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!!HIIIII IM AXEL!! Look at my intro post!! Come ask me stuff :3 (pfp made by @monsucat)

[sugary-spider]

♡*♡∞:｡.𝐼𝑁𝑇𝑅𝑂..𝑃𝑂𝑆𝑇 ｡.｡:∞♡*♡

If you're new or just wanting to check this out:

I usually use this blog and platform to draw bugsnax, usually my ocs or my friends :3

MORE INFO DOWN HERE ☟

I'm Axel! I'm a minor (17 yrs), and I use they/web but people usually refer to me as They/them (which I'm 100% fine with!! Whatever is easier for you to refer me as <3) I'm also mexican-american! I'm Tejano (im Texan. Basically) for more wider broadness or something.. So if I say y'all too much my bad y'all 💔

I LOVEEE chatting and talking to ppl, just I'm usually awakard at trying to befriend ppl as well as having zero knowledge of social stuff (but I'm learning!)

My DMS are extremely and always welcome to anybody, I love having bugsnax mooties and I deeply apologize if I randomly disappear out of thin air, the reasons for this is probably cause I ran out of what to talk abt or just genuinely don't wanna be a bother! Especially coming from someone who on multiple occasions have had extremely bad experiences not just here, but on other platforms 💔

My Art trades and commissions : OPEN

ASKS : OPEN

[sugary-spider]

Uhmm.. Here's more stuff of my journalist while I make their ref..

Y'all should.. Totally ask me questions about my journalists since their probably the oldest journalist ever.. ( They're literally. Around sheldas age 💔)

[sugary-spider]

I remade it since they got remade and etc etc whatever oc.. Sona.. Whatever creature yume thing :3

[sugary-spider]

Uhmm.. Here's more stuff of my journalist while I make their ref..

Y'all should.. Totally ask me questions about my journalists since their probably the oldest journalist ever.. ( They're literally. Around sheldas age 💔)

[sugary-spider]

I remade it since they got remade and etc etc whatever oc.. Sona.. Whatever creature yume thing :3

[astronomergrump]

Oh to miss his light while he's trapped in darkness

[dawnsnax]

what's something about your f/o not a lot of people talk about?

how underrated lizbert is lol

but seriously tho, i do think she’s a character that deserves attention (same with other under appreciated characters in bugsnax ofc),

and im kinda annoyed that we don’t get more content of her or any specific details (like maybe written personal journal pages or videos) about her personally or anything that would make other care about her as a character, compared to others.

the only content we do get in the game is in the beginning, video diaries, any mentions of her in dialogue and interviews (+ opinions on how other grumpuses feel about her) and the ending

(and besides the video diaries usually includes other characters, not really lizbert herself)

and she should’ve gotten a lot more attention in the game. she’s my underrated queen fr

[dawnsnax]

gonna be doing art fight this year

kinda nervous and excited idfk 😭

[sugary-spider]

YEAHHHHH

I HOPE YOU HAVE FUN IF IT'S UR FIRST YEAR!!!!

[lgbtqiatext]

[sugary-spider]

Hi yes this is totally my normal oc and not something I use to self/yumeship with alegander...

[sugary-spider]

The stupid chud journalist who's their kid....

Nepo baby having ass

[sugary-spider]

Hi yes this is totally my normal oc and not something I use to self/yumeship with alegander...

[sugary-spider]

Angels get shot and hunted down when people make Alegander nonchalant and evil. Please he's such a fake idgafer PLEASE HEAR ME OUT PLEASE

[sugary-spider]

Foaming at the mouth I NEED to make my own alegander hc design so fucking fast. I wanna be the person to rlly like alegander an insane amount outside of discord (my oofmies who know know) GGUUAAGGHH FOAMING AND KICKING AND SCREAMING

[scribefindegil]

I was in a long-term relationship that fell apart partially because I was ace and my partner was very much not, and every time we looked for relationship help we got told that I was the problem. Not just that a significant mismatch in sexual desire could be a problem in a relationship, but that it was My Fault, Specifically, for not being willing to suck it up and have a bunch of sex I didn't want. To my ex's credit, he cared about consent much more than any of the professionals we talked to and refused to pressure me even when my (lesbian, billed as progressive and pro-LGBT) therapist was actively telling him to.

But it meant that we had absolutely no help or support when we were trying to work on the relationship in ways that *did* value my autonomy. There's basically no advice for people who want to try to make a relationship where there's a big desire gap work that isn't "well you should just have sex anyway" or "just break up lol". And that sucks!

Sometimes breaking up is necessary, and that's what ended up happening with us because there were other reasons we worked better as friends, but there *should* be better frameworks for discussing what people want and need that don't automatically assume that one partner's feelings are automatically more important or valuable than the other's.

[geese-in-flight]

I was dating someone who wanted to be accommodating and work with me to figure things out but lacked the EQ to do so in any effective way. It was my first relationship and I was still figuring out what being ace meant for me. It’s been eight or nine years, but I still remember very clearly the moment I realized we’d been approaching the entire discussion as if my orientation was the problem to be solved, and that it would be equally as valid to say that hers was.

She was significantly less impressed with this revelation than I was, but I tried to hold on to it ever since (although obviously the real problem wasn’t either one of us, but the mismatch and the lack of tools to deal with it). I think it’s super important to remember that we aren’t the ones in the wrong while our theoretical partners are the ones in the right. I was surprised by how much I’d internalized the assumption and I don’t think I’m the only one.

[ineffectualdemon]

The other frustrating aspect of this is allo relationships will often have periods of time where libido does not match (I'm not derailing and this will swing back to asexual people)

Just after giving birth, during a family crisis, during a mental health episode, during health problems, during stressful periods at work

There are a lot of times when one person is horned up and raring to go and the other has no interest

And the solution often presented is that the person who is going through something should just put out because they are the problem instead of like...finding ways to engage in non sexual intimacy to reaffirm closeness

An asexual person is going to get 10x the amount of pressure and blame put on them and no advice on how non-sexual intimacy can help their relationships and if they get that at all it will only be to sell it as a bridge to sex they don't want.

I really hate the selling of intimacy as only equaling or facilitating sex. Intimacy comes in many forms and should be explored more by every couple as a non sexual act. And it the given importance it deserves. In fact I would argue if we as a society put more value on non sexual intimacy more relationships would be happier and healthier

And asexual people would stop getting shit for being themselves.

[the-haiku-bot]

And asexual

people would stop getting shit

for being themselves.

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[soggyworndownboots]

super small snippet of my second queen redesign.

[znackbug]

[shymagnolia]

so I got into grad school today with my shitty 2.8 gpa and the moral of the story is reblog those good luck posts for the love of god

[shymagnolia]

okay so i just got my dream job??? a week after applying to it?? and now i’m thinking….maybe this is the good luck post

[flagellant]

…..not even six hours later i got an offer of a well paying full time long-term job with free room and board in queens in nyc, allowing me independence and a way to escape an abusive situation and an unhealthy environment

likes charge reblogs cast, folks, this is the good luck post

[coffee-or-hot-cocoa]

i need all the help i can get for finals

[finnglas]

Hey so

the last time I reblogged this post right before I got a great job, in a permanent work-from-home position, with benefits, retirement, and a salary literally 3x what I was making before, doing something I really like. 

So you know. 

This might be the real one, y’all.

[avhira]

I could use some luck

[sugary-spider]

Cronnie Face is real and she is the moment !!

OOMF is very dear to me and spreaded this propaganda onto me like two days ago or sum..

[doomedpuppetyuri]

only in the [redacted] fandom can you say perfectly calmly "hey my friend sharing their blorbo headcanon and you going "well as the #1 Blorbo fan i don't know how to feel about this" is kind of rude" and be met with the genuine response of "please don't hurt me"

[sugary-spider]

Dude I almost shat myself thinking everyone was genuinely fighting tooth n' nail about this only for y'all to be speaking/texting so calmly to them 💔