Well. Hi there. I kinda took an unplanned hiatus from Tumblr. To those still following me - I apologize. My real life offers little time for TV nowadays, and my social media has been whittled down to bare bones Twitter and FB usage. Fandom life just isn’t really in the cards right now, I fear. I hope to get more involved again when the shows I’m committed to are back on the air (or that other show looks more like the one I fell in love with.)
Anyways, my break from fandom makes this post even more interesting. You see, I’ve been dragged back into some very old, dormant drama that I’d really rather not hash out again. But since not only my name has been brought into this, but the good name of a wonderful friend and human, I felt it time to break my silence.
I will not name names here. Either you already know who this is about, or you can find out very easily. But someone is spreading untruths about me and my close friend, and so now I’ll tell the actual truth.
I had a very close fandom friend. Perhaps my best one at the time. People knew we “went together”, we were that close. I invited this person to stay in my home, I picked this person up and drove them to the airport, I even paid for our hotel at a con (she promised to pay me back and never did). I won’t get into the tiny details of all of it. Suffice it to say I should have known long before I did that something was amiss. I had inklings. I asked her why I didn’t have her number (her answer: a broken phone for months at a time). Before she came to stay with me I even gently told her about my concerns - she still avoided a phone call/FaceTime, until I told her I couldn’t have her in my house with my child until we spoke face to face. We did, finally, on an overseas number she claimed was her family member’s while she was visiting there. I was appeased, for a while, and the aforementioned visit occurred, during which she did indeed stay in my home (with my child), and I paid for our hotel at the con.
I found out not long later that my gut was right. (Always trust your gut, kids). She had, indeed, lied to me. About where she lived, what she did for a living, maybe her name I don’t know. She lied about so many things that I didn’t even know what was a lie and what wasn’t. And when I asked her about it, she didn’t deny it. She tried to play a victim, and then told me she wanted to explain. She never did. She stopped answering me, so I stopped trying to talk to her. And that was that. I didn’t spread rumors or tell people. I was beyond hurt, not even angry, just hurt that someone I trusted and was so close with and who had met my family could do this to me. So I let it go and moved on.
Now, almost a YEAR later, this person is spreading lies about me and another friend. Many people know that over time I have had the privilege of speaking with various people who have knowledge about a certain show. At one time, she was one of those people. But when I discovered all her lies, I immediately discounted any “insider info” she had given me. Anything else I’ve said or claimed to know or whatever has been from other places - NOT her. I just want to put that out there. Over the course of the last few years I think I’ve been able to provide some solid, good, real information about a number of topics. I am open and honest, to a fault sometimes. What you see is what you get, and I share a lot about myself, including conversations I’ve had with people connected to the show whether at a con or elsewhere. I consider myself a reliable person. This other person…is not.
Anyways the point here is that this person is a liar. Hard stop. That’s all. I have proof, and I’m not the only one. I found out after the fact that she had done to others similar things - speak to 5 different old friends of hers and you’ll hear that she’s from 5 different places and has 5 different jobs. A few people who are aware of her and what she has done have expressed concern to me that her latest info makes her sound a lot like who *I* really am. I don’t know why she does this. I don’t wish her anything bad. But if she’s going to drag me into her lies a year later, I’m going to speak the truth.
Be careful who you trust online.
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