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shane purring 🥴🥴

#this might need to be my new pinned post

One of my favorite details about the Backrooms movie is the time period. Which is nothing. Like the time period was so intentionally vague it really made the whole movie extra eerie to me. I guess it’s kinda vaguely late 80s-1990s but we never see any concrete dates and it felt intentionally vague to me

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A place.

lesbianrozanov

one day ilya gets to post a side by side of fat baby shane and fat baby hollander-rozanov, “just like her daddy” and it’s fat baby hollander-rozanov chewing on a puck plushie

#this too is shanepreg

throathole

Sucking YOUR dick after a long day to relieve MY stress

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The DJ at the white girl wedding playing Pink Pony Club followed by Espresso:

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There are two people pictured. Which are you implying is the DJ?

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Stupid bitch

meatdiaz

what’s your “odd” comfort movie? a movie that isn’t stereotypically comforting but does comfort YOU? mine’s conclave (2024)

#don’t look up #literally a movie that is supposed to induce the opposite effect #but it’s sooo funny and comforting to me #same with 2012 so maybe I just love a good disaster movie

winningmachine

Being small Nobody quite recovers from being a child: the asymmetry of power between parents and children always leaves a trace

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cassili

#by far one of the weirdest realizations I came to as an adult #was that my dad didn’t have some secret smart plan that guided how he treated me #he was just an angry stupid man who hit me because he had a bad day and no other outlet #crazy work

wizardarchetypes

u think ocd therapy is impossible to do yourself and that it's all too big to start but you can get workbooks or even just try small things.

a lot of my ritual behaviors are "checking"

self-guided ocd exposure therapy can be as simple as resisting the urge to check if your door is locked more than once and sitting with the discomfort until it passes without engaging in any reassurance rituals.

it can look like sending an email and resisting the urge to re-read it over and over again obsessing over your wording, sitting with the discomfort until it passes without engaging in any reassurance rituals.

some of my rituals are also "avoidance"

in which case it can look like checking your email inbox you've been obsessively avoiding because you're anxious about receiving a specific email you don't want to see.

and YEP! ☝️

sitting with the discomfort until it passes without engaging in any reassurance rituals.

wizardarchetypes

!!!

it might be hard to believe, but learning distress tolerance for things like "checking" with emails and door locks actually prepared me for the Big Ones like harm and sexual OCD themes.

I think this article from 2007 is a good introduction to the basic concepts of exposures:

Self Directed Treatment for OCD The Irony of Doing the Opposite By Paul R. Munford, Ph.D. I remember a movie in which one of the char

that SAID, a lot has changed since 2007! the idea that exposure therapy can (or even should) prevent fears from every happening has come into question!

now the conversation about OCD exposure has turned to training distress tolerance:

...rather than aiming for the decline of anxiety (habituation) during exposure, the inhibitory learning approach to ERP teaches people how to be open-minded toward experiencing anxiety and fear when these experiences inevitably show up. Indeed, fear and anxiety (and other emotions in OCD such as disgust or guilt) are universal and even adaptive experiences, not something that need to be “fixed” or gotten rid of. Most importantly, even if they can be unwanted, intense, and distressing, these emotions and thoughts are safe. From an inhibitory learning perspective, fear extinction (and long-term improvement in OCD) depends not only on learning that feared stimuli are safe, but that it is also safe to experience the emotional response that is triggered by these stimuli.

It should be noted that all of the following procedures are still currently being researched. While there is evidence to suggest that they c

And remember at the end of the day I AM NOT a specialist. I am discussing my own OCD journey and referencing the available material on OCD exposures.

I'm not always right, and I can't know what's best for you.

Which is why I haven't recommended any of the old workbooks I've completed, because some of them are old enough that there are better ones to follow that I haven't gotten to trying yet!

I recommend doing your own reading from OCD-aware organizations:

The mission of the International OCD Foundation is to help those affected by obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) and related disorders to li

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is an anxiety disorder that causes unwanted intrusive thoughts (obsessions) and mental or physical ritua

siegfriedandroy

one really useful tool for ocd remission is the SUDS scale and a lot of people don’t know about it!

Learn how to use SUDS scale in ERP for OCD to track anxiety,reduce compulsions, & make exposures more effective. Expert advice from Dr Ryan

ERP is sort of like exercise where you have to be careful not to under OR over do it. Do too little and you won’t see progress, do too much and you can mentally hurt yourself. Both will prevent you from making long term process. Creating a SUDS scale for your own experiences is a great way to find that perfect balance. It’s also motivating because it lets you track your progress in a real tangible numerical way

aslongasitsblack

to me ilya has this air of old school romanticism about him you know he’s a love declaration guy and so i think as he gets older and his english expands he would become increasingly verbose till the point where his sexts are like

Hollander i want to tear you asunder