My Stuff

The internet , from the beginning, has always been the salvation to discovering my kinky sexual wiring. I'm a submissive male in my 50's and I was sure that by now, my kinks would have waned. Discovering my kinky likes over the years has been an eye opening experience, however I've always had a fetish for shoes which will certainly be reflected by what you see here. These are some of my favourite things...

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f'ing beautiful!

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yes

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I'm not sure I've reblogged this before, but if I have I'm going to post it again. It takes a special kind of understanding for two people like this to be on the same plane.  The connection they appear to have is amazing. It's interesting how many of us go through life feeling so different, some even pretending to be vanilla for a very long time, embarrassed to reveal what truly makes them happy. The utopia that these two seem to have found, is amazing, and I wish everyone like us would find the same path eventually in their lives.

The expression of love in any compatible form, is wonderful.

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The right person can release one’s fears and desires

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~The most desired gift of love is not diamonds, roses or chocolate…It is of focused attention~

Richard Warren

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“Conversation, like certain portions of the anatomy, always runs more smoothly when lubricated.” ~ Marquis de Sade

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Why do I love this crap so much?

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50 Shades Factor

It was probably about 15 years since I've been to a lifestyle event so I thought I would strike out and reconnect with my local community.  I'm fortunate to live in a place where the D/s community is alive and well.

I recently attended a munch and remembered the gatherings were usually 30 or 40 people, many who were looking to find like-minded people to relate to, because they knew their sexuality was different.

What I found when I returned to this community, was a gathering of about 150 people.  A handful of them I remembered from days gone by.  The unfamiliar faces I tried to get a feel for, but couldn't quite tell which side of the D/s fence they fell on.  When I inquired to the old crowd, about who was who they told me that things have changed since the "old days".

Apparently since 50 Shades went viral, many vanilla-types were now coming out to munches, trying BDSM on for size.  I was told that many of them identified as switches, a lot of them were spill overs from the swinging crowd.

I have mixed feelings about this.  BDSM isn't for me or anyone else to define.  How you fit it into your own life is personal and nobody's business but your own.  It's exciting to see so many people discovering D/s and having fun with it.

On the other hand, I've always known I was different, that my sexuality was wired a particular way.  I knew I wasn't vanilla from a very young age.  Much like a homosexual might discover their own sexuality and struggle with it, perhaps push it away, and eventually "coming out", I've identified with these same feelings.

Finding a group of people who also feel their sexual wiring is different was a revelation for me.  Identifying and meeting with these people was instrumental in helping me accept my own struggles with sexuality.

But as I stood in a room of 150 new faces, I knew that I was an extreme minority.  In fact over the 3 hours I was there shaking hands with people, I didn't meet a single other male submissive.

BDSM isn't for me to define, I get that.  But why does finding others just like me have to be so difficult?

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Hush now.

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