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[stronglyshinyvein]

hornyposting @trashinholes

this blog is just for kink education & safety posts - feel free to tag me in any!

[small-good-wolf]

piss kink safety patrol! (for golden showers, drinking piss, internal pissing— anal and vaginal, holding, and wetting)

if you are being pissed on

very very minimal safety risks here

close those eyes baby! the second piss is anywhere near the face— close your eyes. that shit stings. have you ever had cum in your eye? it’s like that, but way harder to wipe off.

try not to do this with any fresh piercings, new tattoos, open wounds, or anything else that’s begging to get infected

if you are ingesting urine

what medications is your partner on? can they be passed through urine? (most likely they can be— in very trace amounts. but those trace amounts can be important to be aware of depending on your situation)

has your partner recently ingested something (medication, food, etc) that you are allergic to? or something that interacts with your meds? if they have, is it worth that risk?

has your partner recently taken any drugs? can they be passed through urine? (most likely they can be— in very trace amounts. those trace amounts may or may not be enough to cause a reaction, and may or may not be enough to fail a drug test <- has happened to people!)

on one non-safety note… you’re probably not going to love the taste of piss. regardless. you might! but most do not. it’s piss. really well hydrated piss can be very enjoyable (I like it a lot!), really dehydrated piss might make you puke. diet changes the taste— just like cum, but more directly. coffee, asparagus, lots of meat… all things that can make it particularly strong (and some people love that! some people do that on purpose! but I would maybe not… start there). lots of juice + lots and lots of water can make it very mild. medications and supplements can change the taste. lots of people anecdotally like the way beer or diet soda makes it taste. first piss of the day is considerably stronger and more unpleasant than any other time.

if you are doing internal pissing (anal)

if you are getting it straight from the tap (penis or funneled in): minimal to no risk. pee is not sterile! urine is not sterile. but you’re not gonna run into a ton of issues here. the real concern is if you’re dealing with abnormal abrasions, likely from particularly rough anal sex, you’re going to be more at risk for infection. keep an eye on it, take a shower, etc. you’re probably all good.

if you are getting a larger volume than one normal pee (bottle, etc, any amount of built-up fluid from multiple pees): this is less a safety risk and more just a heads up. chances are this will kind of accidentally enema you. and then you will shit. pretty immediately. if you’ve done a ton of anal prep (including enema) beforehand, you’re likely going to be fine.

if you are doing internal pissing (vaginal)

now we’re looking at pH balances. urine is more basic than the natural flora of a vaginal ecosystem, which can cause problems.

if you are prone to UTIs, yeast infections, or bacterial vaginosis, you should probably prepare for that. if that’s the risk you’d like to take, that’s your choice! but if your pH balance is delicate, piss is absolutely going to disrupt it.

even if you’re not prone, the risk for all of the above is there!

PEE. AFTER. BEING. PEED IN. please 😚 you’ll save yourself so much trouble. and I mean pee, don’t just evacuate the foreign piss. if you’re not already peeing after sex in general… start now!

if you’re doing any kind of holding:

any long-term holding (and I mean, like, having holding your pee for long periods of time become a part of your life for years) can result in slight to moderate incontinence (leaking) and weakened pelvic floor muscles. make sure you’re doing pelvic floor exercises! it’s best to sometimes give yourself an extended break from a holding kink, but I won’t tell you what to do.

there’s no real One Answer for “how long is it okay to hold at one time?”, but it’s better to do high hydration/stronger desperation/shorter hold than it is to do low hydration/less need to pee/longer hold, for hydration purposes. the longer you hold, the more you are at risk for UTIs and potentially bladder infections (cystitis, a kind of UTI). bladder infections have a chance of becoming kidney infections. no, there’s no One Set Time, but no, it’s not safe to hold all day either. listen to your body as best you can.

find your limits and set them. I’m prone to UTIs (and have a weak bladder), so I have different levels of “okay to hold”. I have found the maximum amount of water and its correlating hold times that work for me— and hold time is never over an hour. that’s my risk profile.

if you’re wetting

sitting in your wet mess can be fun and humiliating, but can also cause rashes. I literally cannot speak to diaper instances, I have no experience there, but most fabrics will start to be uncomfortable while wet after a while, and sitting in your piss can cause chafing, rashes, skin irritation… and again, sitting in pissed in underwear (or garments close to the genitalia) can cause UTIs + yeast infections, especially in vulvas.

AS ALWAYS, when dealing with someone else’s fluids inside your body, you are at risk for STIs. get tested, keep getting tested, take PrEP, have the conversations, know your body, and above all, be aware of what risks you run. this shit is fun and wonderful— funderful— and should stay that way. safe pissing (or lack thereof) everybody!

[mountaincripple]

there are disability aids for literally everything…. and that includes intimacy!!

its very important to me that you know this!!!

here are just a few examples:

18 and over post pls <3

first my credentials: i’m physically disabled (wheelchair user, chronic pain, spasms in extremities, muscle weakness, numbness and atrophy in all limbs, seizures, etc) i’m an ex SW and i used to work at an adult store (trying to get rehired again pray for me pls)

pillow forms:

my fave is the liberator wedge, but there’s a lot of shapes. can be used in a variety of ways to ease strain.

hand harnesses:

extremely helpful if you can’t grip for long periods of time. just like regular harnesses, you can fit it with a toy and use it on yourself or a partner.

hands free toy holder:

suuuper helpful if you can’t grip at all/if you’re like me and can’t stop your hands and arms from doing as they please. can be used on yourself or a partner.

intimacy chairs:

usually used by people with paralysis but also helpful for profound muscle weakness and if you can’t hold yourself up/produce motion reliably

sleeves:

generally most useful if you have a penis, fantastic if you don’t have steady hand motion but can grip semi reliably.

mount/toy mount:

these have a ton of variety. you can get ones that are a pillow with a spot for a toy, or ones that act more as a sling for your body (and can be used with toys or partners)

and remember these are only a couple! if you are disabled and struggling to be intimate in any way, there is a tool out there that may very well help you!!!

[dykeinspaceofficial]

OP thank you for this and this list and I am so sorry I'm kinda hijacking it to put more, plus some links. I don't have any images, so I'm not going to put it under a readmore, but be wary the links are all to adult stores.

While I am personally not physically disabled, I am an ally and I am a huge nerd when it comes to sex, sexuality, and sex toys. I believe in sexual liberation and accessible sexuality for everyone, and it kills me that disabled folks of all kinds are so frequently left out of the conversation.

First, I just want to give a shoutout to Cute Little Fuckers, which is a queer, trans, and disabled-owned business selling high-quality toys with all kinds of bodies in mind. Step, the founder, started the company after they were diagnosed with a neurological condition that upended their life. The toys are a little bit on the pricier end, but while I haven't personally owned any of them, I've heard nothing but good things.

Next: if you struggle with pain during sex that is caused by deep penetration (ie your partner going to deep into you), you might want to consider the Ohnut! It's a series of silicone rings that you put around the base of the penis or toy that control how deep it can be thrust in. (The company also has other pelvic floor related products that are worth looking into.)

Onward! Regarding pillow forms and position aids!

The Liberator wedge and their other shapes are classics. But there are also other positional aids! (Fair warning: the links I am adding to the post here are mostly from Extreme Restraints (but also a handful of other adult stores), and have explicit images in their listings, so... proceed with caution. Also, I know there are AI images in the listing, but I've been purchasing from this company for the better part of a decade and I do trust them. It pisses me off, too.)

This is a thigh sling to help keep legs up and out of the way.

Here's a kinkier version with handcuffs, if you're into that.

Here is a similar padded strap you can use during doggy, put under the lower belly/hips of the person on their hands and knees.

Related to the hand harness: did you know you can get a thigh harness? (Here's one from Sportsheets, another company I love) It does exactly what's on the tin, it holds a toy to the wearer's thigh, allowing the other person to ride it or suck on it or whatever. (This can also be put around a pillow to similar effect!) If you need to be sitting upright and a normal strap-on isn't comfortable, doesn't fit right, or doesn't hold the toy the way you want, this is a great alternative.

For some reason, Lovehoney is either sold out of or is no longer selling the hands-free mount that OP has listed in her post, and I can't really find anything comparable, which sucks. The only ones I can find are specifically for Fleshlights, which is great if you use those, but it's a brand name, and an expensive one at that. THAT SAID, you can get double-sided suction cups to put on suction-cup-less toys, and then go from there. A small tray or plate you can suction cup that to will get you pretty far, tbh.

Ultimately, the toy mounts that are pillow-shaped are going to be able to do a lot of the same thing as the strapped mount. Liberator and copycat companies also usually have a pillow designed to hold strokers (Fleshlight brand or otherwise)

Okay, finally: ERGONOMIC HANDLES.

Look, thrusting a toy in and out of yourself puts you in a weird position, usually, and it isn't always comfortable to maintain. There is a solution.

Here are both suction cup and vac-u-lock compatible handles AND ACCESSORIES for toys from Silc Arts.

If the position itself isn't too bad for you to maintain, but the grip on your toy is hard to keep or you could use a little more to grip onto, here is a suction cup grip from LustArts.

And finally, here are some other links to the stuff that OP listed, should you be so inclined:

Liberator cushions

La Palma hand harness

IntimateRider chair

This isn't that exact specific sleeve, but it is close. There are a lot of options in this department though

A sex stool similar to the second to last one in OP's post, which lets you ride without putting so much pressure on your knees.

Alright, that's all I got, but I hope this is helpful to someone!

[kiddo-kitten]

Being a good sub does mean constantly breaking the scene actually. It means breaking the scene adjusting until you're comfy. It's breaking the scene with a big smile and a "You're being so hot rn". It's breaking the scene with a questioning look as you decide yes maybe the bed would be better for this. It's breaking the scene and saying "hey this position isn't comfy but it's ok for now". It's breaking the scene saying "goddamn it my jaw is giving up".

You have to let reality in or you'll be trapped in yet another trauma

[the-sensitive-sadist]

Dom red flags: a checklist for less experienced submissives

This is written mostly for inexperienced subs who are seeking doms. I would also recomend less experienced doms read as well, I could have used a lot of this advice when I first got started. If you have a lot of S&M experience, you probably won't get much from this post. Feel free to add to it if you reblog. Full checklist under the cut.

Aftercare - Always mandatory. While it will look different from different people aftercare is still an essential part of a dynamic. If a dom has a problem with aftercare, either your version of it or the concept in general 🚩🚩🚩

Safe words - Always mandatory. Safe words are essential for both doms and subs. It’s valid to use them at any time for any reason. I suggest two safewords for every dynamic. A pause word and a stop word. Yellow and Red are pretty standard in many BDSM circles and they’re fantastic for explaining the concept of each. Yellow or Pause meaning take a breath, check in, and communicate. Red or Stop meaning immediately end the scene and provide aftercare. If the sub is gagged or otherwise speech impaired, a particular noise they can annunciate like “Nuh uh," snapping your fingers, or holding onto a loud object they can drop to create a distinct noise are fantastic alternatives. No one should ever be made to feel guilty for using a safeword. If a dom has a problem with safe words, punishes their sub for using it, or doesn’t immidiately stop when the safeword is used 🚩🚩🚩

Check-ins - Recommended. In any dynamic, the dom has a responsibility to make sure their sub is comfortable with the scene as it’s being carried out. Sometimes things can get intense, and if the sub is in subspace, they may not always be able to catch when something starts to overwhelm them. To avoid negative outcomes, I suggest regular check-ins. They can be as simple as “would you like another slap, baby?” or “how does that feel?" or as in-depth as a full pause of the scene. I recomend simple check ins for short scenes (under 10 minutes) and longer water breaks and full pauses during longer scenes. Check-ins are especially important for inexperienced subs and anyone exploring a new type of play. If you think check-ins sound like a good idea, then ask for them! And if your dom refuses 🚩🚩🚩

Boundaries - Always Mandatory. You and your dom both have a responsibility to communicate your boundaries with each other. You also have the responsibility not to cross each other’s boundaries intentionally. Ever. If a dom doesn’t listen to your boundaries, repeatedly crosses them, pushes you to do things you explicitly aren't okay with, or refuses to admit that you don’t like something 🚩🚩🚩

Adapting/Taking critism - Very important. No dynamic will be perfect from the start. Expectations and desires change over time, and even the deepest of connections will evolve. This means that consistant communication and feedback during the dynamic is essential. Bdsm is not about a dom molding a sub into whatever they want. It's about exploring mutually held desires. Both a dom and a sub need to be able to tweak their approaches to each other with time, listen to critisms from each other, and continously adapt as your perceptions of the dynamic change over time. If you have a 24/7 dynamic, I would recomend a regularly scheduled pause every day to talk about the dynamic, voice any critisms, and adjust accordingly. If a dom doesn't want to adjust their approach for you, or shift things in your dynamic based on what you want and like🚩🚩🚩

Punishments - the dynamics conceptualization of punishments should always be pre-negotiated. What is the purpose of punishments? Are they meant to be fun for both parties? Does the sub even want to be punished? Does the dom want to preform punishments? What activities are both parties okay with? If a dom refuses to take all this int account, or wants to give you punishments you dissgree with despite any out-of-dynamic protests🚩🚩🚩

General tips:

Trust your gut - If a situation feels wrong, back out. If someone feels off, or if something isn’t adding up, don't do it. If your gut tells you to run, run. Most BDSM carries inherent risk, if you aren't 100% sure you're willing to accept that risk, don't do it.

Don’t compromise on your boundaries. Ever. - If you feel uncomfortable doing something don’t do it. If a fantasy or scene seems like too much, refuse. There are plenty of doms out there, ignoring your feelings for one that makes you uncomfortable is never worth it.

Talk to others in the community - Please please please for the love of god talk to other subs. Talk to doms that aren’t interested in you. Talk with your dom’s other playmates. Talk with your friends who do kink. Other members of the community are an essential resource and act as a great bullshit detector if something doesn't seem right. Provide support to each other, be as open about your dynamic/potential partners as you comfortably can be. Listen to their feedback.

Sub drop/dom drop - Drops are completely normal during kink. I’ve had them, subs I’ve been with have had them, friends who participate in kink have had them. If you do kink, you’ll probably have a drop at some point, and that’s okay. Your dom should be someone who can comfort you during a drop, the same way you would comfort them if they have one. Your dom should be someone who can make you feel safe during a drop. They should be someone who is willing to comfort you and be there for you while you feel those feelings. 

If you have questions about any of this please dm me or send me an ask.

[sadist-posting]

If you're reading this, you're on my backup where I post silly shit, reblog my mutuals, and occasionally put out horny posts that feel too low effort or intense for my main blog, which can be found here by the way.

[properplace]

Lemme just say… this “online rape academy” news is fucked up. Without consent, this shit is abuse/assault and reprehensible. I want to be clear that what I like is consensual kink and NOT THAT.

If you follow me and think that’s fine, pack your bag and leave immediately.

[dr5quirtnevergivesup]

Just to make something very important very clear:

I didn't think it necessary to be said, or rather, it was so obvious to me, that i didn't think of it, simply:

What I repost here and the rare captions I write are all part of my kinks and fantasies. Nothing of this in real life would be possible and none of the kinks i experimented with feel right and fun to me, without consent of the other person and without the other person also enjoying them as kinks.

It is unconcievable to me to dwell in anything that doesn't feel right for both and that isn't fun for both (example: i don't take pleasure in slapping a woman, it does not excite me, i find it repulsive. When i'm with a woman that tells me, that she gets excited if I slap her while having sex, also because there is trust, then her excitement turns me on and I enjoy the fact that I know she's loving it, but i still do not take pleasure in the slapping itself. I'm aware that this might be an extreme example, since it involves a somewhat violent act. And that was with an ex-girlfriend of mine. I never slapped her too hard or hurt her! I let myself be lead by her, sometimes she'd beg me to slap her harder than i did but we never even remotely reached a point where i hurt her phisically or that she had to use our safe-word. It was only because it excited her, and, i repeat it, her excitement turned me on like nothing else!).

You're basically visiting a blog run by a convinced and active male feminist, who has lots of kinks, including degradation, and who is fully aware that these are only fun and exciting, when it's just a game that all people involved enjoy.

[dirtyfatoldperv]

[OOC] Don’t be fucking gross

I appreciate people reaching out in my DMs, exploring kinks, and sending posts that turn them on. But do NOT under any circumstances send me posts of videos of unconsenting women being filmed in public. That creepy shit is NOT WELCOME around me.

[nothingiseverythng]

Hey E, I recognize you, but I bet you have no idea who I am. Seeing what a needy whore you are, maybe I should grab you and use you the next time I see you. Make some videos of you choking on cock to share around online

hi! you probably thought this sounded hot when you wrote it but it’s actually crossing so many boundaries. so instead of me ignoring you and having a panic attack, let’s talk about it and give you the attention you want!

1. no one calls me that. clearly you don’t know me well. i don’t know who you are but i can promise you i don’t want to fuck you. a stranger referencing finding me in real life and assuming you have the right to use me because you “recognize me” is not okay.

2. no amount of posting original content of me, or reposting other people, sexual or not, ever gives you the right to “grab me and use me.” i don’t care if a post says rape. none of it gives you permission to find me in real life without my consent and assault me.

3. if you do somehow see me, and try to grab me and do what you say, unfortunately for you i’ve had enough threats to my safety to take it very seriously and i won’t hesitate to make you get the fuck away from me. sincerely.

4. oh! and saying you’d record yourself forcing me to do something that i never asked YOU for is super cringe too! there’s actually a whole separate charge for sharing sex videos on the internet without the filmed person’s consent and i’d be happy to press charges.

5. i don’t care if you were “just kidding,” or if saying this shit is just your way of getting off. you brought up real life so i’m responding as if you actually intend to seek me out. cute how you hid behind an anon ask so i can’t block you. stay away from me. block me. never speak to me again.

[longmoose03]

Hey guys just a reminder that behavior like this is deeply inexcusable and unconscionable. CNC is a fantasy, if you take it to reality without consent, that is just sexual assault, it is no longer a kink.

[chubby-baby-deactivated20220630]

Reminder

18+ means 18+, not “I’m 14 but I don’t get offended by your posts” or “I’m 16 but I’m mature for my age”

// If you’re a minor, get off my page, this isn’t for you //

[please-let-me-be-horny-for-real]

As someone who used to be a minor lying about their age to interact with adults, I can safely say that it is a deep regret of mine.

It ruined my perspective on sex and got me deeply entrenched into habits and kinks that are unhealthy for a teenage relationship.

18+ isn’t an exclusion. It’s protection. Not just from developing a harmful and dangerous series on habits, but also from people who can and WILL take advantage of you.

Stay out of spaces you aren’t old enough to be in. There are monsters lurking in these spaces that are waiting to prey on you. And they’re much better at lying than you are.

[faeboypussy]

Bit of advice to anyone who is new to kink or even just sex: assume "no", "stop", "too much", "wait" etc are safewords unless you specifically negotiate otherwise.

You can play with "no no it's too much stop" type stuff being banter or dirty talk or whatever, but you shouldn't assume they are. Yes even if you set a safeword and you or the other person isn't using it.

Also: getting quiet or not very responsive is a reason to check in. Someone not being able to give you a clear "yes I'm having fun let's keep going" or seeming a bit off is a reason to stop when you do check in, especially when they're a new partner.. You can't just assume things are fine bc they haven't said the safeword.

Safewords should be extra measures to ensure ongoing consent, not the only measure.

[certifiedsexed]

Certified Sex ED Post!

[sadist-posting]

Btw if you've never done kink before or have limited experience and you want to start it's a good idea to start out as slowly as possible. These things are exciting and fun but diving in too quickly can lead to negative experiences, especially if you're engaging with someone who doesn't have much experience on their own.

Don't do anything unless you're certain you feel entirely comfortable with it.

[the-sensitive-sadist]

Also, if you're sexually inexperienced in general, it's a good idea to attain experience gradually over time before you jump into anything with kink. You wouldn't learn calc before learning division. You wouldn't even learn them at the same time. Kink should be a gradual journey not a dive into the deep end.

All of this is doubly true if you're young. ESPECIALLY if you're a sub leaning person under the age of twenty-one and you're getting attention from people who are four-plus years older than you. I hate to break it to you but being a younger adult in kink spaces can be dangerous, and lots of bad actors and abusers will want to take advantage of your inexperience. Please don't let anyone tell you that you're "mature for your age" there's no such thing.

[the-sensitive-sadist]

One thing that's really important in kink is the ability to separate your dynamic from your relationship. You can't fall into the trap of thinking they're one and the same, and you shouldn't sacrifice your relationship in an attempt to prolong a dynamic. It doesn't matter if you're friends or in a relationship, your kinky play is a way to enjoy yourself and connect with each other. It doesn't define who you are, or how you treat people when you aren't playing that role. You also shouldn't view your relationships in the context of your dynamics, and should instead remember that no matter how your dynamic looks, you are still fundamentally normal people who deserve an equal amount of deference and respect.

[still-trying-to-be-horny]

Head pats and gentle reminders that the ugly things I say during sex aren't real and that I actually care greatly about your comfort and respect.

Reaffirm the reality after enjoying the fantasy.

[flutterbvnny]

heeeyy so i don’t actually support real life rape or incest we r all playing pretend none of it is real . thats why i have warnings in my pinned etc etc

[longmoose03]

Rape is horrific. Cnc is not rape. If you can’t tell the difference block me. Also do not contact me about wanting me to rape your wife, that is not CNC.

[properplace]

Seriously though:

Actual misogynists and sexists are far too stupid and dull to be interesting or sexy. Their words are tasteless, clumsy and primitive.

You need to completely understand the concepts of feminism, equity, oppression and advocacy in order to use them as effective tools of arousal and sexual subjugation.

[seducing-consent-deactivated202]

Obligatory wholesome palate cleanser for the day:

I love this post.

The thing that makes any kink sexy is the subversive twisting of an idea back onto itself. You can’t do this if you don’t have compassion and a thorough understanding for an idea and you’re never going to be sexy no matter how hard you try.

[snuffedsuccubus]

be nicer to sex workers

[snuffedsuccubus]

u need to engage with sex workers as actual workers of the same class as u and not victims who need saving. u need to show respect for us publicly further than just reblogging our promos and posts abt giving us money. u need to publicly support full service workers. u need to not expose sex workers to ur puritanical, reactionary followers. u need to be nicer to sex workers.