Does your man dominate you from the bottom, even when you have his cock locked in your cage? does it always seem like no matter what, that he is always able to still enforce his will over you? then don't skip this post!
first, don't be to hard on yourself. society tells us we're supposed to be small and weak and submissive. plus, up until this point, your relationship has probably reflected this. so when you and your husband start down this path where you are supposed to dominate him, it can be really hard for both of you! remember that society tells him that he's supposed to be dominant and strong. so it will take time and effort to flip this script for both of you.
if anyone looked at my husband and i, they would never guess in a million years that i keep his cock in a pretty pink cage, deny, tease, peg, and emasculate him in the bedroom. but i think that is part of the fun and excitement.
so let's see how you're doing... you've got his cock locked in a cage! congratulations! you're half way there! next step is locking his MIND in a cage. this could take months so prepare for the next several months to be this way. the only way to do this is being strong and consistent! first, make a rule that he is NEVER allowed to initiate sex nor ask for release. next,
for those struggling to overcome this hurdle, i suggest a strategy of shock and awww... what does this mean? essentially, you're both going to literally flip rolls. shock him by making him the bitch in the relationship and awww him by making him the pretty and small one. you should dress for the job you want! so what does that mean? if you want to be dominant, then you should dress dominant and if he is meant to be submissive, then darling, he should dress submissive. Embrace some stereotypes and use them to your advantage! of course, YOU should wear whatever makes YOU comfortable and confident. this could be more stereotypical dominate clothes like leather and latex but you could do what i do and continue to dress like i normally did (my own lingerie, naked, regular clothes even).
next time you're husband tries to dominate you, stop him in his tracks. tell him to stop! remind him that you're in charge and that you're going to have to show him. either find some of your lingerie that he could fit into or buy some that is his size and command him to go get dressed in it! tell him that he's your bitch and not only is he going to start acting like it but he is going to start dressing like it! making your husband dress in slutty clothes for sex will really provide a shocking reset to his mindset. it'll be impossible for him to dominate you when he is literally dressed like your bitch.
so be strong and command him to do it, but don't forget the key to caging his mind is not only being strong but being CONSISTENT. make a second rule and tell him that when you tell him that you want to have sex, he will be required to get dressed for sex. tell him that he has to do this without you reminding him. if he fails to do it, then it'll be your job to be consistent and remind him and to enforce this rule.
your goal is to get to a point where he never asks or harasses you for sex. he will wait to be told that YOU want to have sex. when you tell him, he should be to the point where he stops what he is doing and he goes to get ready in one of his slutty outfits. you can either buy him his outfits or make him buy his own to keep things spicy.
so what will sex actually look like with this strategy? well, at some point you're going to tell him that you want to have sex. he'll then go get ready automatically. he'll then present himself to you dressed as your little slutty bitch. you'll then tell him what to do... either you'll command him to go down on you, you could command him to bend over and await your strapon, or if you want to be penetrated then you could command him to wear the strapon and fuck you. really anything you want except for unlocking him. remind him that he's your bitch, and bitches don't have cocks of their own... one funny thing you could do is after he has gotten all dolled up, just tell him never mind and tell him to come cuddle you for bed time (how frustrating for him!).
after a few months of this, sex from this point can be whatever you want. he can go down on you and give you orgasms with his tongue, he can use toys on you, he can wear a strapon to fuck you for some PIV fun when you're in the mood for it, you can and should peg him! anyway you want to do it, but i would suggest that for the first several months of this that he never be unlocked. unlocking him will be too confusing and it will ruin the consistency of him being your bitch! after several months and after you've successfully caged his mind with this strategy, you can unlock him for PIV sex if you'd like but he should remember that his standard way of sex is still getting pretty and being your slut unless you direct him otherwise.
