so after that , this blog will be archived ! if you would like to follow me to my new blog , give this a like and I’ll send you in the right direction .
so after that , this blog will be archived ! if you would like to follow me to my new blog , give this a like and I’ll send you in the right direction .
so after that , this blog will be archived ! if you would like to follow me to my new blog , give this a like and I’ll send you in the right direction .
so I’m a little upset , drama ahead . it will be tagged and under a readmore .
so of course I was a little upset and sent them an anon : I dont think that was what the person meant at all honestly. If they had upset you, why not talk to them about it instead of vague posting about it? I've been observing the situation from afar and I sincerely do not believe that op meant it as a "hey I want to smut with you". They've apologized for it, too. I think they had just felt that the disorder was applicable to their muse without doing proper research prior (and after talking to them, they're going to be more careful in the future).
And they posted : They didn’t apologize for shit. They waited for me to block them—because you can’t convince me that isn’t the case when I blocked them an hour after my fiance said something about it and they messaged him a solid minute after I blocked them. The first result on Google says hypersexuality is a “clinical diagnosis” and if you think you can see a word, run with it and not upset people that suffer from it, that’s a personal problem. If you can say to my fiance that you “didn’t know it was a negative thing” when my post literally said “due to sexual harassment”, I don’t know how to help you. I have no obligation to a stranger to educate them. If I do not know someone, there is no reason for me to spend my spare time, my energy, my already shaky mental health trying to explain to them that they need to find some self awareness and not badger me and several friends to ship with them and make blogs for them, especially when they made it evident they couldn’t even be bothered to read my rules. My fiance tried to explain it to them. They turned to threatening to delete and that’s one of the most common manipulation and guilt tripping tactics that I have ever seen. Several people saw that comment before I did. Do you know how many said to me, “I don’t think that’s what they meant!” Absolutely none of them. All of them were livid, just like I was. I don’t have time to fix the problems of strangers. Do research in your free time instead of asking me to do it for you in mine. Further anons about this issue will be blocked. This will be deleted later. Edit: I just noticed you sent another, so you’ve been blocked. If you can’t say it off anon, you shouldn’t be saying it.
and then their friends are commenting that correcting me is fine - which it is ! I completely welcome corrections for when I am wrong ! however ... blocking , vague posting , GROUP BLOCKING and vague posting ... I don’t think that’s okay . the original mun would not come talk to me about it .
It all started because I posted that my muse had hypersexuality - I never heard of it until I was tagged in a post like this:
INCLINATIONS/HABITS:
is submissive | is dominant | prefers to top | prefers to bottom | likes to switch | identifies as heterosexual | identifies as homosexual | identifies as bisexual | identifies as pansexual | identifies as demisexual | identifies as asexual | enjoys sex with men/male-identifying|enjoys sex with women/female-identifying | enjoys sex with multiple people at one time| initiates | waits for partner to initiate | spits | swallows | prefers sex in the morning | prefers sex at night | prefers sex any time | no sex drive | low sex drive | average sex drive | high sex drive | hypersexual
BODY/APPEARANCE:
small build | medium build | athletic build | muscular build | curvy build | voluptuous build | stocky build | chubby | fat | boxers | briefs | boxer-briefs | wears lingerie | goes ‘commando’| shaves/waxes | doesn’t shave/wax | cup size a-c | cup size d-f | 1-5" in length | 6-9“ in length | 10” or over in length
SOUNDS:
is silent/makes little to no sounds | is very quiet | is very loud | grows in volume over time|bites hand / partner / pillow to muffle themselves | calls out partner’s name | curses | fakes/exaggerates | prefers a quiet partner | prefers a loud partner | is turned on by dirty talk| is turned off by dirty talk
TURN-ONS/KINKS:
having their hands pinned | pinning their partner’s hands | having their hair pulled |pulling their partner’s hair | being watched (by their partner) | being watched (by a third party) | watching their partner | receiving oral | giving oral | calling their partner ‘daddy’| being called ‘daddy’ | giving praise | receiving praise | biting / marking | being bitten / marked | spanking | being spanked | teasing | being teased | having toys used on them|using toys on their partner | giving anal | receiving anal | choking | being choked | dirty talk | being tied up | tying their partner up | being worshiped | worshiping their partner | humiliating | being humiliated | degrading | being degraded | knife play | blood play | being pegged | pegging their partner | whipping | being whipped | none of the above
PLACES:
in a bedroom | in a shower / bath | in a pool/ocean | in a kitchen | in a bathroom (home) |in a bathroom (public) | in a car | in a tent | in an alleyway | in a field / forest | at a school| in an empty / abandoned building | in a library | on a rooftop / terrace | in a dressing room | in an elevator | in a parking lot | at a museum | at a cemetery | at a beach | in a closet| at a hospital
all of these stats are NSFW headcanons for my OC, Jo . this is the first time that I have ever heard of the term hypersexuality , and I made the mistake ( yes - mistake ) of believing it was just connected to a high libido / ect . I did not realize that it was a real disease that people would experience , and as such I’ve scrapped it from Jo’s history .
Now , the muns were correct in that I made a mistake . However , instead of vague posting about it , blocking me , having their friends block and then vague post about me , THEN say slanderous things about me , is absolutely unnecessary .
If you have a problem , come talk to me. I encourage it .
otherwise , I cannot fix it . so let’s recap because this is a long post
1 . I made a comment on a child sexual abuse headcanon who’s character has hypersexuality and feels embarrassed about it . I cannot remember my exact wording , as I was half asleep when I posted it ( then fell back asleep afterward ) . I believe what I had said was “ hey my OC Jo has that too!” or something .
In no way shape or form did that sexualize , fetishize , or sound like “ I want to write porn of this ” . does it ?
2 . I’m blocked , then vague blogged about . I check my IMs and my heart drops : I’ve upset a friend . I go to their romantic partner , trying to explain what I meant by it and apologizing FREQUENTLY . I’ve since taken that ‘hc’ of my OC and thrown it in the trash because I did not understand the severity of the disease -- and that is my fault . I DID SOMETHING WRONG , YES I DID .
3 . mun seemed rather aggressive about it . I did not want to hurt them - or upset anyone . that was not my intention whatsoever and anyone who knows me personally should KNOW that . so I apologize and I wish them farewell and to have a good day/ life or whatever .
4 . I feel horrible . I feel like actual shit now that I made someone feel this way , so I decide to delete my blog . I still am leaving this URL -- I’m not lying about that -- but I am staying on Tumblr under an alias and being EXTREMELY private and leaving out my url to only select people .
5 . I message them the anon message as above , wanting to discuss this because it obviously effected them and I wanted to change that . I wasn’t sure if they had seen the screen caps or not , or if they don’t care . but I do . I made them uncomfortable , and I am really , really sorry about that . I would never intentionally hurt someone .
6 . I read the above mentioned response and well ... here I am . I wanted to lay it all out onto the table :
Joel, I thought we were becoming friends . I would never , ever sexualize / fetishize abuse of your muse . I had thought that maybe he and Jo could become close friends and talk it through - was I wrong ? DEFINITELY . It was my fault for not doing research about a hc before applying it to my muse , for not looking it up to fully understand the depth of the disease . I did wrong by you . And I really , really am sorry .
Isa/Lavi, I thought we were friends too. I figured that you had known me by now - and that I would never want to hurt either of you. I did not mean in that thread that I’m apologizing to you because you experience it - I’m grateful that from this lesson I can take away from it what not to do and to be more mindful of what I add to my characters and to not butt into other people’s hcs.
However , I am appalled by both of you . Instead of talking to me directly , you block me ... then are very rude towards me when I try to make amends . Then you and your friends block me, talk about me... and then accuse me of badgering people and of just being belligerent and disrespectful. That really hurts me, and it shows me what you’re like on the inside. I truly hope for your happiness here, with your friends and such, and with each other . I do not appreciate being dragged through the mud like that , and if you have an issue PLEASE TELL ME . I cannot stress that enough.
I’m out . Washing my hands of this situation , and washing my hands of you too . You could have been mature and talked to me directly , honestly . I would have listened and understood ( and I did learn from this ) . I really hope that the next person who upsets you is treated more civilly than I have been .
And if this ostracizes me even more , then , well that’s fine . I have my friends , and you have yours . And I wish you the best of luck with everything life throws at you , and I mean it in the sincerest way possible . Thank you for the experience , and for showing me who not to be friends with .
so um . . . I made a mistake . I’ve upset some people , and I’ve apologized for it but anyone who was mutuals with us , have decided to block me as well . and once I’ve been blocked , I’ve been vagueposted about . so I can only come up with one conclusion , and that is to delete this blog by midnight tonight . I’ll take whatever headcanons or work that I’ve put into these characters and tuck them away somewhere . I don’t really know if I’ll come back to the community or not . I made one stupid comment that was throughly ignorant , and I’ve apologized for it and will be more careful in the future but I cannot stay here with the fact that now most people that I’ve adored see me as a disgusting person . what’s worse is that they paint my OCs in the same light . so it is with heavy hearts that I’ll be leaving this url and maybe all of tumblr as a whole . I’m truly sorry , to any of those that I’ve upset .
affection was something she’d been starved of and now that it was gifted to her she received it without any hesitance. remaining over the heating vent she sunk into the other’s embrace, tiny head almost nudging up into josie’s like a cat. she felt safe here in her grasp and that was potentially enough to lull her to sleep in due time.
often , the child reminded Jo of her own little sisters ( and who’s to say that Eve is not one of them , too ? ) . with the girl now nestled ‘ pon her , Jo leaves a soft kiss onto her temple . she soon becomes entirely still , her wings resting like a blanket over Eve . oh , how she loved cuddling Eve !
she’s sitting on top of a heating vent with a plush, pink blanket wrapped around her, encasing all the hot air inside. eve is so warm that her cheeks are turning red and…oh! she’s falling asleep–
the nephilim was equally as tired , spotting the other on her way into their warmed home . a yawn is heard , soft like a kitten mewl , before she nuzzles into the child below . warm , delicate wings encase them in a warm embrace , Josie’s head resting ‘ pon Eve’s . she was so much happier with a child in her warms , thank you .
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