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* , it/its, 23yo transmasc enby

blog contains: discussions of transandrophobia and transmasculine-specific transphobia and oppression, transmisogyny, exorsexism, intersexism, intersex liberation/activism, general gender discussions

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[genderkoolaid]

men who have a vagina and/or uterus do not systemically benefit from male privilege. its that simple

[genderkoolaid]

this isn't a statement that should need qualifiers to clarify intent because its true. yeah someone could use this true thing to be a dick, to bend it to mean a certain thing, especially when the person hasn't unlearned any of the oppositional sexism or transphobia theyve been taught.

but it doesn't inherently imply any of that. and it is a pretty basic feminist observation. this should be transfeminism 101. its insane that this is as controversial as it is. the fact that it isnt transfeminism 101 should tell you something about how much feminism has been held back by its own transphobia & anti-transmasculinity.

[genderkoolaid]

if you disagree with this statement i better not ever hear you talking about medical misogyny & the lack of research on "female bodies" or ESPECIALLY reproductive autonomy, abortion, forced pregnancy, etc. etc. because there is NO WAY! to discuss misogyny that targets the body without talking about trans men and nonbinary people and intersex people and, yes trans women, who can also overlap with all of the previous groups!

either you are a transphobe and don't care if we live or we die or you do and you should be making an effort to include us. and that means getting more comfortable with ambiguity and nuance around trans people and their relationships to patriarchy and gender oppression. and that includes trans men and masculinity/manhood in general!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! there is no way around this

transfeminism should be about complicating the feminist framework that was built by & for cis perisex women. it shouldn't be about flattening trans and intersex experiences to fit into that framework. like what are we doing here can we be so for real.

[ftmtftm]

One day when I'm not still struggling with the dissociation and burnout caused by the fascist invasion of the city I live in at the hands of my federal government, I will write about how the fact that Judith Butler is hated by the right wing, radfems + TERFs, and gender conforming binary trans people (especially transmeds) actually makes complete sense because they're all demographics of people with their own intense attachments to/investments in the sex and gender binary and Butler's work asks us to question, divest, and detach from that very system.

[jinnietootsit]

[ieatratsyummy]

You should be outraged for Murry Foust. He was missing for 28 days, almost a month. And he wasn't found by the police, or a police organized search party. No. No, he was found by an independently led group.

And of course, the police are claiming "no foul play" in Murry's death.

We need to be angrier.

[anarchopuppy]

call me a crackpot conspiracy theorist but i dont think its a coincidence that right around the time the us and uk governments were going mask-off transphobic and directly instructing intelligence agencies to treat trans activists as "violent extremists" english speaking social media became flooded w discourse driving a wedge between two of the largest subcomminities of trans ppl, with tons of definitely super real accounts posting shit like "grrr im a trans man and i think whiney feminist trans women should shut their bitch mouths and get back in the kitchen" or "grrrrr i think we should kill all men ESPECIALLY trans men and btw im a totally real trans woman"

[anarchopuppy]

im not saying trans ppl are incapable of being transphobic. lots of ppl are assholes and some of those assholes happen to be trans. but if ur constantly focusing on trans ppl like theyre the main driving force of transphobia in society, while cis politicians are actively dismantling our rights, then ur acting like a fed and im gonna treat u like one. we need to stop fighting each other and start fighting together

[therapatical]

somebody made a joke about cumming in a man without asking if he was on birth control first & now all of trans twitter is telling me that I'm overreacting to a tweet that "clearly was about cumming in a [peri]cis man's ass" and that "not everything is about trans men" and that "it was just a joke get over it" and like this is why y'all keep earning the "Rape Culture Fandom" name i stg

all i said was "read the room, this isn't funny"

[malwareproductions]

how the current discourse feels

[fandomsandfeminism]

As we barrel into another Pride Month, we will inevitably all see the stupidest, coldest, most reductive, exclusionary, assimilationist nonsense discourse simmer to the surface of social media again like scum foaming up on a long simmering soup.

And when that happens, whether it's garbage takes about trans people, or ace people, or nonbinary people, or neopronouns, or he/him lesbians, or bi women with boyfriends, or furries, or *what the fuck ever*- remember-

You do not need to quibble over the details. You do not need verbally spar on every hill that dipshits want to die on.

Just stop and ask- hey, does this fucking matter?

Does it matter if some queer people do _____? Does it cause any actual, measurable, material harm? Is this *actually* a problem? Be specific. Beyond just 'it makes me uncomfortable' and 'but that doesn't make sense' - does it actually *matter*?

Because if the answer is no, then who the fuck cares?

I don't care if something is confusing, or illogical, or weird, or makes you uncomfortable. Does it actually harm anyone? No? Then mind your fucking business.

Its not your responsibility to Lincoln-Douglass debate every overzealous puritan and under-informed tween on the complex nuance and inherent political context of the queer experience. Focus on what matters . Ask them what, if any, harm does ____ actually do, and THAT is all you need to address. (Oh you wanna defend ___ spaces? Which spaces specifically? What are you worried about happening? Oh is ____ normalizing ____? Does it? Does that...matter?)

Because even if other people dont like it, Queer People will continue to be weird, messy, confusing, contradictory, illogical, and strange as we all do our fucking best to be ourselves as best we can be. The way we survive and grow and thrive is by giving each other the grace and space to do so, whether or not we deeply, logically resonate with whatever others have going on.

And we don't talk shit about each other. We don't take pot shots at the queers who are queerer than we are. Throwing other queer people under the bus has never made things better.

So. Circle the wagons, close the ranks, and get comfortable rubbing elbows with people who are, you know, freaks and weirdos.

Happy Pride.

[m4lk1n]

Agab language is very intersexist for a ton of reasons but its also quite transphobic, separating trans people into binary groups based on the gender they forced into as children is transphobic its literally just going back to forcing people into a "male"/"female" binary, that's what reactionaries do to us, why are we defining ourselves using their framework.

It's also just inaccurate, if you mean "has a dick" just say "has a dick" its literally more accurate, a lot of trans men have dicks and a lot of trans women don't, a lot of nonbinary people have a dick and a lot don't. you're not being inclusive by erasing what people actually are in favor of defining them by what they were forced to be.

Also assigning a person a gender is not a neutral act its violent and usually traumatic and I think its kind of fucked up to refer to people based on a process that was very traumatic for most of us, its not inclusive or useful its just repackaged bioessentialism.

[tboy-cock]

trans women and trans men arent "opposites" with "opposite experiences" in the same way that cis women and cis men are not "opposites" with "opposite experiences", in that we're not that fucking different, sex and gender are made up, and the beauty in humanity is that we're all unique and also the same

[dapperghst]

I see WAY too much stuff about people being bad to gnc (gender non-conforming) or feminine trans guys.

"But you can't complian about getting misgendered if you're wearing that!!!!" Who said anything about them complaining?

"But what about dysphoria!?" You don't need dysphoria to be trans, and some people like wearing feminine stuff.

"But doesn't that defeat the whole point?" If a cis guy wore feminine stuff, people would congratulate them on breaking away from gender norms, but if a trans guy does it, it's wrong? (By people, I mean those who cheer on gnc cis, people but turn around and accuse gnc trans people as being "fakers")

Same goes with gnc transfems, gnc trans people aren't faking being trans

Some people have such a narrow view on gender they think that they don't think gender can be more than what people present themselves as :/

[casual-haterism]

ive been thinking about the meme of garfield that goes "you dont hate mondays you hate capitalism" and editing it to "you dont hate masculinity/men you hate the patriarchy" but one im afraid that might be #toowoke for this audience and two i can just imagine all of the annoying people in the comments who will gladly brag about how the whole point flew over their heads and how basic their understanding of feminism is

[filikisser]

sorry to put queer disk horse on main but smth smth rent lowering gunshots?

im anti-exclusionary and i think its bad to gatekeep queer identities & queerness as a whole.

im also of the belief that you cannot describe other peoples lived experiences for them and that by going "thats not [x], youre actually just [y]" is denying people their ability to express themselves and their identity and experiences

[squareic]

"trans men pass easier"

[filikisser]

this upcoming pride month, remember that if you try to dictate what other people say their gender and/or sexuality is, then you are a queerphobe!

[silksong-blog]

—————— TMA/TME users are so stupid. All trans people, unless they are in a 100% supportive area or 100% pass as a man or woman (so not many non-binary people) are in danger in the bathroom (sometimes not even then). ‘TME’ trans people are also at risk of being assaulted or raped in bathrooms.

[probuccalfat]

people will describe their incredibly nebulous sexuality to you that they’ve never been able to define and the whole time you’re thinking that sounds like bisexuality brother

[daysleftofsecondterm]

Well maybe it sounds like bisexuality to YOU, but how does it feel to THEM? Clinical definitions are fine to pass the time, but if someone tells you their sexuality is nebulous, then it is.