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Sheâs my girlfriend, you intolerant shit. Whoa! Pump the hate brakes, Fox & Friends! Iâm just surprised anyone would date you, especially Pinkie Pie from my Little Pony.
Oh my god I finally saw deadpool 2 and hdjwjcsjdj. THESE TWO ARE SO CUTE I AM SO HAPPY!!! Also, Domino was HOT AS F jxjdfjjsjdjfjdjdnjsud
HER âIâm with her â>â MUG đĽş
Iâm just surprised anyone would date you⌠especially Pinkie Pie from My Little Pony.
fantasy au!
Ugh i gotta shower and go to bed but im in too much pain yo
theory: the rest of the world in the Mad Max universe is totally fine and Australia just did that
one lone wastelander manages to sail to new zealand only to find out everything thereâs just like⌠normal
âhow did you all manage to survive?â
âsurvive?â
âthe nuclear war??â
âthe whatâ
LMAO but wouldnât the rest of the world send help or something like that?
nah australians instantly switched over to leather fetish gear, frankenstein trucks, and machine guns the minute shit went south. the UN aid workers got there and saw this
and just turned right the fuck back around
I see a lot of posts raising the valid counter argument that the usual explanation of why f/f is so rare in fandom (female characters generally being both less numerous and not written as well) canât explain the situation fully bc people will go ham over male characters that appeared in the background for 4 seconds and all that.
And idk how common this really is, but I do wonder whether a contributing factor then is that a lot of fandom is made up of (especially young) wlw who are struggling with some internalised lesbophobia. Because shipping m/m pairings can be a method for gay women to explore their sexuality from a safe distance, but f/f pairings can seem very personal in a way that can be scary at first when youâre still struggling to repress those feelings in yourself?
Like I remember the first time I got really invested in an f/f pairing was before I realised I was a lesbian, and I knew I experienced same gender attraction but I had never been with someone who wasnât a man irl or really allowed myself to envision myself being in a relationship like that. But then exploring it with an f/f ship involving characters I related to did hit me harder and did feel more personal and more like⌠the stuff i was trying not to think about?
And it did take a lot of time to overcome my internalised lesbophobia to get comfortable enough to allow myself to ship things without the safety and distance that I was used to having with m/m ships.
And like in a similar vein I think where society makes it so hard for us to understand or even conceptualise same gender attraction with women that might also make f/f pairings feel difficult to relate to, as well as the embarrassment/shame/etc. that we have to overcome before allowing ourselves to relate at all?
AnywaysâŚ.. I donât really know where I was going in this post other than trying to get these thoughts out a little but it is something I think abt sometimes.
These are exactly my thoughts and feelings!
Internalized lesbophobia and probably internalized misogyny in general might play a part for some women, itâs definitely something Iâve also thought. Maybe weâre scared of how real these dreams are, that we want them and how strongly we feel about them. Perhaps we also struggle against stereotypes about women and havenât quite realized that those fictional women represent us, that those are stories about us and that we can and should seize that voice.
Iâve also thought that f/f ships go against fandom norm and thus might take some extra effort to get into. Itâs not the obvious choice, and if you want to produce content for it the audience is probably small, further discouraging people.
For me personally, yes itâs all those usual things you mentioned (lack of female characters, for example) but itâs definitely about safety distance too. Itâs not a bad thing for me or something I feel I need to work on, I just donât often feel like sharing something that personal like my deep feelings about women.
When I write about male characters, I still get to write about same-sex attraction and hardship and experience, but I get some privacy for myself and also the excitement of imagining something new and different.Â
(Funny though, this is just my fandom experience. All my original projects and OCs are usually about women who are lesbian or bi, so :shrug:)
Everyone made such good points. <3 Feelinâ for yâall. That was such a good point about being able to explore same-sex attraction topics safely with m/m.
But yeah, definitely internalized misogyny too. Omg I remember feeling so much hate for random female characters for no reason when I was a kid. Lala from fuckinâ Teletubbies (wtf???), Sango from Inu Yasha, Sakura from Naruto, Misa from Death Note, etc.. Maybe Kairi from Kingdom Hearts, lmao. It didnât help that male authors would intentionally write cemale characters as annoying/dumb/useless.
Iâve always felt way more shame in sharing my fav f/f pairings for some reason. Especially irl, even when I knew my then irl friends were into fandom stuff/m/m. It was way more ânormalâ to like and talk about m/m than f/f. Like, it felt way too... close to home and awkward?? Lmao, everyone in my old friend grp were always busy beating down their attraction to girls/women and telling themselves theyâre totally, completely straight. At least a few of them got over that and came out as lesbian..
This is random, but in therapy, we talked about how a lot of people donât know the difference between guilt and shame. Guilt is when you have done/do something that goes against your moral code. Shame is when you feel that you canât show your true self; That others will judge you or reject you if do.
Idk, I never really thought about what âshameâ really meant before. Maybe itâs an obviously identifiable feeling to everyone else, idk, but for me, I never realized how much Iâm wrapped up in it all the time.
I still feel shame & embarrassment when I want to talk about my attraction to girls/women. Even in âsafeâ environments. Sometimes I even tell myself I donât REALLY feel that way. (But I know I always have.) Which is crazy considering how passionate I am about lgbtq issues.. Being with a gal still seems like itâs in the realm of impossibility for a variety of reasons tbh.
why are we still here? just to suffer? every day i get emails
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Vandalism doesnt change the system, it just slows it down and costs money. And no costing money won't change things either. It just goes on the national debt.
are you...talking to the cockatoo
This post is like getting punched in the chest four consecutive times and being surprised about it every single time.
anyway, the 8 hour workday and the concept of â8 hours work, 8 hours rest, 8 hours recreationâ is outdated and based on the lives and needs of married straight men who had a wife at home doing all the unpaid domestic labor, childcare, and elderly care. We should all be fighting for a 4 hour workday tbh
Research suggests that in an eight-hour day, the average worker is only productive for two hours and 53 minutes.
The workday and how we work are intimately related to productivity, yet more hours may not lead to increased focus, concentration, and succe
They did an experiment with a 6 hour workday in Gothenburg, on a nursing home. The staff became happier and healthier and the elderly also became happier and more content because the staff could focus more on their needs when they werenât overworked and tired. The staff felt they had more time and energy towards the elderly.
Recently there was an article about a care home in Stockholm were they âââover hiredâââ (I would argue they just hired enough people), that is they added 1,5 full time staff member. There was an economic gain, not only in health for the workers but also with fewer temps, less overtime and less time wasted on constantly educating new people.
The 8 hour workday was met with the same ridicule a 6 hour workday would. Once, the upper class thought that 14 hour days were reasonable because the poor would just get into trouble if they had time off. Even when thereâs actually net gain from caring about their workers, employers prefer making them miserable and paying the cost in new hires, medical costs and poor performance. People have fought and died for our free time and our weekends, even when we know a healthy worker is a healthy company.Â
So itâs not strange, nor unbelievable, to take that fight again. Thereâs nothing holy or special with an 8 hour workday. It isnât set in stone. It could be done.
the one problem i have with people my age and younger is that a lot of us do not have hands on hobbies. like i have spoken to so many people my age who go to work, go to school and then fuck around on their phone/computer for hours and then ???????? like no wonder ur depressed and have low confidence in urself. u need to get ur hands on something, feed those dopamine receptors! learn how to play guitar, garden, scrapbook, fucking make model trains. i donât give a shit, MAKE SOMETHING!!
it feels better than drugs when i finish making a thingâand then show it off or gift it.
and then so people my age say to me âwellâi canât draw/paint/knit/etc. like you can. my stuff would be terrible.â yeah, well duhâa part of developing skill is sucking at something and then practicing it over and over and over again until you suck less. uâll have a hard time feeling lonely or bored when you canât stop thinking abt a technique you want to try or something you want to make for someone else. making things has SAVED MY LIFE. it gave me a reason to keep living day after day when i wanted to die.
making things improved my generational relationships (when i worked for the newspaper i would talk to customers abt jamming recipes or cross-stitch, one of my grandmas always gives me pattern books and tell me abt when she knitted things for mom, my other grandma is giving me a wedding quilt that HER grandma gave her 50 years ago because she knows i will appreciate it). it also got me likeminded friends who also make things.
take a ceramics class! pick up water colors, bake cakes! learn to work on cars! make soap. DO SOMETHING THAT DOESNâT INVOLVE STARING AT A SCREEN.
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