Moments in Time...
If I have learned one thing this summer, it’s that moments in time are our most prized possessions. Holding onto and reminiscing about a beautiful moment in your life can make you feel just as happy today, as the moment in time that it was actually happening.
My last note on motivation:
“Contestant #4. Here’s your question: If you could have one wish granted, what would it be and why?”
It sounds really cliché but it is a pretty difficult question. What would you wish for? What would you do if you really had one wish that was guaranteed? A guarantee, however, means living with the obvious and hidden consequences of that life changing move. So what’s it gonna be?
Having one wish granted means prioritizing what’s really important in your life. World peace might not be the first on your list. So what is it that makes us tick and do what we do?
My motivation in life is my parents. If I had one wish, I’d wish that they were the happiest they could be and never have to work a day in their lives again. My parents are my motivation because they have committed their lives to making mine better. It was not until I grew up that I realized how much my parents have done and continuously do for me every day of my life.
In June 2008 (seems like yesterday), I gave a speech at my high school graduation as the Senior Class President. It was one of my proudest moments. I told my class to never settle for mediocrity in their future endeavors. Looking back now, it seems like my advice flew over a lot of my old classmates’ heads. Many people who I thought were going to do big things aren’t doing a thing. It saddens me because at such a young age we can be so ambitious and want the world and then the next year we can fall completely off track. So what is it that makes us lose our motivation?
I think that as young adults we need to be motivated by things bigger than ourselves. This is because I think young adults are very egocentric. We are all about ourselves and we think we are invincible. Being motivated by an external factor gives us internal accountability to stay focused. We shouldn’t carry the weight of the world but carrying weight from something outside of ourselves is probably essential to creating momentum for our ambitions.
This is why I owe my beautiful parents a lot. They have humble careers and we are not rich by any means. Yet, I have had everything I have ever wanted my entire life because they made it happen. When I was younger, I just wanted nice things like toys and clothes. Now I’m asking them to pay for my suits and book flights for my business trips. My parents will never let me “owe” them anything but to me, I owe them everything which is why I will never fall off track. There has not been a summer, winter or spring break that I have not been working and building my resume. I don't know what a "break" is. I'll take a break when I'm comfortable. I’d rather be at work and on my grind than be at the club wasting my life away. There has not been a class that I have taken that has gone to waste in my skill bank. I would never disrespect my parents by taking my education for granted. I'm a senior at Cornell University and I could not be at a better place. I have worked so hard to get to where I am.
Especially since I am an only child, the only day I know I’ve made it is when I can take care of my parents the way they cared for me tenfold. Being truly thankful for our blessings makes us obligated to pay it forward.
It is only now that I realize the importance of the non-materialistic things they have given me- like a safe home full of love and support. I needed to grow up and meet people who lived different lifestyles from me to realize how much I really had and have in life. The love of your parents is so important. The security of having a place to call home is so important. But I know that not everyone could have that growing up. My wish for those who didn’t is that they will find love and a place to call home sooner than later because it’s never too late to get what you missed out on. God has bigger plans for you- it’s just taking a little longer… slowly but surely.
My last note on love and dating:
Like I said before, I’m alone but never lonely. This heart of mine is very big but its need to show affection doesn’t keep it from moving fast and moving on.
So fellas, while you’re busy window shopping for her, chances are, you’re not the only one looking. I mean if you think she has something to offer, others will see that too. So when that opportunity comes along- that “Must Be Nice” opportunity that Lyfe Jennings sings about- really think about what you have in your hands.
Think of a good woman who wants you as a luxury sale- you can finally get that beautiful thing you always wanted but it’s for a limited time only. Better scoop that up before she finds a real buyer ready to ball.
A good woman’s worth grows with time, so if you invest your time, you’ll get to see for yourself how her realness compares to the counterfeit intentions of others. A good woman’s true beauty is more than skin deep and when you see what’s real on the inside, you’ll realize the difference between a beautiful woman and just a pretty girl. A good woman has a lot to offer, though only the ones who deserve it will get to know what she really has up her sleeves. A good woman deserves and demands appreciation but will give it back in dividends to a good man.
There’s no such thing as a mediocre romance. If romance is mediocre, then the word “romance” isn’t the appropriate word to call the situation. Love is probably the most intimidating but most rewarding process in life. Both of you have to realize that fear will be a factor but commitment is the deciding factor in the future of your relationship. Sometimes we fear happiness without realizing it.
The next one, will be THE one. He’ll be everything the ones who didn’t last weren’t because right before those old doors closed, I got a peak of what I would not settle for again. And when I find that one, he’s going to feel like he’s the only man in front of my eyes and in my world… because he will be.
If you deserve better, get better.
I like the way you talk, but I’d love it if you proved it <3
My last note on friendships:
I’m a very straightforward person. If I preach something, know I have good reasons as to why I’m talking so loud. I will be the most loyal, protective, honest, generous, loving friend you can have by your side. Give people a chance. You never know what you’ll miss out on.
Cheers to good people and true friendships.
My last note to my wonderful readers:
Thank you from the bottom of my big heart for following me along the best summer of my entire life. I experienced new things, cultures, and lifestyles that are beyond my every day agenda. I have experienced new trials and tribulations with less fear and more openness to change. Thank you for reading what I have to say regardless of how much time it takes you to read the hours to years of thoughts I have compiled into each post. My mind wanders to farther distances than my body strays from home so creativity has always been an important factor in my life.
I wanted to write because I have always found it very therapeutic to put my thoughts on paper.
I wanted to write because I have more to say than the 160 characters social networks will not allow me to exceed. Since I’m going to be judged anyway, I’d rather have my thoughts and opinions judged instead of solely what you see in pictures and comments.
I wanted to write because I keep it real and I appreciate others who do so as well.
I wanted to write because personal issues are more intriguing than academic issues I write about every school year. As people, we will not all experience the same political or socioeconomic movements in our life time but we can expect that love, happiness and sadness feel just the same in every corner of the world.
I wanted to write because I continue to learn things that I wish I knew earlier so I knew that telling other people will help them discover themselves sooner.
I wanted to write because I saw so many beautiful people who I am close to or admire from a distance, be completely unaware of their beauty- so I thought I’d let them know why their beauty was so apparent in my eyes.
And finally, I wanted to write because I knew that it would open up friendships life didn’t actualize before. It has been truly wonderful to get to know existing friends on a deeper level and make new ones who were inclined to contact me just because we connected on a topic I wrote about. I hope we will continue our newly developed and newfound friendships from now on. Our conversations will stay on my mind and your kind words will stay in my heart.
Last notes of the summer:
Instead of feeling pressured, feel motivated.
Instead of fame, strive for admiration.
Instead of being feared, work to be respected.
It’s nice to know a lot of wishes have been granted before the candle even blew out…
“Mahalo from the hardest act to follow.” Hope you enjoyed my Señorita Summer. Hasta La Muerte.








