimes take the form of transmascs engaging in transmisogyny", which is true, and "transmascs should be treated as equivalent to cis men because trans men are men and therefore as men they are a danger to trans women" like do you see where the gigantic leap of logic comes in here?
There is something personally offensive to me about accounts that go out of their way to post about transmascs being dangerous or untrustworthy or transmisogynistic when the primary danger to trans women right now is the goddamn United States government. Like we've got people in the white house who would outlaw all HRT if given the opportunity and you're gonna post about trans men?? I don't even mean this in a "we have bigger fish to fry" sort of way I mean this is the sense that building solidarity is one of the most important things you can do when faced with a hostile government and society. It's not just that the claims being made are bullshit and transphobic it's that the whole thing feels actively self-destructive toward creating any kind of community that's of any use to anyone
Back when I was in university we were asked to do a brief research exercise on a health condition impacting a community. Can't remember what I wanted to look at now, but it was something to do with the trans community.
Whatever it was, to put it this way, if there were 10 studies on the trans community as a whole, there were 3 on trans women and trans fems and 0 on trans men and trans mascs, and 0 on nonbinary people. All of the mixed studies were also pretty much useless for my purposes as well because they were all so lopsided.
I think I swapped to a bunch of different things - addiction rates, smoking, depression, mental health in general - nothing that was even roughly equal in looking at all of us. Trans men, trans mascs and nonbinary people are so under researched as to be nonexistent.
To keep this brief since I've rambled a bunch - this is a major issue health wise since we have not a lot of literature on what testosterone does to certain bodies. This can lead to major health complications, not because of the testosterone itself, but because there might be an interaction thats missed or a complication that's not noticed (which is the same for any medication that's under researched on certain bodies. This is not me scaring people off of hrt, this is me pointing out its a medication like any other.)
#the therapist who wrote my permission slip for hrt was a trans man#and during that appointment we talked about the erasure of trans men from basically everything#and i talked about an article i had read a week or so earlier about trans people and hiv#it very in depth about risks prevention treatment etc#except that it exclusively referenced trans women with a single sentence at the end basically saying 'oh trans men are at risk too'#less than a year later i saw that same therapist speaking at an hiv organization fundraising event#he talked about how he had just recently been diagnosed with hiv#and had to sit there while this doctor told him all about how the treatment options had never been tested on trans men#none of them#they knew that the treatment would work#but not how effective it would be in comparison to its effectiveness in other demographics#no idea what kind of side effects he might experience#how it would interact with his body and his hormones#what the long term effects would be#nothing#he had to sit there while his doctor told him he would have to be a guinea pig but its not like he has a choice#the only alternative is dying from aids#that whole thing was kind of a wake up call for me#and i started paying more attention getting tested regularly myself and all that sruff you're supposed to do#and over time i befriended the person who did most of my testing#they were also trans masc and we would talk about this kind of stuff#and i told them i wanted to get on prep but every doctor i asked had a wildly different answer on if i even could take it#which verison i could take etc#and they said that only one form of prep has been approved fot trans men but its never actually been tested on trans men#and that one version isnt good for long term use because it has some pretty serious side effects long term#and they said that they regularly go to conferences and meet with representatives from all these drug companies#and they ask 'wheres the data on trans men' 'when are you doing clinical studies on trans men'#and the answer#every single time is: we have not done any studies on trans men and we have no intention to ever do studies on trans men#this is not some passive result of trans masc invisibility it is an active act of erasure that needs to be recognized as an act of violence
Honestly just because someone went to college and has a degree in sociology (not trans/gender studies and feminism specifically, mind you, but yknow) doesn't make them an expert and that theyre 10000% correct in every capacity even in regards to other people's real lived experiences. Like there's so much to say about academic institutions and how they shape the narrative FOR marginalised people rather than WITH them.
Once again, pointing at the "Epistemic Injustice" sign.
It's no stranger to me and other ATM theorists that the current feminist and transfeminist narratives leave out our voices consistently and constantly. That these theories are not made with our experiences in mind. That you cannot take experiences from other demographics, such as cis men, cis women, and trans women, and then assume that any overlap those demographics have with our experiences therefore covers the totality of our existence.
And honestly when the crux of your argument is "the phenomena you're talking about exist, but I keep separating root words from their whole context so I'm intentionally misconstruing what your language means, and also some people I don't like use that language", it's not a very good argument.
And just to add for anyone reading this, misogynoir wasn't coined until 2008. If your argument is that something does not have validity until it reaches academic approval, you are not an ally to any marginalized people. Deep and intelligent conversations on systemic oppression have always been built outside of academia first. Stop trying to be the smartest person in the room and start listening.
Also from the replies, which I want to add to the main post, @learn-how-to-love said:
The fundamental weakness of academia (and unfortunately a built in feature of for-profit education, not a bug) is that it always, by necessity, favors the opinions and viewpoints of the most privileged in any given demographic, because they are the ones who have the economic and social power to attend higher education and stay within academia long-term. This is how we get so many blind spots in studies of marginalized groups, since itâs very often being done by people who do not belong to those groups or those who have been alienated from the average experience of said group due to growing up wealthy and sheltered. So itâs not at all a surprise that theory on the transmasculine experience is so poor when itâs mainly being narrated by people with no firsthand experience with it, who go on to think they must be an authority because thereâs few voices with similar standing rising to challenge them for obvious reasons. I hope itâll one day change, but itâs a predictable pattern.
It's really fucking condescending to approach a transmasculine person talking about their oppression and assume they have no understanding of transfeminism. Its infantilizing, its often dancing between misogynistic and malgendering, and its almost always hypocritical as hell.
If you police the discussions of analysis that tmasc people use with "you're wrong, you clearly need to read (transfeminist text)" maybe reflect on if that text you are citing is one specifically written by or about transmasculine people, or includes any collaboration or input from tmascs at all. Which is like. Pretty much never the situation I encounter.
It's like, cool. I'm not saying that your source from a transfeminine activist/author creating a work about transmisogyny isn't an important contribution to transfeminism, or holding incredibly valuable insights (I mean these are often works I think everyone should read)- but consider that if these works specifically do not center or involve transmasculine people... why are you wielding it as the rule book to define how a discussion on transmasculinity should be held?
Why is it that tmascs need to defer the language they use to communicate their experiences to those who are not them or making any genuine effort to cite, collaborate, or include them?
Why is it automatically wrong to challenge the conclusions those kinds of texts declare about us? Is it that tmascs refuse to accept the conclusions of a work which never sought to sincerely involve them just out of ignorance or pride- or could it be because those conclusions might actually be very limited and inaccurate- no matter the quality of other aspects of the work?
And like. Importantly here.
....Transmasculine people have made contributions to transfeminist materials, you know?
Yes we are underrepresented in transfeminist texts but are we are absolutely there, currently and historically. Our underrepresentation isn't some lack of care we have either, it's quite obviously yet another byproduct of our erasure in society. We are underrepresented in many spaces of career and academia both because of the systemic barriers that exclude and prevent us from entering, and from the fact that our contributions go undervalued and unacknowledged. It is absolutely not unusual to see the curriculum of gender studies classes completely exclude texts made by transgender men and transmasculine people. But they do exist.
Maybe these discussions and ideas of transmasculine theory are so new and shocking to you because you've never taken the time to flesh out your understanding of transgender oppression beyond a handful of transfeminine authors who did not author their works with transmasculine people in mind nor in partnership?
Again. This is not saying these aren't important works, but it should not be so controversial to state they just are not always going to be entirely applicable as the framework through which all other approaches to transfeminism must orbit. Nor is it that are they flawless objects that should not be criticized. Examining the successes and the failures of a text is essential critical analysis & media literacy. Especially in areas of theory.
To treat these works as universal representatives of transgender experience and incapable of having limitations or blind spots is foolish. It is standard practice to go to directly to marginalized people themselves to understand their perspectives and lives, not others. Transmasculine people are not the exception to that.
It just is incredibly telling that the texts consistently quoted at transmasc people to talk down to us about how we need to be properly educated on our place in transfeminism are never texts from transmasculine people themselves. It is self explanatory how you've reached the conclusion it is acceptable to demand transmasculine voices be decentered when you've built an understanding of us from texts which do not make the effort to involve us, but will still try to speak concretely about and for us.
You just sometimes encounter such prideful complicity in total ignorance to tmasc lives which will even myopically promote there are no transmasc texts in transfeminist academia in the first place.
So idk. But just maybe. Don't turn around and act like maybe we just aren't as well read as you are
The people rushing to condemn the team that signed Isaac Ranson, as well as Isaac himself, are missing a really important piece of context too which isn't surprising because BSky and Tumblr are the Nuance Allergy Sites
The team didn't make the "AGAB-only and no T" rules; the league did.
The team, in defiance of the league's wish to remove trans people from public life entirely, offered Isaac a supportive and safe environment (note that they have never misgendered him, they are very vocal about calling HIM their MAN teammate). They didn't ask him to change his name or pronouns; they let him be who he is. And the people saying "well he's not being gendered correctly if he's on the woman's team duh!" are too busy sticking their fingers in their ear screaming LALALALA to get it.
So let's be clear: the team offered Isaac safety and solidarity at a time when the sport he loved, that brought him joy and meaning, was trying to force him out. They said, you can be yourself and play with us. We don't have the authority to put you on the men's team or let you take T, but you can play with us.
And this wasn't a risk-free act! Doing this has every likelihood of opening them up to ridicule and even threats from rightwing and TERFy media who will talk about a team letting on a "mentally ill girl who is a known former doper"! They are very likely to receive death threats over this! And they did it anyway!!
And still, they are being labeled as transphobes for the actions of their league, and Isaac is being labeled a coward for not giving up his life's passion for literally NOTHING. (You think anyone's mind on trans people in sports is going to be changed because Isaac kept playing soccer no matter the cost? You think anyone who was in favor of non-AGAB-segregated sports now supports it because Isaac is on a woman's team?)
I hate it here.
PS: Isaac did not owe it to you whiny assholes to give up on his passion to make you more comfortable. I think his refusal to give up was admirable, and I also think he has every right to say that his gender is only one part of who he is, and that he considers his identity as a soccer player more central to who he is than taking gender-affirming medication. If I had a choice between never being allowed to write again, or never being seen as nonbinary again, I would choose writing in a heartbeat. I'd kill myself if I couldn't write anymore. But I lived over 20 years not being seen as nonbinary, and I could survive 20 more if I had to.
Not everyone defines their gender the same way as you. To some people, it's "death before detransition" and to others, it's "detransition before death." It's not your right to judge what other people get to answer to that- it's only your right to decide where you yourself fall.
Good for Isaac for finding a way to do the thing that brings him joy in a safe environment. I'm going to see if the team sells any merch online.
