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The 4 pillars of FLR

I call them my four D’s…

Domesticate

Establishing a successful 24/7 female led relationship is a lot of hard work on both parties and on many levels. First of all you both have to agree that this lifestyle is what you want and worth the effort. Once you head down the FLR-road, there might be no turning back. Chances are that you yourself will appreciate the lifestyle more and more as you move along. Your husband/partner on the other hand may begin to dislike it once he realizes his entire life is changing and that it isn’t just a hot fantasy he can wank off to any more. In a female led relationship the hubby needs to be doing the majority of the housework and accepting this is a major challenge for most men.

The process of getting your hubby to accept his new role and take on the household chores is what I refer to as “Domestication”. It is important for the power exchange in the relationship. The domestication of your man is important for you to be able to feel “in charge” and for him to feel submissive. It’s what makes the dynamic in a female led relationship work.

Denial

In order to get the attention you need from your husband/partner as you domesticate him, you deny him what he loves most of all, his climax. I use a chastity device for this purpose but it doesn’t have to be a device as long as your hubby is 100% committed and understands the importance of you owning his orgasms. In the beginning you use his orgasms as rewards. You train him with orgasms the same way a dolphin-trainer will slip a fish to a dolphin for doing it’s jump. For example; after doing the appointed household chores to your liking, you tell him he has been a really good boy and as a reward he will be allowed to fuck you. You get the idea. Women have been using sex as rewards for thousands of years. The difference here is that he will know that it is a reward and that you’ll be doing it continuously with him wanting it to be this way.

As your FLR evolves you’ll want to make it harder and harder for him to get his rewards until you find a cyclus that suits your relationship. In time, if you succeed, this will become easier and you won’t have to reward him this way with the same frequency. He’ll learn to appreciate that the true reward is the lifestyle itself.

PS! Taking away his orgasms doesn’t mean that you have to limit your own. Feel free to have sex, masturbate or use your husband in any way you want as often as you like as long as you don’t allow him to climax. From my experience, involving my husband in my pleasure just enhances the effect of the denial. When you’ve had your pleasure and you’re completely satisfied, make sure you talk to him about why he can’t cum and which chores he has to finish to get his reward. When he’s extremely horny, be positive and talk about how you appreciate his efforts with the chores. This makes the conditioning of his mind go a lot faster.

Discipline

The same way you use orgasms as rewards you should also use discipline and punish him when his performance isn’t good enough. You can punish him in a lot of different ways. From simply prolonging the period without orgasm to a harsh bare bottom caning. I am not a sadist and I don’t take any pleasure from disciplining my husband. I do it because I know he needs it. It’s his wish not mine. My husband tells me he needs discipline from time to time in order re-enforce the power exchange between us. The punishments I administer also helps him correct his behaviour and the fear of them helps him to intensify his efforts to please me.

In a lot of the articles, stories, and blog entries you read from Dominatrixes online, you get the impression that bad boys need discipline and spanking is the only way to do that. I don’t agree. I use a variety of methods other than spanking. Very few of them involves hitting.

For instance, the one he hates the most is when I simply ignore him. Absolutely no violence is involved. My husband hates being ignored and it never takes long for him to figure out why he’s being ignored and to correct his behaviour. It’s very effective. I also quite often use what I call “suffer in silence”. I use it because it’s very effective, extremely easy for me to administer, it doesn’t make any sound (we have kids), and it lasts more than 30 minutes which actually gives him a lot of time to think about why he’s being punished. It’s kind of like a harsh spanking and corner time combined. When I administer “suffer in silence” I order him to go to our bedroom and “undress and cuff up”. I follow him upstairs and lock him spreadeagle on his back on our bed before removing his chastitycage. While doing so I make sure he knows why he is being disciplined. This is important. Then I finish up by rubbing a generous ammount of BenGay onto his cock and balls. If I’m especially angry or disappointed in him I slip some into his anus as well. Then I leave the room, close the door behind me and go downstairs for some quiet time with the newspaper or the kids. The effect lasts 30-40 minutes after which I release him and we cuddle up for some aftercare while he tells me what he has learned and how he is going to improve himself and his efforts.

When it comes to discipline, use your imagination and discuss the alternatives with your spouse. He needs to know what might happen and fear it. Keep in mind that it doesn’t have to be spanking.

Domination

Through Domestication, Denial and Discipline you will be the head of your household.

Give it time. My husband and I started on this wonderful journey over 15 years ago and our relationship is still evolving. It’s very often one step forward and two steps back but as long as you’re both committed to the task the results will come.

In a successful modern 24/7 female led relationship you’ll find very few spiked corsets, whips and thigh high boots. Usually there is just a strong, confident woman with an urge to be in charge and a confident husband longing to be submissive, both sharing the courage to challenge the old fashioned patriarchal society. They live this way because female led relationships simply works better…

“An obedient husband is a happy husband!”

Thanks to dragonflyhive

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Interesting read

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From vanilla to chastity

If you are interested in male chastity, then there’s probably already something going on in the relationship where male chastity would be a natural enhancement. To push him further towards the chastity lifestyle you could follow a programme like this :

He wears the device for most of an erotic session. In return, you wear stockings.

He wears the device for all of an erotic session but gets to jerk off at the end. In return, you wear stockings and he gets to use sex toys on you.

He wears the device for all of an erotic session and overnight. In return, you wear stockings and let him watch you masturbate.

He wears the device all week, for the entire erotic session and overnight. In return, you wear stockings and perform any sexual act on yourself that he asks you to.

He wears the device all week, for the entire erotic session and overnight. However, the rules now change. He has to earn erotic activity with additional days of lock up, for example, one day per orgasm you have.

The main thing is to offer him wild erotic experiences, but at the price of wearing the chastity device. After a while, there’s a chance he will think this is a fair trade…

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today’s suggestion #7: welcoming her

have you ever tried to welcome her when she comes home in a way that reflects how much you admire her, and how powerful she is over you? here are a few suggestions for those of you who like doing that, or might be considering the idea:

for subs

learn her schedule, and do your best to adapt to it. she’s your priority, remember that.

show her how happy you are to have her back home - don't’ spare words, and if you missed her, tell her that: say it out loud before her, on your knees. she’ll probably like to know you’ve been missing her badly. 

don’t only greet her, but instead, worship her from the moment she steps inside the house: you can throw yourself at her feet, bow for her, kiss her hands, her feet, beg for her, say how much you missed her and how much you want her. whatever you choose, whatever she likes, whatever you do, remember: make her feel adored and special, from the moment she walks in. 

show her with both words and actions that you’re more than happy to be at her service and obey her every whim if she’d be so kind as to use you; in other words, show her you’re more than happy to be her slave as soon as she gets home, if she’s in the mood for that. explain to her that if she chose to do so, you’d be very happy and that she’d be somewhat doing you a favour, really!

take initiative when greeting her: offer to pick up her bags, purses, etc and put things away; serve her something to drink if she’s thirsty; if she allows you, remove her shoes, and give her a foot massage, etc.

tidy up the house. make sure things are clean and organised when she gets home. (click here for some info & tips on domestic servitude)

surprise her with something nice upon her arrival. for instance, you can buy her flowers to give her when she’s back home. or chocolates, perhaps. alternatively, you could write her a special “welcome” card. maybe you could do all these three things combined, surely she won’t mind, would she? these small gestures can be quite powerful and romantic (to some, even hot!). they are ideal for occasions when you haven’t seen each other for a little while, like a couple of days, due to one of you being too busy with work, or a trip, etc. 

for dommes

build up his anticipation for you. tease him, or whisper things to his ears before you leave the house. alternatively, you can text him when you’re out to tell him when he should be expecting you back. if you’re feeling cruel and playful enough you can even send him a photo of your legs and feet followed by a provocative message like “this is where I expect you to be when I get back home” or give him exact instructions of what he should be wearing (or not) and what pose he should be at, when he greets you back home. in other words, build up his anticipation and make him feel excited to be waiting eagerly for you. 

tell him you like it when he greets you like that, or tell him that you’ve been thinking about it. I know, that doesn’t sound like a real tip at all, but trust me sometimes we forget how powerful and hot it can be for a sub to hear these things. so don’t spare words to explain how you’d like to be greeted by your sub upon your arrival at home: let your words become a form of control in itself, making him go over and over them in his mind during your absence, to the point of driving him crazy and make him count down the seconds until you’re back. 

don’t tell him just “how” you’d like to be greeted, by also “why” you want that - make sure he understands how powerful, how pleasant, how nice it is for you to have such a view when you come home. don’t be afraid to tell him whenever you want him as your slave - he’ll love you forever for doing so. 

enjoy the moment and don’t worry about protocols. for instance, if you come home and you find your man, on his knees, telling you he missed you badly, and you end up melting down a little bit to the sight of that and all you want to do is to kiss him all over, then, by all means, allow yourself to do so. don’t limit yourself, after all this is all about you! plus it won’t ruin the moment. you can have a few minutes of intimacy for the two of you, to kiss each other, exchange caresses, etc. you can do these things before you go back to a more playful mood. all you’d have to do is to mark the transition: for instance, you can push him away, and say something like “now, save it for later, darling, when we’re in bed and cuddling; right now, I want you under my control. get back to your knees, and tell me how much you want to be my slave and how much you missed me, starting now.” alternatively, you can also just go straight into a playful mode as soon as you walk in, catching him almost off-guard. it’s all up to you, and your mood on the occasion. 

challenge your sub, push his limits. is he already on his knees, worshipping you, kissing you, telling you how much he missed you? well, take advantage of that to push him harder if you want. you can tell him that’s not enough, that you want more, that you’re not just happy with being wanted and missed but that you want him to be desperately in need of you, that you want him to crave you so badly that he’d be willing to do anything for you (in a safe and consensual way). you could even be a bit cruel to him - chances are, he’ll probably love you even more for that. and it might end up being quite a turn on to do some cruel things to him, and ask him if he still wants you, or if he regrets it, just to find out that he not only doesn’t regret anything but that he wants you even more than before, if that’s even possible. greeting you like that can be a perfect tool then to put him on the right mindset for you, from the beginning. 

how about you is that something you enjoy as well? 

please, reblog and spread the love! (more femdom suggestions, here) 

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Why Chastity?

Before listing some key reasons, let’s emphasize that chastity encompasses more than just caging a penis. Submissive men with great self-control can be perfectly chaste through obedience alone, a very impressive feat. Dominant men may also prefer a sub with an unusually small penis to have it fully visible. So with both options (caging and pure obedience) in mind, here goes:

Ownership: It reflects someone’s ownership over your body. He decides when it’s right for you to climax. Your orgasms are secondary. It is about the fact that you have ceded control over them to the man who owns your body. He can decide to have you beat off on a whim, or deny it for discipline.

Arousal: Chastity will make you unusually horny. Being unable to release that sexual tension makes you sexually charged. Your feelings of sexual attraction are revved up, and you become more open to new sexual experiences. Paradoxically, you feel more like a sexual person than when you were free. You are always in a state of readiness.

Realignment: Chastity leads to drastic changes in sexual behavior. Being unable to jerk off leads to exploring other forms of sexual activity, such as focusing on your ass, mouth, and nipples (and male breasts for those who have them). 

Self-Control: This is particularly true when chastity is achieved through pure obedience. For those unprepared for this leap, who cannot control their own urges, a cage is like a bike with training wheels. Your key-holder can help you learn the virtues of chastity, to the point where you are eventually able to exercise full self-control. Admittedly, some may never reach that point, and may need to remain caged.

Role Clarity: You enjoy being in a relationship characterized by well-defined and contrasting roles - Dominant and submissive, top and bottom. Sublimating a defining trait of masculine identity - seeing your penis small, limp, and useless except to pee - is psychologically potent. It helps you focus on serving your obviously more masculine partner, both in and out of bed. Especially when caged, it unmistakably signals no need for reciprocation. Your penis is clearly marked as not a sexual organ, focusing your partner’s attention on your ass, mouth, and nipples.

(Inspired by an illustrated post by @chastestories, but extensively rewritten to expand the concept beyond caging)

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NWO- the new world is female!

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I need to let go. Let go of my cock.

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(Vacation Page 1)

My wife, my mistress, my keyholder and I have just gotten back from the most erotic vacation. A nice little three night getaway. I asked her before we left if she intended on bringing my chastity key? (It had been about four weeks since it had been used.) She said you have given me no reason to. Which was still true but I was hoping to change that on this trip. I knew she had no plans of wearing the key around home, but on vacation where we don’t know anyone I was hoping was a possibility. I had bought her a new necklace to hang it from. I wasn’t going to give it to her until we got there, but I wanted to make sure the key would be making the trip. So I have it to her the night before we left. I explained what it was for, and how this way nobody we knew would ever see it. She liked the idea!

Once we got on the plane and she knew we wouldn’t run into anyone from home. She pulled the necklace and key out of her purse. I watched as she dropped the key in her cleavage and fastened the necklace behind her neck. I instantly filled my cage. I am not a self proclaimed boob man. I’m a lower half kind of guy. But in this moment her breasts with my chastity key resting between them were the most amazing thing I had ever seen. Maybe it was the four plus weeks I had gone without getting unlocked, but I had never admired her breasts more. She noticed me squirming and asked if I was trying to get hard. Of course I am. That is one hell of a tease I told her. (To be continued…)

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(Vacation Page 2)

So my wife, my mistress, my keyholder and I are sitting by the pool the afternoon after landing in our vacation spot. I can’t take my eyes off of my key hanging between her breasts. So I ask, what can I do that will convince you to use that key? Once again I was told I needed to come up with something to please her that would convince her. Then I started to beg. Please baby please I’ll do anything. Just name it. Now chastity started out as my fetish, and I love being locked by her. But her wearing my key in public had me a whole new kind of worked up and horny. I swore to myself I would never beg to be released unless that’s what she wanted, and right now she definitely did not want me to. She told me she was going to quit wearing my key if I didn’t stop. So I got in the pool to cool off. I was starting to kind of panic. I didn’t think she would stick to this whole I need to come up with something to get unlocked game, but she was. I started to think she was just leaving me locked because she was upset with me over staring at her friends ass. I dismissed that thought because she has already unlocked me for sex since then. Then I saw another couple talking to her. I wondered what they were saying. My wife, my mistress, my keyholder was nervously playing with her necklace the whole time. Were they asking about it? I’m not sure if people were actually looking at it or I was paranoid, but I felt like my key was drawing a lot of attention. I got out of the pool careful to keep my trunks pulled loose so they didn’t cling around my cage for people to notice through the fabric. The couple had walked off before I got back to her. When I asked what they wanted, she said the woman liked her bikini and wanted to know where her husband could buy one for her. I was skeptical. I told her I thought they were asking about the key, and how I thought it was drawing a lot of attention. She got a little mad that I didn’t think they were just looking at her. So I apologized and explained how I have been so locked in on the key since she started wearing it. I know she said. Then I sort of started begging again. Come on! Please tell me what I can do? I begged. Do you want me to find someone to ask about the key? With that question her eyes lit up. Yes? I asked. If I get someone to ask you what the key is for, will you use it? Then she said. If someone asks me about the key I will tell them exactly what it’s for. Then yes, we will go back to the room and I will use it. Outing your locked up little penis to someone sounds fun since we don’t know anyone here. And if nobody asks? I asked. Well I’m not going to wear it back home so you better make sure it happens while we are here. The rest of that afternoon and all night I was sure everyone was looking at it and everyone was going to ask about it. But when we went to bed that night I don’t think I had ever been hornier or wanted to cum so bad in my life. I knew I wasn’t getting unlocked until at least tomorrow at this point. I knew my wife, my mistress, my keyholder was as horny as I was. I wanted her happy so she didn’t change her mind. So I didn’t even give her the chance to ask when I got in bed. I crawled right up between her legs and started licking the pussy I had never desired to have my dick sunk into more than right then! (To be continued…)

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The Submissive Conundrum

As a lifelong submissive, I want to tell you how much I appreciate your very down-to-earth writing. I have been alone for a long time because of an inability to find a truly dominant woman. Any suggestions would be welcomed.

Answer:

I get this question a lot. Well, more than a lot. There is a whole world of submissive men out there that really can’t seem to find a dominant female. Now First of all, yes, this type of relationship is definitely not the social norm. So it’s really important to understand that many women, simply don’t advertise that they’re dominant unless they’re a pro-domme. It does not mean there is a lack of dominant women in the world. They’re just not flaunting it with leather and heels, because that’s just not comfortable for daily life.

The biggest problem most submissive males have, is that they continue to search for a dominant woman online and really don’t look anywhere offline, because they’re like either one of two things.

1. They are too upfront about their submissive side, and push it onto every woman they meet, who gets completely turned off the idea, even if she might be dominant curious and not know it. How it’s presented to a potential female partner, whether in person or online, really matters. If you’re admitting you like to wear panties and sniff feet…… You’re not really sending out the signal that you’re a good candidate for a long term relationship that promises a good future. Instead, you’re just seen as a sissy foot fetish weirdo that makes her feel obligated to entertain. This obligation is a turn off, and typically ends the relationship before it even starts.

2. They are too shy about their submissive side, and never tell anyone for any reason ever, because they’re trying to protect their fragile masculinity, while at the same time desperate want to break it.  This leads to a submissive always being in limbo, and aloof. Always indecisive and lacking in confidence. Which tends to lead to vanilla relationships, if she can get past your lack of confidence in the first place. It becomes a relationship stuck in a vanilla mindset, and likely, she’s a submissive too. This can lead to sexual incompatibility issues down the road, when the kettle boils over and you finally cave in and express submissive desires, taking a huge risk revealing your “secret” and possibly being rejected.

So… we have, too shy, and too upfront. The biggest roadblocks for a submissive. so what’s the solution? It’s actually really simple, but its going to require you to put yourself out there, in ways that more represent who you are as a whole.

Being submissive, is not the only thing you are. It’s not the only thing you have to offer. But it is a part of you, and you need to find a way to offer it, when the time is right. Which is easily doable, by being exactly who you are. You don’t need to change anything, except your approach. The only reasons you lack confidence is because you don’t know how to express yourself, or you fear rejection. Rejection in the early days, is a beautiful thing. Rejection in the later days, can get messy, so the sooner you face the possibility of rejection, the better. Rejection is a beautiful thing, because its a literal time saver. It saves, your time, and her time, when you can be completely honest. If she’s not willing to accept your submission…. then maybe you’re just simply not compatible with each other. There is nothing wrong with this. Let them go. Move on. Accept that not everyone in the world, is going to embrace who you are, because that’s just silly. So embrace rejection, and expect it. Expect it not in a lack of confidence type of way, but in a way that makes you have gratitude when you’re accepted and enjoy the relationship that much more. That’s the purpose of rejection and failure for that matter.

Second, is expressing yourself. This is a big one because its so simple and so easy, that its overlooked. Whether you’re over expressing yourself, and being all in for your face submissive, and making her feel obligated….. Or under expressive and can’t make decisions and pissing her off every time she asks you where you want to go for dinner…. There is a happy middle ground. That’s the good news. There is a happy middle ground.  The bad news is, you must mentally discipline yourself, and pay attention, to how you’re expressing yourself and train yourself as you go. In other words, you need to be able to look at yourself and see beyond yourself. This is a lot easier than it sounds.

Let me explain.  

As I said earlier, you are more than just a submissive. You are a person, and you have a personality, you have hobbies, and interests, likes and dislikes. You have a life, you have something to offer. Kindness, compassion, chivalry, romance, good conversation and so on. You have a unique way of connection with people. The problem is, when it comes to women, most submissive men(all men), can’t see beyond their hornyness, and she is seen as if she’s on a pedestal, or as a fetish dispenser, or as something to conquer…. ( topping from the bottom subs are the worst) ….. See her as a person. See her like anyone else in your life, and have a normal decent conversation with her. Get to know her. Dominant women are everywhere there is no shortage of them, they’re the cashier at the grocery store, the waiter at your table….. They’re everywhere. But you can’t know that, unless you get to know them, unless you get off the internet, and start going on dates. Forget the submissive part for now, its like going around wearing a t-shirt that says “ I fuck on the first date.” Leave sex out of it.  Be who you are, without sex, and just enjoy the attraction to each other, this is how chemistry is built to begin with.  Go have a good time together.

Now while you’re having a good time together, you can show certain but subtle submissive traits. Which are typically all the traits we were supposed to learn as children. Like opening doors for her, buying her meal, and just general chivalry. Let the chemistry build up and see if it can go to the next level. As things carry on, and the relationship becomes sexual, you can begin to tell her that you’re submissive and enjoy pleasuring her. Nothing crazy…. see how she responds. You’re only a few dates in, and you’ve gotten to know a really nice person, now its time to find out if you’re sexually compatible. If you are, then you’ve made more than a friend. If not, then maybe you become friends, maybe you don’t, but the relationship can end there, and very little time was wasted. It gave you experience being yourself, and being comfortable talking to a woman, and it also gave you the possibility of being accepted as a submissive. Which is very rare with the typical upfront or too shy approach.

In other words, to make this entire thing succinct enough to wrap up in a single sentence…….

Use your alpha to empower your beta.

Now get out there and rock a woman’s world with your personality, so she can see the true value you have to offer with your submission.

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The Art of Cuckolding

Alright, lets destroy the taboo surrounding cuckolding once and for all. Are you ready? Get ready, because when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. When it comes to cuckolding, you have to see it for what it is, rather than what you think it is. In other words, you have to see it, from a perspective, that doesn’t personally involve you, even if you’re the one being cuckolded. There’s a submission in that, a surrendering, and it’s that surrendering that makes cuckolding an incredible experience, compared to a betrayal of trust, or neglect, or envy, or jealousy.

First of all, cuckolding is not required to have a successful, happy, and wonderful female led relationship. Many don’t need it, nor want it. However, many could benefit from it, if they examined why they don’t want it. So in the end, it really boils down to if cuckolding is in alignment with you both as a couple, or not, and whether or not, you can get in alignment with it.

Cuckolding is often something that is worked toward as the relationship progresses, as each partner becomes more confident in their role as dominant and submissive, cuckolding is just the next natural step to take. Sometimes it comes easier, or even, occurs early on, so this does vary per couple, but as a general rule, it’s something that is evolved toward.

The reason for this, is because it really does require a lot of inner work in both partners.  The inner work of becoming dominant and submissive, requires a change in mindset, it requires letting go of what doesn’t serve you anymore.  A dominant cannot hang onto insecurity and be fully dominant. A submissive can’t truly submit without giving up control. You see, this inner work, changes mindsets as the relationship evolves.  At first it’s the overcoming of some inhibitions, while keeping others.

Then this gradually evolves into slightly more into letting go of inhibitions, a little more experimental, a little more exploring. A little more intense D/s dynamic. What was once fun, has become the expectation. It’s great to lock him up in chastity, for 3 days, it’s a lot of fun, but now he’s expected to be locked up for a week at a time, without complaint. There is inner work happening automatically to respond to the D/s dynamic. She becomes a little more dominant in time, and he becomes a little more submissive in time. Less inhibitions, more power exchange.

So naturally, it gets to a point where she has discovered that keeping him denied and very horny, is the best place to keep him, all of the time. That if she decides to let him have a release, it’s for her entertainment, and not his need. So often, she finds that intercourse is just something he can’t give her anymore, or very often, because it takes him out of the obedient state she wants him to be in. She doesn’t want to wait for that obedient state to build back up again, she wants to just keep him there, because that’s where he best serves her. She discovers, its up to her, if she wants him out of that state or not.

So now the dilemma of intercourse comes along, and sure, she can make him use a strap on, or a face dildo, and have him pretend to be good at the rough sex she craves from time to time, and this can work maybe beautifully. It serves to tease him and keep him denied, she cums, and it brings them closer together in the D/s dynamic. He loves providing her pleasure, and being kept denied for her.

Yet, it’s still often not as good as the real thing. Not only that, but as her confidence increased as she becomes more dominant, she’s going to naturally be more attractive to the men in the world. She’s going to be getting male attention, and as she becomes more and more dominant, she’s going to realize that her submissive has no say in her sex life if she doesn’t want him to have a say.

A submissive, having done the inner work, will eventually come to the same conclusion if he hasn’t already. He knows her sex life has nothing to do with him, and he wants to make sure she is pleasured. Many submissives find the idea is very hot, and encourage their dominant to cuckold them. However, if they haven’t done the inner work, they’re going to find that when she actually follows through on it, he feels neglected by her. Or jealous of her lover. If the inner work hasn’t been done, cuckolding can wreak havoc on the relationship.

The idea that she could do it, when he really only loved the fantasy of it. The reality hits him like a truck. He either does the inner work because of that, or it ruins him and his relationship to her, feeling betrayed. On the flip side, she may feel guilty for having done it, and when that’s combined with his feelings of betray, look out, it’s likely a relationship ender. And it’s all because the inner work wasn’t done in either of them, they’ve now encountered friction on a level beyond their capability to cope.

This is why cuckolding should never be rushed, and should be adequately communicated about with each other. There should be no secrets between each other, all fantasies and all fetishes, and all feelings, should be on the table in plain view, at all times. When she gets the urge to cuckold him because some cute guy hit on her at the gym, she should be able to go home and tell her submissive about it, just to gauge his reaction. Which should be an honest reply of how he really feels about it.

During the discovery of the D/s dynamic and the letting go of inhibitions there are often key points where each partner has their own epiphany, the epiphany that this is really happening, that he is hers. A sense of belonging, or a sense of ownership. It’s just a point in which, that level of D/s dynamic has become the new normal. That there’s no going back. Many couples experience many gradual epiphanies, but there comes a point where there’s an epiphany of epiphanies. It’s the point where, the D/s dynamic is who they truly are. It’s the epiphany of freedom to be dominant, and freedom to be submissive. The becoming dominant and submissive to each other is over, they have become dominant and submissive to each other.

It’s the point at which, his dedication to her never wavers, and she knows she is free to do anything she pleases without  the fear that he would ever leave her. This doesn’t include abuse, abuse is always a deal breaker. However within the framework of the D/s dynamic, he is hers, and she controls both their lives. Which means, she gets to act single, if she wishes, when she is out and about. Her submissive, knowing he belongs to her, wants her to fully be herself, and if that means finding a lover, to make up for the sex he’s no longer allowed to give her, or perhaps never could, then he’s all for it. Her pleasure, is his pleasure, and he wants that for her. He encourages that for her. He may help her accomplish it, if she wants him to.

Cuckolding can become this very intimate thing, that takes the D/s dynamic to the next level. She may have him get her ready for dates, picking out a cute outfit, or driving her to her date. He may help her get ready for the date, shaving her legs, after bathing her. The fantasy of the cuckolding can become a very intimate experience and bring them very close together. He is excited for her and happy she’s confident enough to truly get what she wants.

Cuckolding can start out gradually like all other things, and build up to more and more involvement for her submissive. Maybe he’s at home while she’s out at her lovers hotel room and she comes home the next day to tell him about it. Maybe it then graduates to her inviting her lover to her house. Maybe her cuckold is in the same room, maybe not. There’s any number of ways and ideas that can be explored through cuckolding and that’s dependent upon what she wants.

After the fact, her submissive is eager to hear the detail, he’s eager to support her, and make sure she doesn’t feel guilty about it. He feels owned and in complete bliss knowing she comes home to him. That he is hers, and she cuddles him afterward. He loves her through allowing her to come back to him. That she is free, and she loves him because of that freedom. He is her rock. He is the one she trusts more than anyone in the world. Nothing can replace him. Cuckolding can bring about that realization. He has nothing to do with her sex life, yet everything to do with it. Which is exactly what submission is.

It’s the knowing that he is where he belongs, and that belonging can’t have attachments to outcomes. Because an attachment to an outcome, is an attempt to control. He gets the outcome she wants him to have. He doesn’t get a say in that but she must know his limits.

That’s the beauty of the D/s dynamic it’s designed to discover those limits. A lot of what people think are limits, are just inhibitions that can be overcome in time, with inner work. Some of them can’t be, and if there truly is no inner work to be done, and the resistance to the idea is that strong that it repulses you, then that’s the limit. But if there’s any question at all, any inkling that may not be the case, that needs to be communication, because there’s inner work there, that can be done.

If that inner work is done with cuckolding, it really does open up a whole new world to the D/s dynamic, and the possibilities that can be explored together. Those possibilities can never be understood, until they’re already available. You have to become a cuckold couple, to understand that. Everything else is fantasy that can’t become reality, or a turn off that is loyal to monogamy.

Many people are enslaved by the idea of monogamy, but when they discover it’s simply a social construct designed to keep people limited because sexual expression is shunned, they want to free themselves. Others, make it a choice, and when it’s a choice, it’s perfectly okay. There is nothing wrong with being monogamous. But you have to ask yourself, is it you making the choice, or is it society making the choice for you? If it’s society making the choice for you, then you have to understand, that you were never given the option. “ A bird that’s lived it’s whole life in a cage, thinks flying is an illness.”

Cuckolding is not cheating, rather,  It is a direct result of the unfolding of natural female desire. Where she understands that monogamy was just another instilled taboo to control her. She realizes she can have the best of both worlds, having an attentive submissive to cater to her sensual sexual nature, to provide her with everything she wants, and a lover to give her the sex she craves, liberating her to explore her sexuality beyond her wildest dreams. Which means, since she gets the best of both worlds, her submissive does to, because he belongs to her, and her pleasure is his pleasure, her happiness, his happiness. They both get the best of both worlds, because neither of them, want it to be any other way.

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Chastity

Chastity is a curious fetish. It’s curious because it’s a fetish that morphs into a lifestyle with relative ease. It’s also a fetish that is just as addicting for the wearer, as it is for the key holder. The part that makes chastity the most curious however, is just how quickly it can change the mindset of the wearer and key holder. It doesn’t take very long at all to recognize just how powerful D/s can be. Chastity does however, have a few learning curves to it, but they can also be a part of the fun.

When starting out with chastity, it can take a bit of time to get the right fit. There’s a lot of components that need to fit together just right. Too tight can mean serious health consequences, where as too loose might mean the cage falls off without the key. Taking the time to figure out the right fit will beneficial for longer term wear, and putting an end to pinching, or chafing.

It’s important that the base ring fits snugly, just before it cuts off blood circulation. When you’re first starting out, you’ll find that over time, you’ll need to gradually move to smaller rings as the body adjusts.  When you’re just starting out with chastity, the male body is going to rebel against it for the first few weeks. In fact, the device will likely not be able to be worn overnight because in the middle of the night, nocturnal erections will prevent him from sleeping. Not because it’s painful, but because the penis is trying to push the cage away from the body. This causes the scrotum to pull against the ring causing it to stretch. This stretching makes him feel a burning sensation that doesn’t really hurt, but it’s a strong enough feeling to prevent sleep.

Don’t worry, with a few repeated attempts to wear the device overnight, the scrotum will stretch and the burning will cease until the cage can be worn all night long. All attempted erections can be slept through, and he will awake as a very horny locked submissive. Being able to stay locked for a full night is a milestone. The stretching/burning sensation will come back when attempting to do 2 - 3 or more nights in a row, because the body is still not used to it fully. Eventually all this will stop, and he’ll be able to stay chaste indefinitely, without losing any sleep.

Chafing is another concern, because it’s a device attached to a moving part of the body, the ring will tend or irritate the skin and cause it to go raw. One good way to combat this, is to use a clear diaper rash ointment which works like a lube, or remove the cage until it heals then try again. One good brand of ointment is Penaten daily clear protection cream, its on Amazon. This can also be used inside the cage, because it repels moisture. It prevents any kind of infections from sweat and daily use while also allowing the penis to slide around in the cage instead of sticking to the sides. It makes it much easier for him to go pee, without struggling to line his penis up with the hole.

Over time as the body get used to the cage, the skin will stretch, and jumping down a size in the base ring may be a good idea. The cage will often begin to pull forward after a few days of wear, making pullout very possible, if not tempting. Moving to a smaller ring at this point, is a good idea.

Attempted erections over time will lessen to a degree. Not because he’s losing the ability to get hard, quite the opposite in fact, when he’s allowed to be hard, he’ll be harder than he’s ever been! However, his body will have learned that it cannot win against the cage, and will accept defeat. It will not try to get erect as often, which means, his penis will be flaccid most of the time.  If you look at the cage, and see where his flaccid penis is resting, it will likely be a short distance away front the end of the cage. This means, upgrading to a smaller cage would be beneficial.

The cage should fit around the flaccid penis so that it rests touching the end of the cage. Not straining against it. The object is not to cram the penis into the cage, so that even when its resting its backing up into his body. The cage should match his flaccid size, so that when he attempts to get hard, he’s gently denied. Causing him to squirm in frustration and submission.

One other important part to remember when fitting a chastity cage, is the space between the base ring and the cage itself. The gap should not be very wide, it should be wide enough to enable circulation. It should compress the scrotum, so that the balls are snugly held in place. If the gap is too wide, when he gets cold, or is active, or even sleeping, his testicles might slip through that gap, and that can cause pain or injury. Especially if one testicle can slip through and the other cannot.

It is for reasons exactly like that, that the submissive should have access to a chastity key at all times. It doesn’t mean he gets to keep a key on his key chain. But perhaps in a sealed, stapled and signed envelope, that can’t be opened without being noticed. It’s also something that can cause him to be extra horny, knowing the key is within his reach, but he can’t use it without his key holder knowing. So safety first, can be beneficial in more ways than one.

It can be a lot of fun to figure out the right size, and experiment with chastity, it’s really the perfect way to figure out if chastity is for you or not. Once you get past the fitting stages, and getting the body used to it, the real fun begins. It’s the point where, she truly gets to decide if and when, he gets unlocked.

A whole new psychological level unlocks with chastity. One very interesting aspect of chastity is that it’s often a male driven fantasy, but the benefits of it hit the female harder. After a few days of keeping him under lock and key, she often thinks about it throughout the day, and really enjoys the extra attention he’s trying to pour onto her. His puppy dog eyes, his eagerness to please, the housework gets done, dinner gets made and she just gets to relax. A few days of this, and she begins to feel his frustration. She can feel it like he feels it, but in a different way. She feels the power of it, where as, he feels the helplessness of it.

This power that she feels, makes her feel desired, while at the same time, having her own desire. It’s an exquisite mix of emotion that helps her to discover just how much power she has, which gives her the confidence to become a little more dominant. It doesn’t take her very long to realize she loves the idea of chastity. This is a realization that even the submissive hasn’t had yet. She’s leap frogged his understanding of chastity, and it has now become her idea and her fantasy, and no longer his.

It can actually take the submissive a substantially longer period of time to realize how powerful chastity really is. At first he may have been the one pushing it, trying to move faster, wanting her to be more dominant. However, once she truly gets it, she’s going to be taking control in ways he’s not yet comfortable with. Especially when it comes to sex, and realizing that he doesn’t actually get to even touch himself while pleasuring her. The intensity of that alone, can make a submissive realize what he’s gotten himself into!

This might make him become resistant, to be rebellious at first. He may even want out of the cage, just as an excuse to masturbate. It’s okay, if he seriously wants out, and doesn’t want to submit any further, let him out. Within a short period of time, a couple days, or a couple weeks, he’ll miss it. Once a submissive has had a small taste of chastity, especially well fitting chastity, it’s nearly impossible for him to ignore it for long. It calls to him. The feeling of being locked is a feeling that is so addicting, so powerful, that he’ll be begging to be locked again.

This time around he’ll understand more of what he’s gotten himself into, and will be more cooperative. Non sexual activities will become sexual for him. Every chore, will be an act of service, which he will hope for a reward from her. Everything he does, will be in hopes to receive an unlock. Going out for dinner and a movie, might get him feeling hopeful, until she teases him by saying she feels like a bath and a full body massage when they get home. He knows he’ll be locked all night, in service to her.

Eventually he’ll have the same epiphany she had, he will feel his submission take over his whole body. He’ll realize he’s not in control, that he’s surrendered to her, and he has no idea what’s going to come next. He will stop trying to be unlocked through good behavior, and realize good behavior was never why he was unlocked. He gets unlocked, only through obedience to her. It’s a pivotal shift in a female led relationship, where he suddenly gets what it means to be a submissive. That’s when chastity really begins.

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CUNNILINGUS 101 - A Guide to Eating Pussy

Oral 101 - Eating Her Out

Before oral: GET FAMILIAR with cisgender women’s anatomy. Look up a detailed guide that differentiates between her inner and outer labia, her clitoris, her clitoral hood, her vaginal opening, her mound, and the opening of her urethra. When things are wet and messy, people can sometimes confuse these things. When you confuse the parts of a women’s body, it can make that woman feel ashamed - not because there is anything wrong with HER, but because you seem distracted, or apathetic. When you get distracted, or (for example) don’t locate her clit, it may communicate that you aren’t paying attention to her body, aren’t reading her body language/reactions, or straight up don’t care about her pleasure. MOST PEOPLE (particularly men) do NOT get an adequate sex 101 that appropriately or comprehensively incorporates female pleasure. This 101 guide will serve as a basic template for giving cisgender women oral. The rest of the play is up to you.

Note: giving good head and coming to understand your partner’s preferences is a LEARNING experience. The best students ask questions. Don’t be afraid to say, “Do you like this?” “How does this feel?” “Faster or slower? “Harder or softer?” “Tell me what to do.” One handy trick - when you’re between her legs, if you’re having any trouble locating her clit or figuring out where your mouth should go, ask her to touch herself/her clit. You can make it sexy and as demanding/dominant as you’d like (keeping your partner’s sexual preferences in mind, of course). Then, when she touches her clit in front of your face, you know where your tongue goes. Sometimes clits hide. They can be shy. They can take a while to emerge. There are folds around the pussy and some clits are very small. Ask for help. Your partner knows how to be your homing beacon, and making sure you’re licking the right place will show her that you care, you’re invested in her pleasure,

and you want to do this right.

What to do:

1. Kiss all the way down her body. Stop at her breasts, lick her nipples, nip at her ribs, kiss her bellybutton, bite her hips (gently). Kiss every part of her you can reach. Build anticipation. Spend time on her nipples. Be soft. Be slow. Swirl your tongue. Take your time. There is no rush to get to her pussy. The more you build anticipation, the more sensitive her clit will be when you do get to it.

2. When you get down to her pussy, stop. Tell her she’s beautiful. Tell her she smells amazing. Tell her you can’t wait to taste her. Women spend much of their lives being told that the taste, smell, and function of their vaginas is disgusting or something to hide. It is your job as her sexual partner to help her undo all of the fucked up messages she has gotten about her pussy. Treat it like the holy grail. Say, “wow.” Say, “you are so sexy.” Say, “I love being in between your legs. I love having you spread open like this.” It is very likely that NO ONE has ever spoken to her like this before. It is very likely that she has experienced 10X more shame about her pussy than she has experienced praise. Help her begin to undo that trauma. Treat her like she’s glorious.

3. Despite the fact that you just told her you can’t wait to taste her, definitely make *her* wait for your mouth. Kiss her inner thighs. Softly. Bite her hips. Be playful. Be eager. Suck small hickeys between her legs. Get closer and closer to her pussy, but don’t make contact yet. Breathe over her pussy, so she can feel how close you are. Kiss her mound. Lick her outer lips. Run your fingers over her pussy, from her clit down to her vaginal opening and back. Feel how wet you’ve already made her. Spread her wetness around. Touch her with your fingers first, but avoid direct contact with her clit.

4. When she’s moaning and panting a bit - when you can hear that you’ve worked her up - then you have permission to taste her. Get your face between her legs (seriously, a visual guide will HELP YOU and your eyes are your best friends when it comes to locating her clit). Use your fingers to spread open her labia, revealing her clitoral hood. Then, start licking. SOFTLY. I have seen so much advice telling men to be firm with their tongues. There is a time and place to be firm. Right at the beginning of oral is NOT IT. Start slow and make sure your tongue and mouth are nice and wet. Lick her clit in long, slow swipes. Try to lick from underneath the clitoral hood, so the flat of your tongue is pressed against her clit (note - some women might be more sensitive and prefer you to focus on the hood rather than the clitoris directly. Ask what your partner prefers). Lick slowly and steadily. Do NOT flick or jab your tongue quickly. You’re more likely to miss her clit entirely if you do this, and it doesn’t feel as good as the steady pressure and slow glide.

5. Try a few different patterns and figure out what works best for her. My favorite is small circles, but some women prefer zigzags or stripes or X shapes or the alphabet or diagonal licks across their clit. Try multiple patterns out and ask her what feels the best. If she says, “go back to that thing” or “do that again,” confirm with her that you went back to the *right* thing. Say, “you mean this? Or this?” It can be tough for women to make demands in bed. Show her how much you want to take direction. Communicate that you want to be a fucking PRO at this. It will help her feel more comfortable giving you guidance. And, in return, she’ll be more eager giving you pleasure as well. Win-win!

6. Most women say that the thing that is most likely to make them orgasm is CONSISTENCY. When you find something she likes (wet zigzags with the tip of your tongue, small circles against her clit with the flat of your tongue, slow swipes across her clit, soft licks from right underneath the hood), continue doing that thing. ASK HER if she’ll be able to come if you keep doing this for 20 minutes straight. If the answer is no, ask her what else she needs. You can slowly (very slowly) increase pressure and speed.

7. Feel free to introduce fingers, but keep a few things in mind. First, women generally don’t like to be roughly or violently finger-fucked while they’re getting oral. It can take away from the pleasure and distract from the task at hand. Start with one finger, and go slowly. Second, make sure you have short fingernails. You can introduce a second finger, but pump them in and out of her slowly. Crook them a bit inside of her while you continue licking her with the pattern she’s already told you she likes. Often, when fingers get introduced during oral, that becomes the main feature and the clit gets lost. The mouth strays away from the clitoris and her orgasm is delayed or she may feel as if her primary pleasure (clitoral stimulation) is being ignored for the sake of a sexual script that is not designed to make her orgasm (penetration). If you’re concerned that introducing fingers will distract you from her clit, don’t introduce them yet. Start with just oral and begin using fingers only when you can find her clit with the tip of your tongue, in the dark, within a few seconds.

8. Again, consistency is key. Continue licking her the way she likes. Be prepared to STAY THERE for 30 minutes. Make sure you’re in a comfortable position. Touch her. Rub your fingers over her nipples. Grab her ass. Run your fingers across her stomach and hips. Hold her hands. Use your hands to tilt her hips toward you. Use your hands to angle her in a way that gives you better access to her clit.

9. When you can feel that she’s getting closer, speed up a bit and (very slowly) increase pressure with your tongue on her clit. Be careful not to start flicking or getting distracted. You might lose the pattern that works for her. Moan. Bury your face into her. Tell her you want to make her come. Lick her like she’s delicious. Continue to lick her until she’s coming. Get your face wet. Use your entire tongue. Know that the clit will get even more sensitive during orgasm. Slow down and be a bit more gentle once she begins to orgasm, but DO NOT STOP. Lick her through it. If you go a bit softer after her orgasm has begun, but don’t lose contact with her clit, you can double the length of her orgasm.

10. When she starts to squirm or laugh or close her legs, she’s overly sensitive. Kiss her thighs. Squeeze her hips. Kiss her mound. Love her through it. But do stop licking her clit. Overstimulation can start to hurt after a short while.

Things to avoid:

1. Teeth. Do not use teeth. Period.

2. Confusing her clit with the opening of her urethra.

3. Sucking her clit too hard (some women enjoy clit sucking, but BE GENTLE, and know that it isn’t for everyone. Steady licking is a surer bet).

4. Violent finger-fucking. Don’t. Just don’t.

5. Long fingernails. Trim those.

6. Being too rough with your tongue or flicking instead of licking.

7. Losing her clit or getting distracted.

8. Spending too much time on her vaginal opening rather than the clit itself.

9. Stopping too early.

10. Switching it up too much (consistency is key!)

Remember, women have been taught sexual shame our entire lives. You dedicating 30-40 minutes to enthusiastically give the woman you’re sleeping with oral can go a long way in undoing the toxic messages we’ve received about our bodies, our pleasure, and our deservingness. Your tongue can literally make a difference for our self esteem. Spending time on us and telling us how much you enjoy giving oral is BEING AN ALLY. It is showing up for women. It is helping combat the orgasm gap. It is setting a higher bar for the sexual behavior and generosity of women’s sexual partners. It is sexy. It is fun. It is helpful. It is healing. It is time well-spent.

Happy loving and happy licking, my friends! ❤️❤️❤️

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Very good & fully approved!

Lick her daily!

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Written by a guy but lesbian approved…EXCEPT WE ARE ALL INDIVIDUALS AND DIFFERENT. The guide is your heart and your partners response. Everything else means nothing so just spend a lot of time…practicing.❤️

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WHY IS YOUR HUSBAND OR BOYFRIEND INTERESTED IN CHASTITY?

The concept of being denied sexual pleasure for the privilege of pleasing you is highly arousing for your lover. We all have secret fetish dreams, fantasies and hopes and male chastity is just one of those.

It’s a secret fetish that your man finds highly provocative, arousing and very sexy, to the point that even just an image of a chastity device could cause the beginnings of an erection.

It links in with the sexual fantasy of surrendering himself to you in erotic submission.

It’s not just concerned with physical sensations, but the mind, body, emotional and inner most self. He will understand chastity as all encompassing desire, fetish or kink, that’s an intellectual, physical, emotional, sexual and spiritual experience.

From his sexual fantasy perspective the allure is that his loving wife or girlfriend holds the key to his penis. His cock becomes yours, it’s freedom is dependent upon you releasing him. You hold the key to this release. You become his Keyholder.

Your lover believes that he’s masturbating far too much and would like your help to control this by making him wear a chastity device to prevent him touching himself.

He longs to be “Loved, Locked and Owned” by you, and he believes that wearing a chastity device will demonstrate his commitment and faithfulness to you.

He longs to escape from every day realities and to allow his submissive desires freedom. This is a “need” for many men who long to set free their sexual submissiveness in the safety and security of their own homes and with their loving wife or girlfriend.

Orgasm denial is highly arousing to him.

He believes that you are superior to him and needs to demonstrate his acknowledgement of this by wearing a chastity belt or device.

A highly sexy aspect is that your husband will aim to seek his pleasure in pleasing and pleasuring you, thinking of his keyholder’s needs above his own. Wearing a chastity device help him to sexually achieve this.

If he’s found the courage to tell you about his desires and sexual fantasies he’s probably done so because he believes it’s something very special he can share with you, and feels that, in being his keyholder, you may really enjoy and relish it just as much as he.

They seem to be getting smaller!

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Why you should lock up his cock.

1. He can’t masturbate whenever he wants. 

You now control when/how/if he cums. No more jacking off whenever he pleases. You give him permission to be unlocked and released. This makes him desire you so much more. He’ll want to fuck you every chance he gets. But you decide if he’s allowed to.

 2. You have all the control. 

You having all this power is sexy for the both of you. Make him your slave. He will do whatever you want, whenever you want. Make him fall to his knees when he gets home to go down on you before you even think about unlocking him.

 3. You come/cum first. 

He now lives to please you. The beautiful thing is that it’s all about you 24/7. Make him get you off 10 times before you unlock him. Or make him get you off 10 times and don’t unlock him. ;)

 4. It’s fun.

Make it a game. Have him flip a coin. Heads he gets to cum that night, tails he stays in his cage. Theres so many things you can do with this. Be creative. Make him wonder how or if he will cum. And what he’ll have to in order or be unlocked.

 5. Torture him.

Tell him when you’re masturbating. Send him pictures of you pleasing yourself while he’s at work, caged. Tell him what you’re getting off too. Suck his balls when he’s locked up. Make him think you’re going to unlock him but don’t. 

Chastity is an amazing thing. We are loving this lifestyle.

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CHASTITY CONTRACT

This agreement is strictly between _________________ and _________________.

The agreement fully releases all rights of ownership of the penis that was once owned by ________________ and transfers all rights to ________________. Effective immediately the following rules of agreement will be fully in forced. Failure to follow these rules will result in punishment.

1. He will obey her fully with out question or complaint, this total obedience to her is mandatory.

2. He will refer to her as ‘Dear’ when addressing her in public and private.

3. He will not refer to the penis as his own by use of words that suggests he still has ownership over it.

4. All body hair must be trimmed and well maintained.  And he must maintain excellent cleanliness of his body and the device.

a. Weekly nude inspections are mandatory.

5. He must sleep naked so that she has full access to his body anytime she wants it throughout the night.

6. He will not question nor nag about the time of chastity and possible release. He no longer owns the penis all rights and ownership belongs to her. The length of time she chooses to lock her penis up and restrict it from orgasm is her right and her decision.

7. Because the penis is now hers, he must inform her each time he experiences an erection and explain why the erection had taken place.

8. He will be restricted from viewing pornographic material unless accompanied by her. Personal blogs and Tumblrs are showing adult interest are acceptable.

9. He is to remain in the chastity device at all times, she will decide if and when it is allowed to be removed.

10. He will be restrained during times of release. He will not touch the penis unless instructed by her. He will be relocked into chastity device before the restraints are removed.

11. Sex does not always mean removal of the chastity device, for this reason he must be properly cleaned each night by 7:30.

12. She will choose when ejaculations occur. If he feels that ejaculation is arriving he must notify her immediately.  He may be brought to the brink of ejaculation many times before being allowed to experience full release.  And she does not have to tell, and may lie about, whether she is going to allow him to orgasm or not.

13. If ‘accidental’ ejaculation occurs he must be punished by recycling of the seed. No exceptions.

14. His release is conditional upon completion of tasks/ chores.

15. He must provide her with treatment worthy of a goddess and will be required to give nightly back rubs.

16. He will focus only on her pleasure, thoughts of his pleasure will only distract him from properly performing his duties to her high standards.

17. Time in chastity can always be extended any time she sees fit.

a. Failure to meet her high standards of performance will result in 2 days time extended in chastity. No exceptions.

18. Breaking any of these rules will result in punishment and/or time in chastity extended.

19. If he misbehaves in public all she has to say is a number and he knows that is the amount of days added to his time in chastity.

20. She has the authority to change/ add any rules anytime she wants.

I __________________here by agree to these terms

______________________________

I __________________here by agree to these terms

_______________________________

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Hmmm… Might be printing this out

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Great contract

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What a magnificent document. :)