Sofia, Millennial Advisor

Hey! Welcome :) I am a 21 year old college student, and I am here to share my thoughts, experiences, and give advice. I am here to connect with you, listen, advise (when needed, of course).Please feel free to share your experiences or ask your questions. Nothing is taboo here. I am not here to judge you, nor should others who read this blog. Please note, that I am a student. I am NOT a counselor or doctor. I do reserve the right to block harassers and trolls. DO NOT POST/ASK FOR PERSONAL INFORMATION. Again, I will block those who do not respect mine/others personal space. And please, if you are under the age of 18, please keep off this blog. This blog is meant for those who are 18+ ONLY.

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I want to be inside your darkest everything.

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Is sexting necessary  in a relationship...?

Okay. Let’s say you and your SO have a pretty fucking great sex life, ya know? Is sexting necessary? 

Personally…before N and I started dating, I texted him asking if I could sext him. He agreed. So, I’ve sexted him twice now. However, tonight…I send him a picture and a little teasing video and the response I got was not what I was expecting. He said “Someone seems lonely lol.” Confidence out the damn window. LOL. However, I can’t be mad at him. Remember, guys. N is only 18 and he is quite new to all of this. He isn’t used to a woman ;)

Hol’up though…sexting with your SO can be fun. Sexting keeps the relationship open and exciting. Especially, when your SO is at work… ;) Sending your SO a little naughty text/pic sparks excitement. Being risque is so naughty and exciting. 

Now, I asked my girlfriend about her opinion about the necessity of sexting in relationships. She said that it is not totally necessary; however, the man in her life is good to her in the relationship, it is a plus. A woman is more willing to be adventurous with sending pics/texts. However, she did say that in a mediocre relationship where an SO isn’t trying hard enough in the relationship, a person won’t be as compelled to sext their SO. My girlfriend also thinks that in fling, there needs to be equal gratification. Yet, she thinks that nudes are being sent too often. Sending nudes and naughty texts can be a real distraction from personal intimacy. 

Is sexting necessary in a relationship, lovely reader? Lemme know what you think, lovies! 

XOXO

Sofia

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My girlfriend and I finished talking on the phone. She told me all about her dates. Now, my girlfriend overreacts whenever a guy doesn’t reply to her texts/calls. She is quick to think the guy isn’t interested in her. I have to remind her that she is single and doesn’t owe anyone shit. Who cares if the guy/girl doesn’t reply to your call/texts. Look, readers. If you are going through what my girlfriend is going through right now…Keep your options open. Keep dating UNTIL you find someone who is genuinely interested in you and wants to spend time with you. Only keep interest in those who want to spend time with you. If a person is interested, they will make time for you, reader. Do not accept the bare-minimum. You deserve to be loved, to be adored, to be cared for, to be listened to. 

Keep your head up, and live your life to the fullest, lovely reader.

XOXO

Sofia

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N and I had a great night with his pledges brothers. They are really great guys. The guys kept telling me that N is happy and handling things with the fraternity well because he has someone who understands how greek life works. His friends were complimenting me the entire night. I'm happy N's friends like me. I enjoy them and they make N happy. So... Here's what is really shaking down... N and I were making love last night...early this morning, but N stopped in the middle of our love making and said "I love you, Sofia." My heart stopped. Never had I ever heard someone tell me they love me, besides my family and close friends. But this is different. This is my boyfriend. I said it back, of course. I was happy to hear those words. Lovely reader...how did you feel the first time your boyfriend/girlfriend told you they loved you? XOXO Sofia

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Hi there, loves!

I guess it is time for me to introduce myself...I’m Sofia, Millennial Advisor! 

Here is a little background information...

I. I’m Sofia

II. My best friend inspired me to write this blog

III. I write a lot about myself and my experiences (past/present)

IV. I like to help people and answers their questions

V. I’m 21 and I’m a struggling college student. LOL

VI. I love to live my life with NO REGRETS! :) 

VII. And I’m a believer in living like there is no tomorrow. So, lovely. Fuck them. Do what the fuck you want. As long as you can look yourself in the mirror the next morning and smile, you’re alright, baby! ;* 

XOXO

Sofia 

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N spent the night. I missed him. He came to the apartment around 1 am. He told me about the night he had with the brothers. They took the pledges to a strip club. N found it awkward. He wasn't into it much. I guess the guys were telling N not to tell me he went because they thought it would upset me, but N told me anyway. I like that he is open with me. We were happy see each other/spend the night together. We made love after a week. It was a long week for the both of us. I missed us. I missed him. He told me he missed all weekend and thought about me while he was working on Saturday night. Him telling me that... made me feel so loved and wanted. N, you are an amazing man. XOXO Sofia

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So...

Late last night, Mr. E and I spoke over the phone. It shook me to the core. He was the first man, that helped me transition into adulthood. I will be forever grateful for the transition; however, him leaving did hurt me, but I have N. And N makes me so happy. He makes me smile. Laugh. Makes me feel beautiful. Wanted. Desired. Cared for. Adored. He apologizes when there is no need to. N is EVERYTHING I want in a boyfriend. Mr. E and I had something that did not last long, but it was great because it helped prepare me for the relationship I am in now. N is an amazing young man. When I think about N, it makes me smile. I love the way he kisses me. I love the way N holds me while we sleep together. I love making love to N. It is passionate and pleasurable (😘). N, if you ever get the chance to read this... I adore you. I am grateful to have you as a boyfriend and I am proud to be your girlfriend. I'm happy we are dating. I have many hopes for us. 😘 Mr. E... Thank you for helping me transition into adulthood. Thank you for preparing me for my first relationship. I found an amazing man and he gives me his heart, time and adornment. Meeting you, Mr. E is something I do not regret. I realized that I want a man who is decisive. I want a man who wants me. Thank you for making me realize that you are not the type of man I would want in my life. Lovely reader, has someone helped you transition into adulthood? Tell me your experience. XOXO Sofia

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One of those days, where I find everything/one annoying. It might be because I'm on my period, but I am annoyed and tired. Okay. I'm in a pissy mood. Wtf is with people being a smart ass today!? I was texting my friend and I stated that I was tired, and the fucker goes 'aww you poor baby, cry me a river.' Hey, fuckface. I don't need your fucking sarcasm. I am in no mood to talk to anyone today. I don't even want to hear from N. I want to be by myself today. Watch Sex and the City and eat. I hope your day is going a lot better than mine, lovely reader. XOXO Sofia

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I’m drunk and it is fucking amazing

N and I ARE OFFICIALLY DATING!!

HOW GREAT IS THAT?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

He is my first boyfriend...and I am so happy. 

He spoke to my mom over the phone and she congratulated us, she told him everything. I can’t wait to see what the future holds for N and I :)

Don’t worry, lovely readers... I’ll keep you posted on how N and I are. 

XOXO

Sofia

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Guys... :)

I have some great news to share... 

N came over earlier today to hangout with me before he left for his meeting with the frat and before my weekly dinner with my mom. Him and I are here at the apartment (he looked so handsome btw :D), so as I am cleaning, he sits on the couch and is telling me about his day and what is going on with the frat. I’m listening, responding and answering some questions about frat stuff. SO, my mom calls saying she is ten minutes away from the apartment, and N asks if he can meet my mom. AND GUYS, I AM COMPLETELY STUNNED. Because I have never introduced a guy to my mom before. I never let anyone, especially someone I am seeing intimately, meet my mom. Did I tell her all about N? Duh, of course! She is my mom, best friend, ride or die, wingman. My mom is bomb AF. LOL. Fastforward, N and I are heading downstairs to meet my mom. As we walk out of the building, my mom sees us and runs out of car and hugs N. It was so fucking cute!!!!! 

I’m so fucking happy :) !!!!!!

XOXO

Sofia

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College sucks...sometimes

College is an experience within itself. We are preparing for our futures. We are bombarded with homework, class, and work. It is hard to find time to do all those things and still have somewhat of a social life. Entering college, we go in thinking that we have it all figured out; however, we come to find out that college is fucking hard, real fucking hard. We are juggling school, work, personal issues, and other day to day bullshit. Yet, college is an experience that everyone needs to have (even if it is just a semester) because it helps a person discover who they are/meant to be. In college, we meet people from all walks of life. We laugh. Drink. Party. Study. Work. Date. Change majors. Change roommates. Have lovers. College sucks…sometimes, but once you get into your groove. It is all good :) So relax, my lovely reader. You’ll figure it out, don’t worry. It will all work out in the end. Based on my college experience right now, I have to say it is pretty interesting. Classes and school work can be stressful at times, but hanging out with my friends and having weekly visits with my mom helps a lot. Right now, things are a little rocky back at the apartment… my roommate and I aren’t getting along, so we haven’t been talking and we keep acting like the other doesn't exist. However, N and I seem to be doing just fine. Classes are going well, too. And writing on here is helping me discover myself again. I am finding my “I don’t give a fuck, I’m only focused on me” attitude. It feels awesome :)

Lemme hear about your college experiences, friends :)

XOXO

Sofia

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Why is it so hard for Millennials to date?

For myself, dating never really caught my interest. However,I have tried Tinder. Only struck luck with it once. I met a nice man, let’s call him “E.” Mr. E was a 25 year old with a degree in engineering. And man, I thought he was the one. He was gorgeous, intelligent, and a wonderful man; however, it didn’t last long. :( So, here’s to all my lovely readers... Can Millennials date? I think for Millennials it is a lot harder to date now than it was for our parents and grandparents. But why is that? Is it because people are so caught up within themselves and their phones? Or are Millennials so consumed with social media? How is it that we sit there on our Twitter and Instagram accounts wishing/hoping for “Relationship goals”, when we could be achieving them, but some of us don’t know how to date. So, here we are again asking our friends for dating advice when they might not know shit either. It is blind leading the blind? And it is even harder asking our parents for advice because the advice they give doesn’t really apply to our day and age. Times have changed. And so has technology. You know, I read an article that stated that Millennials are having a lot less sex than their parents. Can you believe that? How the fuck are Millennials having less sex than their parents? The reason behind us having less sex and less success with dating is because we are so dependent on our phone for our interactions with one another. We aren’t building interpersonal connections with people anymore. Where is the intimacy with getting to know someone? We do it over text, Snapchat, Twitter DMs, and Facebook. We need to re-learn on how to get to know people on an interpersonal level...

My lovely readers... tell me about your Millennial dating experience. I would love to hear about it.  :)

XOXO, 

Sofia