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Active ways to cultivate positive body image:

(Because oh my god, it’s so hard, and everyone’s all like stop feeling so bad about yourself and it’s like how???)

Be naked. A lot. Sleep naked. Have sex naked. Eat cereal naked. (Or naked and wrapped in a sheet. Favorite thing.)

Follow beautiful, confident, (un-photoshopped) body-positive babes on the Internet. Unfollow anything that makes you feel insecure. Exposure is key. You’re not going to get it if you don’t seek it out, because the media sucks and wants us to feel like shit about ourselves so they can take our money. (Some hashtags to follow: #effyourbeautystandards #bootyrevolution #blackisbeautiful #transisbeautiful #wheelchairlife #fatkini #fatshion)

Lingerie. Next best thing to being naked.

Self care, babe. Different for everyone. (Me? Showers, books, shaving my legs, nature walks, dark lipstick, good playlists, clean rooms, candles, sexy time.)

Get ready in your underwear. Boobs = happiness.

Self portraits. Be pro-selfie. Take a million selfies. Take sexy selfies. Take no makeup selfies. Take bad angle silly selfies. Take artsy tripod selfies. Take everything-is-on-point selfies. You’re gorgeous; document your gorgeousness. You don’t even need to post them.

Stop with the self deprecationnnnn. Pleeeeaseeee. It’s hard to control your thoughts love, I know, but you can control what you say. NEVER insult yourself out loud. Dare I say compliment yourself out loud? (And if you can, do your best to try to body-positive-ify your thoughts too.)

Sex (including solo sexy time), wine, and chocolate. In that order.

Share the body love. Compliment your girlfriends. Cultivate a nonjudgemental, supportive, lift-each-other-up “we’re so cute” friend group. Everyone’s insecure. Compliment your besties. And strangers, too. Be that person that makes everyone feel good about themselves when they’re around.

Good luck gorgeous. It’s a battle. We gotta unlearn all this societal bullshit.

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Reblogging cuz this is vital. Especially the point on self-deprecation. Stop that shit now. It is a glamour-don’t, a welcome sign for fuck ass ppl.

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Genuinely appreciating this.

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Me, an intellectual: healthy polyamorous relationship ™

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So I have talked about being Polyamorous before, and because I’m a really cool chick I’m going to tell you about it. (Also remember that there are exceptions to every rule, even for people who aren’t poly. We aren’t paragons and are just as vulnerable to bad relationship skills as non-poly people).

Firstly, it’s totally ok to not be polyamorous! Like, if you want to question if you are I will totally be cool with helping you. But if you’re not, it’s all ok! If you’ve seen me make some comment about mono people (people who are monogamous; not poly in any way), it’s about general attitudes that mono people have. These attitudes can be dealt with by anyone, and totally rewarding to do so, but holding on to them is very bad for poly people, or mono people who are accepting of poly partners.

So, Polyamory means “many loves”. Basically, it’s an orientation that many people have (including many who don’t even know) that leads them to be able to have non-platonic affection and activities to more than one person. This is something that I have been discovering in myself and I have been working out how I’m different to mono people. So in list form I will describe some things;

- Polyamory =/= cheating: While it is assumed in mono relationships that relationships and activities with others is considered cheating, that is not the definition of cheating. Cheating is a violation of the relationship. In a poly relationship, one or both people in a single relationship can express certain conditions for things with others. This can include communication or clearing it with a partner. If all conditions stated are met, then the relationship hasn’t been violated, therefore cheating hasn’t occured. Some relationships are ok with being completely free, and while they may communicate at some point about things with any partners out of choice, it is not considered cheating by the parameters of the relationship. Also, you may be surprised to hear that many poly people get excited and happy for partners who do things with another partner. I know I do, and actively encourage it.

- On that note. affection for a partner and good things happening there leads to more affection for others with poly people. This is because of the theory of abundant love(or affection, whatever you fancy); that poly people’s love isn’t scarce, it’s abundant, and love for one generates more love for other and doesn’t take away for the love of anyone else. It’s kind of like most people have more than one friend, we love our friends and we love different friends for different reasons. Poly people experience this above the platonic level. So even if you’re mono, I want to assure you that a poly person with affection for you has real genuine affection and attraction to you. It only goes away based on what you have with them, not what they have with others.

- Polyamory doesn’t mean a lack of commitment. We take commitment just as seriously as mono people (which means there’s just as much variation, but it doesn’t mean there are less of us who are uncommitting. Each relationship is separate, rather than there being some kind of competition (an exception being people with a “main partner”, but that’s about that relationship and not others). If something is a fling, then it’s not made out not to be.

- We don’t want to force people who aren’t poly to be poly. However, we want to spread the idea that jealousy and possessiveness are unhealthy for everyone. We uphold the value of everyone’s relationship and how it’s organised. And we want to be understood as a completely natural and normal way to be, despite the conditioning that only monogamous (and hetero) relationships are not only the ideal, but the only valid way to be, but at the same time are equally valid to poly relationships. All of these things are ok, and they don’t threaten you.

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Support feminine boys.

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Hoes please listen up

I am the virgin friend of many hoes and since I can’t ho properly just yet I specialize in ho maintenance. I have an immense knowledge of skin and hair and let me tell you what you need to do to your body before you go and see your first draft pick, your geriatric sugar daddy, your main bitch’s father:

You need to set aside a day to wash your body. Have a full tank of hot water because me personally when I take a bath I take a shower too. I have taken two baths back to back when I’m ready to spa day which is probably why I do it like once every two years but anyways.

1. That pussy clean Fill your tub with water. Get a ½ a cup of apple cider vinegar and dump that shit in there. Sit in there. It’s gonna get your pH right. Also, naturally wash your ass. This is a good time to shave your legs… 2. Bust out the coconut oil Smear it on your legs. On your armpits. Shave em. I don’t advise shaving your na na with it because to be honest I had a bad experience in college and yeah. We’re gonna need another post for the real deal. 3. Use a scrub If you like that Dead Sea shit from the mall go ahead and use it. If you’re a natural bitch like myself prepare a mixture of brown sugar and coconut oil. And of course vanilla extract because bitch, you are sweet. Run that scrub on your legs. Your armpits. Elbows. Knees. For you thick girls your thighs. 4. Drain the toxins From your tub. Drain your tub. Rinse it. If you don’t have time get in the shower and proceed normally. If you got all day and a banging album play that shit, watch House of Cards, watch Snapped and fill that tub back up. 5. Bath salts Not the kind that people from Florida seem to really enjoy. Lavender is my favorite scent. Fill your tub up with hot water and throw those scented bath silts in there, put in that bubble bath and wash yourself. Sing to yourself. Love yourself. Figuratively. Or not I mean if you’re a ho you’re a ho. Sit in there until the water is warm and get out. 5. Some of you hoes are expensive ones and you wanna smear La Mer all over your body and you can go ahead but the best lotion I’ve ever had – I’ve tried every French, Swiss, Dutch, lotion on the market para my mother – is four dollars. Aveeno daily moisturizing lotion. Back when I was a sad ho my feet were so dry the caught on my sheets girl. I bought this shit when my lotion ran out and I forgot how good it was. I’m telling you my feet went back to being as soft as when I was born. No pedicure. I swear by it.

Bonus tips: If you have that dry skin in your toenails, put baby oil on it daily. They will be no more. If you’re thick and you have dark skin on the inside of your thighs rub coconut oil on it daily. If your man ain’t shit rub coconut oil on him daily. Prosper my hoes. Prosper.

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I’m going to reblog this because I’m not ashamed and no one else should be

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That U-Spot changed my mf'n life at 19 years old lmao

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I’ve been using the U-spot and ain’t even know it. Found it on accident, wow. (When you didn’t know there was a name for the thing u do)

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(vaginal**** masturbation hacks, not strictly female… but still useful tips sooo)

#vaginal masturbation #positivity #normalize female masturbation #nsfw

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#little positivity

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Cosmo got something right for once

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my new night gown matches my puppy cat :3

spoil me l ask about buying my snapchat

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PJ parties are always a good thing…I have no idea what kind of pyjama’s the boys would wear but there’s no doubt Seven has a cat Kigurumi that looks like Elizabeth the 3rd.

One of these day’s I’ll draw Zen, Jaehee and Jumin but today is not that day.