The way to get over a broken heart is to find somebody new to love. The problem with finding somebody new to love when your heart is broken, is that you don’t feel like loving when you are suffering. You are still occupied with loving the person who broke your heart. When you experience such intense pain, the last thing you want to do is fall in love again. When your heart aches, it’s hard to imagine loving in a way that won’t lead right back to that pain. Even if you were to meet your soul mate while you are nursing a broken heart, you wouldn’t recognize them because when you are feeling that bad, you don’t know your own soul.
To find somebody new to love, you have to look into your own soul. You have to see who and what you are. You have to look with the eyes of pain, and see what hurts and why. There is no better time to look into your soul than when it is torn wide open. When it seems you have lost everything that you thought you had, everything that you thought you were, you can get a clear view of what you are. What you are is hurting. You are also compassionate. The compassionate side of you looks into the hurting side of you and wants to make it feel better. When you recognize your compassionate side, recognizing your hurting side, you begin to get to know your soul again. If you get a good glimpse of your soul, you will have found somebody new to love. It’s not some random stranger sweeping you off your feet. It is your new self.
When the new person that you find to love is the new you, you don’t have to worry about future heartbreaks. You won’t have to protect your heart from future love. If your soul mate walks into your life you will recognize them, because you have recognized your soul.
When you recognize your compassionate soul, you may recognize many soul mates. Whenever you see another person suffering, your compassionate soul will be able to see into that suffering and recognize a kindred spirit. All that compassion will mend your broken heart. When you practice loving yourself and others who are suffering, you learn to love again. When suddenly you find yourself in love again, with someone new, you know you are over your broken heart.
When you go through this process with awareness, your heart doesn’t harden to become unbreakable in case it falls, it softens, so it can bounce. It lightens, so it can float.