I might be delusional and crazy aber wenn wir in NdZ eine Krankenhaus Flashback Szene bekommen wo Adam neben Leos Bett sitzt und wartet das er aufwacht....dann lieg ich aber im Koma😭
two bros die bissi awkward about it waren, weil sie sich in letzter zeit zur begrüßung immer geküsst haben, aber nicht geklärt hatten wie das läuft wenn sie beide wieder im büro sind
When a show sends your blorbos to therapy - the right way -
A THERAPIST REACTS REAL QUICK TO DAS BÖSE IN DIR
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Spoilers for Tatort Saarbrücken Das Böse In Dir in coming.
Not a lot. It's 527am CET but oh my fucking lord? Oh my g-d?
Holy shit?!
Yall. Yall the Spatort Team (minus our episode detective protagonist - who needed to go through the Torment Nexus and we thank her for her service - I'll get into that LATER because OH MAN DO WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT HER TORMENT NEXUS) to therapy in a such a good way and I am just ecstatic.
Because as a therapist? I get very sad about how therapy is represented in media.
It's treated as either
a magic cure-all
bullshit that doesn't work
something that if you show up to it works like taking pills or like a Catholic Indulgence
dangerous pseudoscience used by the state to hurt vulnerable people
And while therapy can be all those things(except a magical cure all - people who experience cure-all results have Other Shit Going On) that is rarely about Therapy and is more about Systems In Which Therapy Is (Mis)Used.
Ja. So.
Therapy gets rarely gets portrayed on TV how it actually works - as a process that mostly works OUTSIDE of the therapy session - which is how Spatort used therapy in DBID.
We see Leo saying "I told you you need to go to therapy." as a boss and someone concerned about someone else. (which we will return to later)
But when I tell you that MOSTLY we see characters DOING THERAPY BEHAVIORS and that is the SINGLE MOST TELLING SIGN that all of my bitches are in Therapy after the Carla Incident?
I died.
I fucking DIED.
Because we start with my baby. My poor little meow-meow. Adam. Who is MARKEDLY DIFFERENT this episode. Not totally. He's still an antagonistic piece of shit. Of course he is.
But. From the clinical stand-point?
OH MY GOSH. He's doing conscious behavior modification: At one point he even says something to the effect of: This is a new behavior I am practicing. Because I want things to be better.
LET'S PUT ASIDE THE FACT THAT HE LOOKS AT LEO LIKE...I DON'T KNOW WHAT.
LETS PUT ASIDE HIS TONE OF VOICE WHEN HE SAYS HEY TO LEO.
LETS PUT ASIDE HIS SMILE WHEN HE SMILES AT LEO
LETS PUT ASIDE THE FACT WHEN I WENT TO FALL OUT BOY FOR THE FIRST TIME I WAS LESS HAPPY THAT THIS BABYGIRL IS RIGHT NOW
SERIOUSLY DANIEL WHAT IS THIS ACTING CHOICE? I HAVE SO MANY QUESTIONS?
Okay seriously aside from the fact that in the first 5 seconds this interaction Adam is kinning Ariel when she first sees Eric dancing on the boat with his dog Maxi before the big thunder storm in the Little Mermaid? This is very much How People Act when they are engaging in a New Behavior to learn how to do it.
Pia and Leo are confused but they go along with it. Leo especially is like "this is what my pet idiot is doing to day. Pet his hair call him pretty ig?"
I know there's probably an impulse to read what Adam is doing there as him fucking with them. But when you put it together with him quitting smoking, and him moving out of his mother's house? We now have 3 intentional behavior changes to make his life better.
As a therapist - I am telling you right now - this one In particular is important to take seriously because Adam very clearly takes it seriously. He does not reference back to it as a joke later. He does not pretend it didn't happen. He does not dismiss it. If Adam was my patient? We would spend an entire session on how doing this made him feel and if it was good? How he could replicate it in other, different behaviors in his life that he isn't happy with.
I guarantee you that's what this is. This show is so incredibly smart and knows EXACTLY what it's doing and is one of the few things on TV I have ever seen that has EVER done this right. I'm fucking floored.
Furthermore you get to 3 in terms of narrative structure? It's not a coincidence. It's a pattern.And while we're his pattern of changing behavior to improve his life towards a narrative end?
Let's take a look at another thing that Adam does that we have literally never, ever seen him do before: Adam asks directly for Esther to take the knocked out tooth picture away and tells her why it upsets him enough that he wants it gone.
This moment shocked me so fucking much - as a therapist - that I went back and watched a half a dozen times in a row. It's at 35:10.
If you watch it? It shocks the fuck out of Leo too.
The number of therapeutically relevant things that happen here. I just...I die of professional and fannish corssover JOY
Adam recognizes that he is triggered
Adam sets a boundary with wanting it gone
Adam asks directly rather than indirectly
Adam feels secure enough to share something personal with his team about the way in which he currently feels unsafe
Adam allows Esther to actually remove the triggering item instead of suffering through it or removing himself from the situation
Yaaaalllll. Yall that boy has been actually making use of his department/Leo mandated sessions. He could not do that shit before. How do I know?
Because we have Pia's behavior in contrast. The not sharing of details.
And beyond THAT we have Leo - who shares ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. What do we know about his life? Not a thing.
He is a closed off locked down overcontrol nightmare. I want to be REALLY clear about that.
Even with a pulmonary embolism and tinnitus he doesnt want to stop driving. This is a control issue.
Leo is... Well, he's having a hard time. With power. With safety. With a lot of issues, if you ask me.
We see it in a little bursts with the fact that he is constantly reality testing - "Can a place actually be evil?" and the way he is trying to cope with his body, the one thing he once could trust, failing him. First in the woods. The in the bathroom.
Leo Is destabilized in this episode in a whole new way.
But! My team has had therapy! Or at least they value therapy tools! They are openly communicating! They are discussing what they need. They are doing their DEARMANS!
Describing Expressing Asserting and Reinforcing the issues they have with each other while being Mindful making no Apologies and being willing ot Negotiate. And how do I know that?
Because so much goes unsaid on screen. So much. There's not enough time for everything that happens between the team.
But above all? Adam drives them all home from Esther's village.
After he sets ANOTHER boundary with Esther. Huzzah he's been needing to set boundaries with Esther in a calm way for 4 episodes - that she is never to say any shit to him ever again. As is his right.
And it's the first real progress for them in YEARS.
But the biggest different is that after that?
Adam carries them both home. He's the one who gets them both home safe.
That's the last shot.
Because the thing that made Leo weep, when they were in that hallway years ago, was not that he wasn't the center of Adam's world. You know because you can see the MOMENT the first tear starts to form, is stlightly before on aber du du vertraust nur dir selbst - but you - you only trust yourself.
Not this time.
Leo is struggling. He could get through it though. But not driving? He is trusting Adam back. Rebuilding.
Ugh! Look at these healthy behaviors!
Between Adam actually speaking up for himself and asking to be protected (which let's be so serious, is something Leo was dying for) Adam actually working with him again (again something Leo was dying for) and Adam actually being concerned about him, his tinnitus, his well-being? I think Leo's just been waiting for an excuse. Just like he was looking for the non-smoking to be a way in.
Which is perfect. It really is.
It leans on the trust that they had before the money, before Roland ruined them. It's a sign that they're healing.
Even if separately they're in different places.
And for all of them, every single one of them - including Esther in the Torment Nexus.
And putting that on the one time we do actually engage with therapy? Holy majoly. I died of joy.
Yes, actually, healthy relationships can be interesting. Yes actually, people who love each other can be insane and fun to watch. Yes actually the road to recovery can be fucked up and insane and dynamic. Yes, actually therapy can be something useful that doesnt make your characters boring.
YES PLEASE DO THIS!
MORE SHOWS DO THIS!
I COULD WRITE A THOUSAND MORE WORDS ON THIS BUT IT IS NOW 6AM 7AM AND I HAVE PATIENTS AAAAARGH!
Okay this went so much longer than I wanted byyyyyyye
wir reden alle über die Umarmung zwischen Leo und Adam aber was mich an der Szene wirklich völlig dahinschmelzen lässt, ist das Adam ganz sanft "hey" sagt und Leo kaum hörbar mit einen noch zarteren, dahingehauchten "hey" antwortet 😭🧡.
Außerdem Pias Blick kurz vor der Hörk Umarmung... sie schaut Leo ins Gesicht und lächelt, weil sie sieht wie liebevoll er Adam anschaut aaaah. 🥰
Und dann der Moment in dem sie sich voneinander lösen. Adam schaut schüchtern nach unten, genauso wie er es nach "wenn man etwas liebt dann kommt man zurück" getan hat. Der Blick nach unten passiert immer dann wenn große Gefühle in ihm hochkommen und er Angst hat, dass man ihm die sofort vom Gesicht ablesen kann. Oder wenn er noch nicht damit umgehen kann und sie wegdrückt. Beim Streit im Krankenhaus (KdE) haben wir das auch schon gesehen.
Und Leo wiederum sieht aus als ob ihm plötzlich wieder bewusst wird, dass sie nicht allein sind 😏 sondern im Büro und er switched schnell in den Dienst-Modus zurück. Ich lese da in seinem Gesicht den Gedanken "nicht hier vor Pia und Esther".
Ich sage euch, bei Adams Besuchen im Krankenhaus ist einiges zwischen den beiden passiert. Mindestens schüchternes Händchenhalten als Leo noch sehr schwach war und Umarmungen ihm weh getan hätten. Noch nicht mehr als das, denke ich aber geredet haben sie ganz bestimmt und Adam hat ihm mit feuchten Augen gesagt was für große Angst er um ihn hatte und ihm über den Kopf gestreichelt. Da bin ich mir sicher. 😌
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