Time Dilation: Or how Ben and Rey spent a lifetime together with single kiss
And ironically, my husband comes to the rescue in trying to help me feel better to make sense of the ending. Please note, my husband is not a Reylo, but we both like taking apart movies and he liked TLJ.  A little background, I spoiled my husband silly with the leaks. I couldnât hold my anger and disappointment to myself, so I spoiled the plot to him before we even watched it.
When we left the theater, one of the first things my husband tells me was:
âRey married Ben. Thatâs why she is Skywalker.â
I was confused because I thought she took the name âSkywalkerâ on a whim while she was in Tatooine. Â
Then he starts laying things out for me logically:
* So many times Ben offerâs his hand to Rey.  We all know thatâs one way of asking someone to marry you. Unlike in TLJ, when Ben offers his hand it was a physical action. But in TROS Ben actually says it.  Also in TROS, Rey confirms that she wanted to take his hand - but she wanted Ben, not Kylo.  In the end, she did take his hand when he was healing her. This marks the first time that they both consciously touched one another. (When Rey has healing him, she didnât touch himâŚher hand was just hovering near him.)  At least to my husband that was tantamount to her actually marrying him at that moment.
* The kiss.  TLJ showed us just how powerful physical interaction between these two. A mere brush of fingertips is enough to catapult visions of the future that they both share. Snoak tries to downplay this but the truth is the visions were all real and true. Palpatine confirms that a very unique bond exists that hasnât been seen in so many generations, between Ben and Rey. So if a finger brush is too much to reduce Rey to tears and ship herself to Ben, what more in a kiss.  My husband thinks that the moment where they kissed made them live out a life with one another where they were together. Thatâs why when they finally came up for air, they were so happy. They got to live their happy ending and because of that Rey was able to let goâŚor who knows maybe they saw visions of the future that they were truly together and all Rey needed to do was to wait. Maybe Ray saw something in those moments, that made her hopeful not grieve for her lost love. (Letâs face it, everyone, Rey loves Ben. There is absolutely no question about that.)
* Rey Skywalker. My husband pointed out that Palpatine called Ben Skywalker - NOT SOLO.  Of course, he knew Benâs official name to be Solo since he manipulated or was Snoak after all. But Palpatine drops that and calls him Skywalker, In fact, I donât recall Ben Solo even uttered in the movieâŚcertainly not by Rey.  Palpatine acknowledges Ben as the last Skywalker and for his granddaughter to take that name, it would imply that she is married to him.  Rey takes Skywalker even after his âdeathâ. She is his even in death.
Of course, I was surprised that it was my husband who actually thought of this. I know he was trying to make me feel better but he told me thatâs how he honestly feltâŚthat they married each other at that time. Â
So thereâŚjust sharing my husbandâs thoughts in this thing. I hope it helps some of you who were felling as lost as I was.
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