happiness

a safe space for all your worries and questions and somewhere to go when you need that extra bit of positivity in your life ♡

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look after yourselves, especially in uncertain times like these, your mental well-being is so important

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I know things may seem tough right now, and it may seem as if the darkness will never lift, but just remember that darkness never wins, the light will always prevail so please don’t give up hope, be the strong person I know you are 

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The only persons whose opinion matters is your own, look after yourself, put yourself first, you are so important

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so so so so sorry that I’ve been inactive recently - I have seen your messages I just haven’t had the chance to answer and I’m sorry, but I’m back guys!!

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Idk if this is something you can give advice on BUT I’m a trans girl and I’m mostly closeted so I still present as a boy and I’m going to an lgbt group thing and they’re going to ask my name and pronouns but since I still look like a boy if I say she/her I’ll feel like a liar and I think due to my autism if I lie I feel like an extremely horrible person(and it causes anxiety) but if I say he/him I’ll also feel like a liar since I’m not a guy plus it’ll cause dysphoria so basically what do I do

If you’re going to that group then it’ll be a safe space fir you to be you. You’re not lying if you say your pronouns are she/her because that’s exactly who you are - don’t worry about it love, be who you really are, they’ll accept you :)

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I’ve heard that some women can be straight but can still want lesbian sex. Is it possible to be a straight woman and still want to have lesbian sex? Or is that just bisexuality with extra steps?

Being straight is only having attraction to the opposite sex. Straight women wanting to have sex with women don’t exist as by definition they’re not straight as they’re not just feeling attraction for the other sex. I wouldn’t say “bisexuality with extra steps” I’d just say bisexuality and they just have realised it - usually because society hasn’t let them realise it :/

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hey so ive been dealing with an identity crisis. im trying to figure out who the hell i am. i dont really "like" people and if anything i sorta like girls (%10) and i dont really want to get phisical. like i would only go to 1st or maybe 2nd base...i dont know i just having a crisis. thanks for reading.

I’m not really clued up™️ on asexuality and aromantic but from first glance thats what it sounds like you’re getting at (if you want to label it of course) its totally normal to not feel romatic and/or sexual attraction to someone and despite popular belief, being asexual doesn’t just mean completely abstaining from sex, some asexuals masturbate or have sexual contact with others but either they don’t have the want to go too far/don’t have a sex drive but do these things anyway - asexuality is a spectrum and if you feel that you fall somewhere on that spectrum then great! But if you don’t then that’s ok too and whatever you feel is valid no matter what xx

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Treat yourself like someone you love dearly. You deserve to be loved and to love yourself wholeheartedly and never settle for anything else ♡

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Hello. I just found your page and I need some support. I’m Pansexual but I don’t know if I should come out or not. I’m at a young age so I’m afraid too. What should I do?

If you feel its right then go for it! Age shouldn’t matter but I can understand why you’re insecure x honestly if you think its the right time then I say do it - as long as its safe!

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I've been questioning for about a month now, and I'm like 70% sure that I'm probably bi. But I still really don't know. This is my first time ever having a crush on a girl so this could just be a phase like some people actually have. I really like my crush and sometimes I'm saying things like "wow I'm very bi" but I keep changing and ugh why am I so indecisive Sorry for the word vomit, I guess my question is do you think I'm bi, and could this be a phase?

This happened to me and now I’m dating the girl and we’ve been together for a year! I thought it was a phase, personally, now, I don’t think phases acrually exist, I think people may have that crush on someone of the same sex and may never crush on the same sex again but you still felt that attraction so you’re at least a little bit bi. If you are worried that it is a passing thing though maybe try and relate you’re feelings to this girl to feelings you’ve had to boys in the past (if you have), is it the same? Different? In what way different? Maybe don’t tell them until you know yourself if this is a real crush or just passing because you don’t want to hurt them. Maybe look at bisexual experiences online and see, its best to embrace it within yourself as its always easier then to figure yourself out if you’re not hiding yourself from yourself, does that make any sense? I hope so!

I hope you’re alright my love, good luck :) xx

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your love is beautiful ♡

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It’s the month of love ♡ ♡

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Hi. I just found your blog, and I think you’re so sweet. I’m Pansexual, and have a mutual who is homophobic, and transphobic. At first I didn’t mind too much, because they weren’t being rude about disliking the lgbtq+ community, but recently they’ve been pushing their beliefs onto me, and I’m just... Not sure I can handle it. I want to break ties with them, but they consider me their friend, and I unfortunately am a people pleaser. I put others before myself, and I don’t want to hurt them. 💜

Hi! Sorry, I’ve been away so haven’t been able to get to your message but I’m here now :) honestly that sounds like such a toxic relationship. I know you consider them a friend but I don’t think its at all wise to stay with someone that has such harmful views, views that harm you in particular. Your mentality and health come first and I think by remaining friends with this person then you won’t be your best self x I’m a people pleaser too and believe me I know this will be a difficult decision and thing to do but you have to leave them, you’ll be so thankful in the future if you do

I hope you’re alright love, wishing you all the best xx

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(2/2) i’ve contemplated suicide because of that. the constant pressure of being bullied is just.. too much for me, and i know i deserve it. it’s been months after what happened and i’m trying really hard to move on but everytime i go to school i’m instantly reminded. idk what to do. i feel so guilty. i don’t even have friends now, and that’s making my social anxiety worse. i feel depressed all the time. please give me advice. i’m literally desperate. thanks, and i’m sorry for wasting ur time.

Go get help my love - tell your parents and find a proffessional to give you some help because you do not deserve to die. While what you did may not have been smart you do not deserve the backlash you are getting and I’m sorry x talk to your parents/ carers about EVERYTHING, I assure you it will help, maybe think about transferring schools? Please don’t do anything rash love, just find help please

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Hi 👋 I am Panromantic, but I also think I could be demisexual. (I’m female by the way) Does this sound Panromantic demiseexual?: I can like (romantically/emotionally) all genders with a slight preference to females. When I want a relationship with someone I still want to hug/kiss/hold hands with them, but not necessarily have sex with them. Thank you for this blog and for answering! 💖💛💙

Hiya! I will admit that I’m still understanding different sexuality myself so am not a complete expert haha - if anyone is panromantic / demisexual and would like to leave a comment to help, that would be great! - so my girlfriend is pansexual and she takes that to mean attraction regardless of gender, does that feel right to you? Having no sexual attraction does imply aromantic but in your case, if you’re pan, then panromantic works if that feels right for you :) I did/ still do feel that I’m demisexual, this means that it takes me a longer time to form a romantic or sexual relationship with people as I need a more emotional connection for it to develop - does this sound like something you feel? I know I sort of asked you questions instead of answering them but it is all about how you feel and what you think is right for you :) hope this was somewhat helpful love xxx

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theres a boy i like and my bf gave me the o.k. to date him ( ope relat. everyone is aware ) but im so nervous about being around him that its kind of caused me to ghost my entire friendgroup ): tuesday ( 2 days ago ) was the first time in weeks id gone out to see any of them and it was just to see how my old schools play is going help

Ok so I don’t have a lot of experience with open relationships (read as: none 😂) but the problem seems to be with your friends so I think I can help. Have your friends mentioned you ghosting them? If they don’t see it as a problem and are supportive of you going after this boy then keep doing what you’re doing, it doesn’t seem to be an issue! If they are getting annoyed because of it though, pencil in more time for them, friendships are so important and you don’t even know this guy completely yet, don’t throw your friends away for him

Hope this is of some help! xx