To acknowledge the situation related to myself (Tony), the Discord server āMad Prideā, and various other tumblr and Discord users: I made a lot of people feel unsafe by creating an environment that was inclusive to a fault, and therefore was home to people who should not have been in direct contact with vulnerable members. The members who noticed this and had concerns felt unable to raise them, creating a self-perpetuating cycle of more and more conflict with lack-luster responses. This ended in a long series of callout posts. Iām not happy with my responses to those - including the post I made before deleting my blogs, not telling a teenager not to engage before they did, kicking roughly two dozen people from Mad Pride, etc. - but at the same time, I donāt know that I could have made much better decisions in the past week. This discourse is happening in the Cluster-B tumblr community and almost everyone involved, on both sides and onlooking, is severely mentally ill. A lot of us have trauma related to transphobia, CSA, etc. and while that doesnāt erase the impact my response had, it is relevant to why I responded the way I did, which was, again, quite badly. I donāt want to undermine that.Ā
Iāve apologised privately to a few people I kicked and distrusted, but Iād also like to apologise to the ones who havenāt or donāt want to contact me. Iām sure more people than have said anything feel personally hurt by being kicked without warning or explanation. It was a decision made due to paranoia alone, and it is no fault of yours that Mad Pride went up in smoke the way it did. That said, to specifically address the accusations and where I fucked up:
(CW: Discussion of transmisogyny, threats, and NSFW topics including sexual assault, child grooming and endangerment, and pornography. Please let me know anything to add to this warning)
