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Your heart had leapt when you first read the announcement that the infamous Femdom Club was opening its latest branch in your city; immediately you pre-registered for membership on their website, a somewhat humiliating process that involved buying an approved chastity cage, submitting photos of yourself wearing it and nothing else, and of course sending them the keys to ensure you didn’t try and cheat the minimum 30 days in chastity required for entry.
You immediately began to throb at the sight of Goddess Sasha who greeted you at the door with a steely gaze and, seeing you were a member, escorted you to a room adjoining the vestibule where you were made to strip down to your cage and fitted with a silvery collar to which she attached a chain leash before leading you back out. Pulling you along Sasha showed you around the premises where already Dommes were enjoying themselves, some with slaves of their own already but many talking with the submissive men, noticeably not naked unlike you, kneeling beside them- males were not permitted on the furniture Sasha explained.
It was still early so the playrooms you saw were still mostly empty but a few had slaves owned by the club strapped to crosses, benches or simply locked in cages in the corner ready to be used by anyone who wished to, as well as walls adorned with every kind of whip, cane, crop, clamp or restraint imaginable. Your cage throbbed again and a drop of precum slipped past the bars onto the floor, not escaping Sasha’s notice who immediately yanked your leash down and ordered you to lick it clean, pressing her boot gently to your face and chuckling as your tongue touched the tiles.
In the backrooms was a truly terrifying sight. More slaves, laying down to benches where they were tightly restrained and with their cocks affixed with constantly moving and pulsating rubber sheaths as beautiful girls teased them, edged them, and subsequently shocked them if they got too close to orgasm. The precum delight was the club’s most popular drink among the Dommes so they needed a constant supply of it which the slaves ‘happily’ provided.
Back in the main room Sasha made a point of showing you the drinks menu at the bar where members like you could access a special range of prices if you wished, paying not with money but with additional time in chastity on your ‘tab’ before you could request your key back. Standard drinks such as whiskey or rum cost a week; better brands could cost up to a month or more; a single precum delight six months; while a top shelf bottle of champagne was a full year! She told you a story from another branch of the club she’d worked at where an unthinking horny sub had been trying to impress a Domme, buying her drinks all night and only realised at the end he’d racked up so much additional time his chastity had become effectively permanent.
Fortunately, she went on, time could also be worked off through service to the club and desperate not to spend the rest of his life in denial he’d signed a ten year slavery contract and become owned by them. A ‘win-win’ situation Sasha called it.
Finally your tour ended at the main stage which was lit up with an imposing cross in the middle waiting to be occupied. A sadistic expression crossed Sasha’s face as she pulled you onto the boards and began strapping you into the cross; she explained that while as you knew the terms of your membership required you to submit a single Saturday night each month to service at the club, joining the slaves waiting to be used, you had in fact been the very first member to sign up, so would be granted the honour of becoming their very first exhibition for opening night, and picked up a bullwhip.
It was going to be a long night you knew, but so far it was everything you’d ever dreamt of!
i am so dirty. I need to be bound and whipped
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Orgasm Control: A List of Benefits
I get a lot of questions about the benefits for me and for my husband about the benefits of structured orgasm control as part of addressing the issue of “mismatched libidos” in heterosexual relationships. For many people, as soon as they make a start on this journey, a range of benefits become clear pretty quickly. So, in this case, I believe the requests for providing a list benefits are for people who are still in the process of deciding if this approach is for them.
The short answer is - yes, your life (and sex life) will change for the better. Give it a try.
The second short answer - yes, use a chastity cage. While it is possible to practise orgasm control without one, the benefits for you, but especially for him, of using a chastity cage are exponential. Perhaps the list of benefits below will elucidate why:
Control vs Neglect
In most heterosexual, long-term relationships, women have a significantly lower sex drive than their male partners. Men have less sex than they would ideally like. In this sense, marriage means that females control the allocation of sex. Already. However, without a deliberate structure and communication around the element of this control, the mismatched libido is interpreted by the male as ‘neglect’ or the feeling of not being desired. This can drive the male to pornography, masturbation or ‘nagging for sex’, which puts unwanted pressure on you, and is a serious turn-off.
When orgasm control is discussed and structured as part of the couple’s sexual dynamic, the male’s perception moves from being ‘neglected’ to ‘controlled’. The latter is highly arousing, and the sexual dynamics flips on its head. By controlling his sexual release, you as a couple are indicating that it has a ‘value’ far greater than when he is simply free to masturbate at will. His greatest physical reward, and the oxytocin, bonding, dopamine rush that follows becomes linked to you, not to Pornhub.
More Sex, More Orgasms (For YOU)
Orgasm control is about controlling the MALE orgasm, not yours. The worst thing you can do is be sexually inactive between release windows. Rather just call the whole thing off now - it will not work.
Rather, you can and should have frequent orgasms - and he will love giving them to you. My partner and I have sex frequently outside of his release window. I unlock him and we have standard sex - the only difference is that he is not allowed to cum. He goes slower, uses toys, users his hands and tongue - whatever he needs to do to follow the rules - and I can deliciously and *selfishly* enjoy it. Once we're done, he is locked back up until next time.
This is what he expects and desires - don't feel bad for one second. Stop thinking in the old school "Sex is about the male being satisfied" mindset. It is mindblowing for him in every way - both mentally and physically.
Reigniting the Desire
As has been said on this blog before, males are programmed to ‘move on’ emotionally after ejaculating. Orgasm leads to a spike in prolactin which is a ‘shut off valve’ for intimacy and sexual desire. Frequent masturbation is therefore a total intimacy killer. Controlling the male orgasm leads to increases in oxytocin focused on you as his key objects of desire. He is heavily sexually aroused and his desire for you will skyrocket. Now, he is fully aware that he can’t do anything about it until his scheduled release, so it translates as increased intimacy, and increased energy for other things.
No Pressure for Sex
Modern marriages are defined by women ‘feeling bad’ every time they are not up for sex. The perception of old-world society is that it is the women’s duty to provide sex whenever the male desires. With chastity and orgasm control, this is completely reversed. Sex is not the goal, and the ongoing sexual rush of the denial is what the male will savor the most.
We have PIV (penis in vagina) sex frequently. Most often this is outside of his release window, so he knows that he is not allowed to orgasm, and after I am finished, he is re-locked. It's a mind-screw and a challenge for him, but he absolutely LOVES it!
Chastity is Effortless
With him in chastity, I can do all of this without really having to do much. A bit of attention here and there, a bit of teasing and he is at a constant, positive simmer. It is about communication, structure and commitment.
Release Days are Effortless
When I do allow him an orgasm, this too can be as effortless as you could possibly imagine. On release days, his excitement is so high that bringing him to climax can take as little as a few seconds. This is about “release” - after weeks locked up he will not be able to last very long. Sometimes he will cum just by taking the cage off... In which case, job done 😂.
I usually start by having him bring me to orgasm as usual - with his tongue, hands or a toy. Now it's his turn (for once!).
First decision - do you want him to have his release while in the cage or unlocked?
Caged: it's about balls and nipples. I recommend one hand plays with his nips while the other pulls, squeezes and strokes his balls. Then begin tapping his balls at a regular rhythm, building intensity slowly. Tell him he has permission to cum... Keep tapping and in a few minutes he will come to the edge. He is to ask permission one more time before he about to cum. As he is coming, tap / slap harder until he is finished.
Unlocked: Take off the cage, grip his balls tightly and pull them away from his body, back and forth. Try to touch his nub as little as possible. At most, use a slow, infrequent stroke with a single finger from the base of his nub up the shaft to the tip. He must ask permission just as he is about to cum. At this point, tighten your grip and pull his balls away from his body and hold them there until he is finished.
Tip 1: If you do unlock him for release, always relock directly after he orgasms. This significantly reduces the "drop" he will experience after orgasm and will push him through the 2-3 grouchiness period much smoother. He loves it if I put the cage on him, but if you prefer he locks himself, straight after his release, firmly tell him that it's time to go back in the cage.
Tip 2: Feed it to him! Tell him to clean up with his tongue or at least lick it off your hand. Recycling is important 😂.
Cages Look Sexy
I think of chastity cages as jewellery which is very aesthetically pleasing. Unlocked penises flop about, lean to one side, grow and shrink unpredictably and are often pretty badly manicured. When locked in a cage, everything is so neat. Males will need to do a bit of gardening down there to make it as comfortable as possible. Everything is held in place. His nub is encased and immobilized. His balls are held tight and presented forward. He will want to wear tight underwear or swimwear for comfort purposes, which presents such a neat little package. Every time I see the cage I am reminded that he is doing this for me, and I get a little shiver down my spine. It just looks better, and I love it!
Arousal on Demand
Males think about sex all the time. The vast majority of sexual thoughts and corresponding erections go completely ignored. When locked in chastity, these sexual thoughts (and erections) are contained, and are linked to you as the keyholder. This is highly arousing for the male, and will feel like direct attention from you - even though you may not even be in the same postcode. The cage works for you full-time, and is there whenever the male is aroused. Extremely powerful!
Discipline
The chastity cage helps males to stick to the rules. Most males masturbate significantly more than you will ever imagine. For the vast majority, they will NEVER have gone 21 days or more without masturbating since they first discovered it in their teens. With a cage, masturbation is simply off the table. They must direct this energy elsewhere. Which leads to :
Weight Loss and Conditioning
All of this extra energy must go somewhere, and in most cases, this is directed to physical exercise and conditioning. Many women report that time in chastity has lead to significant weight loss and body sculpting in their males. Motivation and drive are seriously tangible chastity benefits that you will notice as little as 7 days in.
Service
Oxytocin is the courting hormone. Increases in this wonder drug caused by orgasm control will often lead to a far more focused, attentive and service-oriented mentality. Whether conscious on his part or not, I notice a happier, more helpful male, with a higher attention-to-detail and eagerness to please. Use this as you see fit!
A Better Sex Life
Most importantly, chastity and orgasm denial will improve your sex life. Sex does not equate to penetration anymore, although it certainly can if you wish. Unlock him at any point in the schedule for sex of you're keen for it - it's just that outside of the release window, he will have to find a way not to orgasm. You are the focus until his release date!
Most importantly, "sex" in long-term marriages is about sexual interaction - intimacy, honesty, communication and care. This is why you are doing this in the first place. Rewire your thinking as a couple, and become a highly engaged, balanced and aligned sexual partnership.
Conclusions
These are just some of the many benefits that are associated with the exciting journey of male orgasm control. Drop some more in the comments and I can add to this ever-growing list.
I found a wonderful Tumblr blog that describes how keeping your husband locked can lead to more intimacy. The writer looks like she put a lot of thought into this.
Even though she approaches this a little differently than I do with my husband, it looks like our general outlook is very similar.
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Ever jerk off when you didn't even want to? Even if you known you... need to go to bed, or that it's not gonna be satisfying. But you do it anyway. When your will fails, the metal cage won't. Give me your key. I wont' fail you either. I'm here to help you.
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DM if it actually works...curious to teach a few tgurls so they can swallow my 🍗 with no gag🚫
“Hello how are you?”
“Where are you from?”
How old are you?”
“I am looking for an honest and valuable slave!”
“Are you on hangout?”
“or Kik....?”
“I will train you to become my slave.....”
Doesn’t that happen to often to all of us ??
The X-Lock Cobra series looks promising bringing a modern option offering a design with lessons learned from issues of other male chastity devices out there. https://www.discerningspecialist.com/bdsm-gear/chastity/89-kink3d-x-lock-cobra-male-chastity-device-review
Well damn...
Getting rid of gag reflex.
It worked!