How we do Kink or bdsm
1. One thing you need to know before anything else is that your husband does not want to be treated like this all the time. Bdsm is a way for you or him to break away from the everyday life and escape reality and for that hour or two or five, you are not married to each other. You are his mistresses and he is your submissive. So it is extremely important that you know what both you and him knows exactly when the session starts and ends. It helps to get in the right mind set.
2. Prepperation is very important. We use a calendar on our fridge to schedule our sessions. And a 3D printed request tag. If he gets the urge for a session, he flips the tag on the fridge to request, and I know that I need to schedule a session on the calendar. Or if I feel that he needs a punishment session I will schedule it on the calendar. That way he knows exactly when and where to be. Once a session is scheduled. You can not cancel it for any reason. And I mean anything. He needs to mentally prepare for it and if you cancel it for no reason, all that build up anticipation turns into disappointment and sometimes resentment.
3. There has to be a definitive sign that the session has started, like you dressed up or putting him in a color or restraints.
4. This is the most important part of every session. BDSM is role play. You are not his wife, you are his mistresses, Godess, his Queen. So act accordingly. And I'm literally telling you to act the part. For the duration of the session you are someone else. Not his loving wife, but you are his Queen, so put miss nice and soft in the closet and become the bitsh he craves and dream about. This is crucial for this to work. And if he doesn't act like your submissive or servant then you need to punish him accordingly, because just as you have to act as a Queen. He has to act as a submissive for you.
5. You have to make him do humiliating and degrading things like clean the house and do Not help him with it, sit where he can see you a d play with yourself. Make him wear womanās clothing like panties, stockings, maids uniforms and always plugged and in chastity at all times. Peg him and tell him what he is your BITCH and he is not worthy to fuck you with his pathetic little cock
6. When the session is over, there must be aftercare and time to reinforce that you as his wife is there for him and you still love him and can return to reality.
7. Have fun, there is no point in doing it if you can't have some fun in the process. Enjoy the moment, you can be anyone you like. So go for it. He is playing a role as much as you and if he sees you getting into the role and enjoying it, he will act accordingly. Let go and be someone else. Believe me when I tell you he will not judge you for it, in fact he will worship you for it. He needs this more than you can ever imagine.
I think you could swap the F/m dynamic with M/f and this would be equally true. I get such a laugh out of the poser ālifestyleā Doms and Dommes with silly names, when the reality is theyāre 20-something baristas who canāt spell and live at home with their parents. Oh ā¦ fun game. Make up a stupid Dominant screen name!! Like GoddessConnie-Lingus or XtremeMasterBates
