After many years of struggle ( being a dude in a dress ) I finally cracked the code.
I am sharing what I learned for those who DON’T walk very well now
and those who do
Here is the KEY for you to develop a believable female presentation:
The following exercise will overcome some of the fundamental physical problems you’ll have in trying to stand and walk like a woman…mostly that you were born with male parts. ( No, seriously. lol Women walk in a certain way for a reason. We walk like guys for reasons too - and it became natural to us to “stand wide legged to stand our ground - and to not pinch a testicle when walking, etc )
You probably already “tuck” - either with tape, a gaff or tight women’s underwear, and if you do, you may be missing the most important opportunity for developing your feminine presentation because the method you use to keep your parts in place enables you to do one thing wrong.
Simply, if you are securely tucked with a physical method, you are able to walk like a man. That is, you don’t need to worry about the displacement of your p***s if you don’t walk or stand with your legs together. I know you never really looked at it that way before, but that is likely your key issue.
You’ve no doubt seen the famous “tuck scene” in Silence of The Lambs
and the parody of that scene by “Jay” in the movie Clerks II
Each male actor, because only the pressure of his thighs was keeping genitals in place, is forced to bring and keep his knees together. They also go the BONUS you get from using this method ( Curvature )
So your exercise is this:
You can practice this every time you are doing your bathroom routine if you have others in your home from whom you need to guard your secret. When you have a chance, even if you tuck securely, practice the same pressure fundamental and you will get INSTANT results for the better.
1. Create a natural thigh-pressure tuck by pulling your p***s back between your legs as far as you can. The more you can stretch it, the better, as this will clear the front of your pubic area of male tissue to allow the thighs to come as close together as possible. By not using anything but thigh pressure to keep the genitals in place, you will be forced into a more feminine body position in order to stand up straight.
2. Notice how your knees and feet are now closer together and you are forced to maintain this more feminine body position to maintain the tuck.You will also note that it may be painful for you to stand perfectly upright at the waist due to pressure on your testicles when you do so. This results in the BONUS - you now have a more feminine arch in your back and your butt seems to stick out more.
3. Then … walk. Note how you MUST take short, narrow steps if you want to maintain the tuck. Notice also how your hips move in a feminine way. Even your feet behave more like a woman’s. You have NO CHOICE but to walk and stand more like a woman when you consciously must maintain this natural pressure tuck. This is why it is the most fundamental exercise.
Later, when you are securely tucked with physical means ( gaff, tape, or tight panties ) if you remember to maintain the pressure from your thighs to push your genitals more rearward, you will be able to refine a believable feminine ( lower body ) presentation. If you get into the habit of it now, and do it every time your are dressed, and for the entire duration of your dressing session, you will be able to remember it when you are out in public.
The funny thing is, since you were born male, it will feel unnatural to you.
But trust that it will look very natural when attempting to pass as a female.
Simply by always ensuring your knees and feet sweep across each other, almost touching each other as they pass, you will have a more feminine walk. This will almost happen automatically when you are using the thigh-pressure tuck. That takes care of your step WIDTH.
The next thing to work on is your step LENGTH. Naturally, a man takes a very long step ahead of him. When you don’t, you feel unnatural and your BALANCE is actually affected because your BRAIN is used to dealing with a LONG step. So you need to fight the urge to take those big steps.
Walking in flats ( women’s flats or just men’s footwear like slippers, sandals, flip flops, sneakers, or “trend shoes” ) will actually tend to cause you to revert to natural masculine steps…because “you can”. So I recommend high heels.
WALKING IN HEELS.
Picture yourself as a tall 13 year old girl who was accepted by a modeling agency. You’ve been in sneakers all your life - you’ve never even had a pair of low 2” heels on your feet and you'ill be in a fashion show next week! ( Gosh, you’re gonna sprain an ankle! )
But there’s a secret to walking in heels.
Men and unrefined women walk in such a way that their heel of their leading foot contacts the ground before the toe or ball of the foot.
The longer the step, the longer the wait between heel and toe contact.
In mens dress shoes ( or women walking incorrectly ) this results in a sound effect for 4 steps that sounds like:
CLIP-CLOP , CLIP-CLOP, CLIP-CLOP, CLIP-CLOP …
This is also what usually breaks high heels - too much leverage on them.
Refined women in heels take SHORT STEPS to touch the heel and front of their shoe to the ground at about the same time, resulting in a 4 step sound effect like:
CLIP, CLIP, CLIP, CLIP ….
Step One: Practice walking in BARE FEET on your “tip-toes”. It takes a while for your brain to learn to balance like that and for your feet to become strong enough to keep you on tip toes for a few minutes at a time. But once you can balance there for several minutes, then you will be better able to balance in actual high-heel shoes.
By developing these muscles WITHOUT shoes, when you lose your balance, you can easily recover from a pending fall. Trying to do this IN HEELS and THAT is how you sprain an ankle or worse!
Did you know that in the weeks before School PROM season in North America, there is an scaling increase in skull, jaw, tooth, neck, collar bone, arm, wrist, hip, lower-leg and ankle fractures in females aged 14 to 18 which stops abruptly at the start of summer, all related to “first time in high heels”?
Practice with BARE FEET first!!!
Step Two: Once you can walk in bare feet on tip toes for several minutes at a time, now try it with your thigh-tension tuck. This will ad a degree of difficulty because now you must learn to balance with a more narrow foot width - you can’t recover from loss of balance and prevent a fall by simply widening your stance. ( Again, this is tricky and will cause loss of balance, so that’s why we do it in BARE FEET first until your brain gets used to it. )
Step Three: Get the right footwear. Women’s flat shoes and shoes with a low high heel ( 2" - 3" ) will allow you to make the mistake of walking “heel first”, like a man - and it will look awkward. Go for a “true” high heel.
Ignore “heel height” in inches in general, because the design of a platform shoe has a longer heel than an non-platform shoe and depending on what size your feet are, a 4" heel for a size 5 is probably too high and a 4" heel for a size13 will likely be TOO LOW.
Regardless of “heel height” - pick footwear that provides a 45 degree foot angle so that your foot is always at the “breakover point” - the point of each step where weight is transfered from the trailing foot to the leading foot, and which places your foot almost as upright as you being on “tip toes”.
This will deter you from walking heel first like a man or a teenage girl who has never worn heels. It will force a shorter step and make it easier for you to remember to place the heel & toe (ball of foot) on the ground at the same time.
Note that TALL BOOTS will provide more support & stability for your ankles than shoes and will go with far more outfits, too! Also they will conceal your manly calf muscle definition ( the reason “I” don’t wear “shoes” )
I suggest also a heel base of at least two square inches so that you have more support and it is easier to balance while you learn to adjust to the high heels. Starting with thin “spike” heels is asking for disaster because you need to learn not to rely on the heel part for stability.
Step Four: Practice beside a wall or near a railing for balance. Stand and walk USING ONLY THE TOES/BALL OF FOOT. That is, go “tip toes” so that the heel is NOT TOUCHING THE GROUND. This will help you get used to the idea that the HEEL is not really a “useable” part of the shoe by itself and that you don’t rely on it for balance.
Gradually let your heel get lower and closer to the ground as you practice, so that once the heel does contact the ground, you know you must still keep most of your weight on the TOE/BALL OF FOOT so that you don’t fall.
FALLS ARE CAUSED WHEN YOU MISTAKENLY TREAT THE HEEL AS A “FUNCTIONAL” PART OF THE HIGH-HEEL SHOE. IT’S NOT.
High heels were NOT created to add height, but rather for MALE Kabuki performers playing female roles, to force their back to arch more and therefor their butt to “present” itself more and make him look more feminine. That was adopted by old prostitutes to unconsciously seem more youthful and attractive to a male customer by tapping into the primal, instinctive presentation of an open ( not pregnant ) ovulating female as indicated by “swollen buttocks” and cause the male to respond with “doggie style” mounting of the female.
Evolution has caused many changes to humans over hundreds of thousands of years. Our ancestors at one point only procreated in this way ( you know most women still say “doggie style sex” feels best - because their vagina and brain were designed to do it this way ) and we still respond to the same things we did many, many years ago. Heels help this.
USING STAIRS: Notice how women tend to actually use the railing when they use stairs. They go UP using only their toes (heels never touch the steps ) and come down with their shoes hitting flat on each step (toe & heel at same time ) and at a slight angle, with toes pointing more toward the railing than forward ( so the whole shoe is on the step - if their feet were pointing straight forward, their front of their shoe might slip off the front of a step and cause them to fall down the stairs! ).
Now that you have all that in your head. let’s take FEMININE STEPS.
1 - Take 100 steps which are only one half to one whole foot length in front of your other shoe. Once you can do that with no problem … do it again while ensuring that your feet are as close together as possible. That is, a narrow step width. ( If you stop, your feet should be almost touching. )
2 - Next, concentrate on the getting your butt to do the feminine “snap”. Up to this point, unless you discovered it by accident, you will still be motivating your steps with your trailing foot and bobbing up and down. You need to motivate your step by moving your hips forward instead, so that you are gliding across the floor, and with that comes the feminine “wiggle”.
Stand with one foot in front of the other, with your feet at a comfortable distance apart for you. ( That may only be one shoe-length or even less, and that’s ok. )
Start perfectly balanced in the middle.
Pretend you’re in a super-slow-motion video.
SLOWLY glide your hips forward until your weight is TOTALLY over your leading (front) foot, with your trailing (back) foot still on the ground. It’s ok if you need to be only on the toes of your trailing foot since it is impossible to keep your heel on the ground as you move that far forward.
Keep moving your hips SLOWLY forward until you are almost going to FALL FORWARD. This is the point at which a woman takes her trailing foot off the ground and quickly moves it forward to “catch the weight” moving forward as a result of her hips moving forward. ( Women motivate their steps by moving their hips forward … )
Take a few steps like that and you’ll feel your hips SWAY from side to side as your bring your body to THE LIMIT of falling forward before taking your trailing foot off the ground. As a result, your butt will “snap” as you walk.
Once it happens the first few times ( the “snap” ), you’ll understand how it “feels” to walk like a woman, so that you can do it over and over.
