As an outsider who has been on both sides of the "almost" moniker, all I can say is that sometimes, people don't really realize what they are getting into. I'm a musician as well, and a situation happened before I went on my last tour. A woman and I had been seeing each other for about month, and problems were starting to arise. About a week before tour, I realized that hitting the road was going to make me wish I was single, because the stress of the relationship would just be an anchor on my state of mind. I didn't want to go on an awesome 2 week adventure with my best friends, knowing that this significant other and I were having problems, so I spoke my mind and broke things off.When I returned, I had realized a few things about the situation, and opted to contact her again. She took is as me trying to set up a "booty call," and proceeded to get pissed off with me for quite a while. Needless to say, I was no longer interested, and it took quite a while for her and I to settle things and be good friends.
 I'm not really sure what that story says, other than there are always two points of view to a situation, and sometimes our emotions have us react in ways we otherwise wouldn't.I'm in no way condoning the actions of the three men you spoke about (especially the type of person who would spontaneously stop talking to you without expressing any sort of reason why, or giving you the respect to at least formally end things), but I do think it's hard to maintain an unbiased point of view. Everyone is just humming along in their little lives, and sometimes we bump into eachother, causing the other one to spin off the road. Sometimes it's bad driving, sometimes it's something out of your control. Though, for what it's worth, I think the sort of person who is poor at talking about their feelings can be described as emotionally stunted. Seriously, to not have the humanity to tell you they are no longer interested (or more likely, seeing someone else) is to have a lack of compassion and empathy. We have names for those sorts of people: "Children" who haven't learned any better, and "sociopaths," who lack the ability.
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